I am 27 and have attended the same small church my whole life but I have really struggled recently with our pastor. He has been at our church for roughly 4 years and I have had questions about him from the beginning. Some strong Christians in our church have left because there have been some issues with him, mainly questions regarding his resume, the fact that he has been married and divorced twice, and that for a few months he was pulling sermons straight from the internet, reading them almost verbatim, and not crediting anyone. I know we all have short comings and I have spoken with him regarding some of these issues and done my best to give him grace and move past them. Lately, however, there have been further issues that are more difficult to address.
Last year, he went on a retreat and was supposed to be there for 4 days. However, he left on the first day and went to visit his children (whom he rarely sees). I have no problem with this if he informed anyone of his change of plans, but he did not let anyone at the church know until the treasurer was calculating his receipts and realized the location of the hotel he was in was in a different state. He was confronted about this and told the truth but he did not see how he had done anything wrong (and he still expected the church to pay for the entire trip, which did not happen).
Also, a couple of years ago, he asked me if I was interested in a girl who was new to the congregation. He knew full well I had been dating another girl for sometime (we are engaged now) and needless to say since then my fiance has not really liked him. The girl who he tried to set me up with is now married to him.
Most recently, he has called me out in front of other members of the church for disrespecting him. When I asked what he meant, he referred to a joke I made (honestly, it was a harmless joke) and when I requested that we further discuss it alone, he did not want to. I apologized if I had offended him but he did not seem to care.
I have been in prayer about the whole situation and I feel it would be best for my fiance and myself to leave, but I love so many people in the church it is difficult.
Has anyone else been through a situation like this? Any advice?