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But some folks have this thought -


Men cannot live without a woman, but women can function quite well in life without a man. ( I have witnessed this time and again).


Woman is the "helpmeet" for man - man needs help.


Also, a woman can have clear boundaries when it comes to men as just friends, whereas it's harder for men to have a platonic male/female friendship as they always have the "hope" it will develop into romance.......

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What do you think?

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But some folks have this thought -


Men cannot live without a woman, but women can function quite well in life without a man. ( I have witnessed this time and again).


Woman is the "helpmeet" for man - man needs help.


Also, a woman can have clear boundaries when it comes to men as just friends, whereas it's harder for men to have a platonic male/female friendship as they always have the "hope" it will develop into romance.......

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What do you think?

I think that their are alot of men who can live quite well without a female in their life.I have had many men friends who know their boundaries quite well.I like to have men for friends.That is it just friends.



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But some folks have this thought -


Men cannot live without a woman, but women can function quite well in life without a man. ( I have witnessed this time and again).


Woman is the "helpmeet" for man - man needs help.


Also, a woman can have clear boundaries when it comes to men as just friends, whereas it's harder for men to have a platonic male/female friendship as they always have the "hope" it will develop into romance.......

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What do you think?

 

 

Ehhh...yes and no. I do agree that it is indeed easier for women to function in life without men than it is for men to do so without women. However, I don't think it applies to as many women as you might imagine. And this is nothing to be ashamed of as men and women were created for each other, lol. 



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Hi Wapoh,

Can you expand on why you think it's easier for women to function in life without men?

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I lived quite well without a woman for some time. I thoroughly enjoyed being single, just as much as I enjoy being married. I think it varies, from person to person. I have seen both men and woman who literally, cannot function without a mate-and others, of both genders, whod just as soon be single. I think to single one gender out and say they can function without the other is unfair-but perhaps just a bit sexist.

 

for the record, I have many women that are just platonic friends-always have. in high school, I think i actually had more female friends then male.



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I lived quite well without a woman for some time. I thoroughly enjoyed being single, just as much as I enjoy being married. I think it varies, from person to person. I have seen both men and woman who literally, cannot function without a mate-and others, of both genders, whod just as soon be single. I think to single one gender out and say they can function without the other is unfair-but perhaps just a bit sexist.

 

for the record, I have many women that are just platonic friends-always have. in high school, I think i actually had more female friends then male.

I have seen that too pat.A man or a woman who can not function without a relationship with the opposite sex.I think that is rather sad.



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I lived quite well without a woman for some time. I thoroughly enjoyed being single, just as much as I enjoy being married. I think it varies, from person to person. I have seen both men and woman who literally, cannot function without a mate-and others, of both genders, whod just as soon be single. I think to single one gender out and say they can function without the other is unfair-but perhaps just a bit sexist.

 

for the record, I have many women that are just platonic friends-always have. in high school, I think i actually had more female friends then male.

I have seen that too pat.A man or a woman who can not function without a relationship with the opposite sex.I think that is rather sad.

 

 

Some can, some can't  - but when you have Jesus as a companion, you kinda manage quite swell without.



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I lived quite well without a woman for some time. I thoroughly enjoyed being single, just as much as I enjoy being married. I think it varies, from person to person. I have seen both men and woman who literally, cannot function without a mate-and others, of both genders, whod just as soon be single. I think to single one gender out and say they can function without the other is unfair-but perhaps just a bit sexist.

 

for the record, I have many women that are just platonic friends-always have. in high school, I think i actually had more female friends then male.

I have seen that too pat.A man or a woman who can not function without a relationship with the opposite sex.I think that is rather sad.

 

 

I dont know about sad, I think a lot depends on how they handle it. Different people are just wired differently. Some are content alone some need that companionship, I dont see anything wrong either way. I have seen, those that need that companionship going about it in the wrong way-as in looking for love in all the wrong places, but I don't see that need as sad or wrong.



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Hi Wapoh,

Can you expand on why you think it's easier for women to function in life without men?

 

WillowWood makes a very good point...

 

Why? Like you, I've witnessed it over and over again with women I know who are family friends or fellow church members, and like WW said, I believe their contentment that allows them to function so well is based off of their relationship with Christ. Of course you couldn't give that explanation for every woman as not all woman are Christians, but...I do think WW has a great point. Anyway, I'm that type of woman myself. Granted, that doesn't mean I desire to function the remainder of my lifetime without a significant other, but if it never happened...I don't think my feelings will be hurt. Honestly. 

 

Again I'll say, though I do agree that it tends to be easier for women to function well without men (in a romantic sense, not friendship necessarily - we all need a friend a or two, male or female), I did say that it's not as common as you or others might think. But still, this type of theory should always be taken with a grain of salt anyway. Like the_patriot said, it varies from person to person because everyone is different. 


Edited by Шарон, 31 January 2014 - 10:38 PM.


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Ok, we've all seen examples of both sexes coping without the other.

Some are single by choice, others not so. Some cope better than others.

I have seen however, men who have become single only to find a new partner in what seems like record time.

Is it the need to fill a void or simply because men are hard wired that way - hence woman being a helpmeet for man and not the other way around.

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Ok, we've all seen examples of both sexes coping without the other.
Some are single by choice, others not so. Some cope better than others.
I have seen however, men who have become single only to find a new partner in what seems like record time.
Is it the need to fill a void or simply because men are hard wired that way - hence woman being a helpmeet for man and not the other way around.

Or perhaps it is the fact they find a partner in record time because there are millions of women out there who can't live without them and it goes both ways...

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Then there's the rebound situation ... Not good.

I do agree though that men do seem to fair better with a woman in their life.

It makes them friendlier!!


Happy is the man that has a woman who enjoys "looking after" them.

I wish there were more men like these women..:)

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Ok, we've all seen examples of both sexes coping without the other.

Some are single by choice, others not so. Some cope better than others.

I have seen however, men who have become single only to find a new partner in what seems like record time.

Is it the need to fill a void or simply because men are hard wired that way - hence woman being a helpmeet for man and not the other way around.

 

 

Well, I have an older sister who falls into this type. In fact, she's a champion at it I'm sorry to say. So women can't be excluded from doing this as well - not that you were excluding them, lol. I'm just saying. 

 

I agree that men are definitely 'wired' differently, so perhaps that has a lot to do with it when they find someone new right off the bat. 


Edited by Шарон, 01 February 2014 - 02:13 PM.


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Don't get me wrong :)

I'm not bagging out men - and I know there are exceptions to the "rule" but I am understanding men a bit better.

I am understanding ( my own lessons) not to be so judgmental of men. Of course nothing excuses bad behaviour in relationships ( goes for men and women).


But I have found that over the years, through observation AND personal experience that men are definitely hard wired differently. It's just that simple IMO.

Man needs woman.

Woman fills that need.


If a man finds another partner quickly, it doesn't necessarily mean you meant nothing, it's just that natural urge (I believe) to be whole again.

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on the other note I have seen many, many woman jump from one man to the next. To say its all on one gender I think its wholly innacurate, and actually unbiblical. Biblically, God made man and woman to be together-they both need that love and support from a relationship. sure, theres those woman that are quite happy single, but theres just as many men who are happy single. Women often need men just as much as men need woman, theyre both wired that way, many woman lie and say they dont mainly because theyve been hurt by men to many times in the past and dont want to be hurt again-but men make the exact same excuse, only many men instead of bottling it up take it out on other women. 



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Not sure if I ever said it was one gender specific :)


But it is Biblical that woman is mans helpmeet not the other way round.

Of course man and woman unions make the whole, which is precisely the order of things to allow reproduction.



I Used to be of the mindset that there was only one thing on mans mind, but I understand now that it's deeper than that - man Needs woman.

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and women needs man-needs someone to lead her. always two sides of the coin. ;)



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.....as opposed to man needing man, which in my opinion is completely physical desire.

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I don't think you are getting what I mean.




Eg: I was raised by a single dad - he did a great job, but I know he longed for a wife, which wasn't going to happen considering he had a lot if children.

His life would have been easier if he had remarried - but although he did his best, it was hard for him.


He didn't have that nurturing aspect in his life that I feel only women can fill, as it is in female makeup.

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.....as opposed to man needing man, which in my opinion is completely physical desire.

a man needing a man is a sin...not a need.






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