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Solving the Crisis in Homeschooling
Exposing the 7 major blind spots of homeschoolers
by Reb Bradley
In the last couple of years, I have heard from multitudes of troubled home school parents around the country, a good many of whom were leaders. These parents have graduated their first batch of kids, only to discover that their children didn't turn out the way they thought they would. Many of these children were model homeschoolers while growing up, but sometime after their 18th birthday they began to reveal that they didn’t hold to their parents’ values.
Some of these young people grew up and left home in defiance of their parents. Others got married against their parents' wishes, and still others got involved with drugs, alcohol, and immorality. I have even heard of several exemplary young men who no longer even believe in God. My own adult children have gone through struggles I never guessed they would have faced.
Most of these parents remain stunned by their children’s choices, because they were fully confident their approach to parenting was going to prevent any such rebellion. Some were especially confident, because as teens these kids were only obedient. Needless to say, the dreams of these home school parents have crashed, and many other parents want to know what they can do to prevent their own children from following the same course.
After several years of examining what went wrong in our own home and in the homes of so many conscientious parents, God has opened our eyes to a number of critical blind spots common to homeschoolers and other family-minded people. Bev and I still stand behind what we have taught on parenting in the past. However, we urgently add to it the following insights.
1. Self-centered dreams
2. Family as an idol
3. Emphasis on outward form
4. Tendency to judge
5. Over-dependence on authority and control
6. Over-reliance upon sheltering
7. Formulaic parenting breaks down relationship
Children as people
Breakdown of relationship
Influencing the heart
Turning hearts of children to parents
Originally found here on Josh Harris’s (author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye) blog: http://www.joshharri..._blindspots.php
Read more: http://www.familymin...m/HS_Crisis.htm