Been there . . . but then everyone goes through stuff like that in life sooner or later. Its not easy. Its not fun. Its not "glory-halleluiah-amen." Life straight up stinks sometimes and something from the article really stood out to me because in some things I'm still in one of those "nasty times" that frankly has gone on for years. It was this:
And Chuck said ” What am I supposed to do?”
I wanted to make sure that I didn’t fall into the Christian clichés I had heard all my life. While they may be true on some levels…these kind of statements don’t always help in times of real trouble. They come across as real impersonal.
I am sure that there are many more that could be added to the list. Again, all of these responses have their place. They are indeed true when applied correctly. Unfortunately, I have seen these used in the wrong manner and at the worst times.
- “Just pray about it…”
- “I’m praying for you…”
- “You just need to ask for forgiveness…”
- “You have un-confessed sin in your life…”
- “I feel sorry for you…”
- “Jesus loves you…”
- “You’re running away from God…”
Not only do the "clichés" sound impersonal, but they can seem like a slap in the face to the one on the receiving end. It can sound, depending on just how nasty a mood you may be in at the time, like the person just doesn't care. Yeah, it can sound like, "Glad I'm not you." Sometimes we just need to vent and give voice to that frustration, confusion, or whatever. Take some time to just listen . . . then speak only if led by the Spirit to do so and it doesn't involve any of the "clichés".