My opinion is that wives don't submit themselves to their husbands and husbands don't loves their wives as they love themselves.
Ephesians 5:22-33 "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
Oh, wow Parker, you're BRAVE to make this statement! It isn't exactly the most popular Biblical message out there. (Though I believe you are right, at least in part.)
Having the right relationship - as in a Biblical one where the husband and wife each work to fulfill the roles God intended for them - is a key part of keeping a marriage intact for the long haul. But I believe the ever increasing divorce rate has its roots in a number of things. This is a topic that I've spent a lot of years trying to figure out. I come from a family that was far too familiar with divorce. Just for giggles: my maternal grandmother married at 18, had 2 children, divorced and married again, had 2 more children, divorced and REMARRIED her first husband. They stayed together until he died, after which she married a final time. My mother and father were both married and divorced before they met and married each other. And they were separated with my mom ready for divorce when she died. My sister was married 4 times and that doesn't include the boyfriends in-between the husbands. My other sister only had 1 husband, but they divorced and there have been some boyfriends since. So you see, it's a problem I am VERY familiar with.
Now to myself & my husband. You could read my testimony if you wanted the whole story, but suffice it to say that we met when neither of us were looking for a spouse. I was 16 when he proposed. There were a lot of people out there who said it was crazy, that I was too young. We have been living under the same roof for 21 years now. We are very close, deeply in love, and would rather spend our time with each other than with anyone else. I have been told often (by some family members) that I am lucky because I got "a good one." While I agree that my husband is indeed what is generally considered to be a good catch, I do not give the credit for the ongoing success of our marriage to luck. I don't believe luck exists. God alone deserves to be credited. Because He brought us together under the most unlikely of circumstances. He has kept us together through more than a few rough spots. My ultimate point is, that if God isn't in it, it cannot hope to endure.
People get married on a whim, or because they're scared of being alone, or because its what they are "expected" to do. They speak those vows without truly meaning them. "till death do us part" is only the last vow they break. I've seen so many marriages fail because neither spouse is willing to swallow their pride, even just a little, so that a small, silly thing escalates to "irreconcilable differences." People get married without paying the slightest heed to "the two shall become one" bit of Bible wisdom. They get married, but still want to live separate lives. They want to put their mommies or daddies or best friends before their spouses. The ONLY Person who should come before your spouse is God Himself. Everyone else - including children - comes second. It's a shame so few people, including Christians, base their marriages on the world's model when the One who invented the whole idea laid out a plan for how it should work.
I know my husband was a gift from God. Maybe if a few more people would allow God to find their spouses for them instead of rushing into a marriage with little concern or appreciation for the fact that it is supposed to be a LIFETIME commitment the divorce rate would fall sharply. But that's our nature, isn't it? We always seem to want to "help" God along and that ALWAYS leads to trouble whether in marriage or any other part of life!