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Posted 15 January 2013 - 06:03 PM
Nearly five years ago we had new neighbours move in upstairs, so this has been gnawing away at me about a month after they moved in. They have put me through so much with their noise, noise and yet more noise. I could go on and on but it would take too long.
Now I am left with nothing but sheer hatred for them. I cannot stand the sight, sound or even thinking about them. I am consumed with hatred. I have never felt this way towards anybody ever the way I feel towards these people. I have tried so hard to just put them out of my mind but as soon as I hear or see them all those feelings come flooding back. I have tried giving it to God but yet I still feel the hatred towards them.
Surely being a Christian I am not supposed to have these feelings, I am supposed to love people but how can I love them, I can't. Ive tried to forgive but I can't. I know now that it is affecting my walk with God because of these hateful feelings.
Because Jesus tells us to love one another what if He says that He never knew me, for being this way. What if He shuns me. I am just finding it so hard because I know it isnt a Christian way too react but it is so so difficult.
Thankyou for reading this and any help would be much appreciated
Posted 16 January 2013 - 03:30 PM
Edited by Parker1, 16 January 2013 - 03:32 PM.
Posted 17 January 2013 - 04:04 PM
(I have been going through some of the same things but without the neighbors...Thank you, Elaine because truly I needed this scripture at this time...Thank you, Brother Mike so much!!!)
Also Elaine, I'm praying this verse for both of us and anybody else that needs it: Psalm 27:13-14...I would have lost heart, unless I had believed That I would see the goodness of the Lord In the land of the living, (14) Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!
My my...Just what I needed today!!!
Loving you In Him, Kathy
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Posted 20 January 2013 - 06:39 PM
@ Parker1............This is what I thought as well that could it possibly be an attack from satan because I cannot remember ever having such strong feelings about anybody else that I have
known before. I really do hate the sight, sound even the very presence of them anywhere near me. It also made me wonder if because I feel this way that could it be
satan is taking advantage of the situation by bringing out the bad side of me. I know that is what I am going to have to do, ask God to stay close by me because the
feelings are constant. The only time I feel a bit of a reprieve is when they are out only to feel drawn backwards again when they return home. Oh why can't they just
@Brother Mike.....Thankyou so much Brother Mike for those words, they have helped me. So unless I am going to operate in love I cannot really expect God to do anything about this.
How good it is to read that your friend got the peace that he wanted in the end. I will admit though that it is going to be very hard to pray for this lot but I have to do it.
Could I ask one more question please, what if when I am praying for them I don't feel like I mean it inside my heart? What if my words are just lip service and I still feel
the hatred deep down? This is very deep rooted now. Thankyou again
@NeedYouLord...What lovely words Kathy, thankyou for that and thankyou also for your prayers. I am glad that you got some help from my post
@2Joyful..............Yes they live upstairs and I live below them. We have lived in this property since 1985 and them for 5 years. We have been through the procedures of mediation with
local authority and having to keep regular logs of noise abuse. I don't want them as friends to be honest with you, I just want them to be respecful in their actions. I
loved the bit about your cookies though
fantastic...........Thankyou chloe for your prayers, very much appreciated
@enoob57...........I think you are right there Steven, roll on nicer neighbours please
Posted 21 January 2013 - 07:39 AM
I'm sure that the enemy has used this situation to sow the seed of hatred into your heart. However, you are fighting back! Good!!!
How have they reacted when you've confronted them face to face? It might give you as to the next step to take spiritually/physically as you deal with it all.
Our weapons are not carnal for a reason:
2 Corinthians 10:4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds.
Those strongholds are spiritual. Do the work in prayer and you'll see the difference in the physical. Maybe not straight away, but the effects will be far more lasting than anything we can do in our own strength.
Hope this helps, let us know how things go!
God bless you
Posted 21 January 2013 - 05:05 PM
When we do pass each other which unfortunately is hard to avoid living in flats we both ignore each other. On one occasion when he spat outside our door twice I did lose my temper completely, I was raging.
It is the only thing that I can do now and that is to give it to God because I cannot do this alone anymore.
I will keep you informed on how things are going as well
Posted 22 January 2013 - 04:37 AM
Edited by *Zion*, 20 February 2013 - 02:21 PM.
Posted 19 February 2013 - 09:27 AM
Sorry this has been such a difficult situation. I lived with a roomate for two years who was a family friend. By the end of our time together we were no longer friends. It seems like sometimes people you are around a lot learn what you don't like and some even want to make our lives difficult. It is really hard too to love the ulovable. Best thing I did was move out and get a different place. My old roomate and I are friends again.
Praying for God's wisdom and strength for you.
But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
1 John 4:4
You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the One who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.
God bless you!
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Posted 17 March 2013 - 10:57 AM
We have been advised in Ephesians 4:26-27 the following: "“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil." Have you tried discussing this with them? Five years you have ignored approaching them, if you have not. Perhaps, try informing them of the noise problem, and if that does not solve the problem, try speaking to your landlord. Some good conflict resolution techniques would help resolve this.
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Posted 03 July 2013 - 05:05 PM
I know this post is a bit late, I hope things are better for you now? i think the best thing to do is move away for sure. Some people that are neighbors just do not care about others around them, which makes it a unpleasant experience for sure. They sow seeds of rudeness and will only reap what they sow.