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Sometimes I Feel Like Giving Up

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Dawn1974

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Sometimes I feel like giving up and throwing in the towel. It seems like nothing is going right at the daycare where I work.

 

As well as me still struggling with loniness. I feel like I am slowly but surly slipping back into depression.



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Isaiah 41:10

10 Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness

 

Praying for Dawn . 



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Dawn, it sounds to me like you are depressed, not like you are slipping into depression.  I would suggest you focus on what is going right as opposed to what is going wrong.  What is going right is you have a job, and if I am not mistaken, that was an answer to prayer.  I am not going to make light of your being lonely.  At the same time, there are worse places you could be, like being in an abusive marriage.  You have the Lord, so you are never really alone.  You do have places you can go for fellowship, like Worthy Boards.  I don't know if you have a local church family, but if you have a church you like, that is a blessing.  Try giving thanks for the good, and stop focusing on the bad and see if that helps. 

 

I used to struggle with depression a lot too Dawn, so I understand how bad that can be.  I know from personal experience that I would tend to focus on negative things all the time, and make my condition worse.  The more down I was, the more I would listen to sad songs, and wallow in self pity.  I am not saying you are doing that.  I am telling you what I did.  Someone told me that I was choosing to be depressed, and after giving it some thought, I realized there was a lot of truth to that.  There were things going on in my life that were bad, but everyone has troubles they have to deal with, and mine were no worse than the next person.  I was better off than many.  Try looking at the good things, and don't feel bad if you remain depressed.  I am by no means judging you.  I just want you to feel better, and I would bet there is a lot of good in your life as well as the bad. 



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God has a purpose for your pain,a reason for your struggles and a reward for your faithfulness.

 

Don't give up!!



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Dawn1974........ Well at least you have not thrown in the towel yet.  As Butero mentioned, he was choosing to be depressed.  And since you have to physically throw in the towel, that too is a choice.  You may be slowly slipping but not surely.  Since you have been in the depression stage previously you know that that is not your comfort zone.  Thank you for identifying your issue and trusting us here in Worthy to listen.  We will all remind you of the path that will give you the most wisdom.....Jesus.             GBU



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I've wanted to give up as well when I had excruciating chronic head pain.  The only thing that got me through it was utter reliance on God's grace through His Son, Jesus Christ.

Prayer to God to endure.   



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Beloved

 

Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:

 

But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ's sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.

 

If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified. 1 Peter 4:12-14

 

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Sometimes I feel like giving up and throwing in the towel.
 
It seems like nothing is going right at the daycare where I work.

As well as me still struggling with loneliness.
 
I feel like I am slowly but surly slipping back into depression.

 

Praying~!

 

And in that day ye shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you.

 

Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full. John 16:23-24

 

~

 

I've wanted to give up as well when I had excruciating chronic head pain.  

 

The only thing that got me through it was utter reliance on God's grace through His Son, Jesus Christ.

 

Pray to God to endure.   

 

:thumbsup:

 

Hallelujah~!

 

Praying~!



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Thank you all for listening to me. As well as praying for me. This what I really needs during these times.



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Sometimes I feel like giving up and throwing in the towel. It seems like nothing is going right at the daycare where I work.

 

As well as me still struggling with loniness. I feel like I am slowly but surly slipping back into depression.


sometimes the creek drys up. What helps me when I get in a spot like you are describing ( and I have been there quite a few times) what helps is to focus on what I do have. I am redeemed. I am living eternally already. I have a friend that will never leave me nor forsake me. And on and on. Ussually when we get like this its because we are looking at the wrong thing. We are looking at our problems. What happened when the disciples was in the boat and came walking on the water. Jesus called to one of the disciples to come out on the water with him... and as long as the disciple looked at Jesus he stayed up but when he looked away he sank, and even still Jesus was there to keep him up. So we fix our eyes not on things that are seen but on what is unseen. Know that God knows all your thought, troubles and has never left your side. i have learned that how we feel is a choice i can sulk or have a pity party or i can rejoice because peace and joy is accessable. The bible tells us some times life will get rough. Whats important is you praise Him thru the good ti, es and the bad. Its like mountian tops and valleys. We all love being on top of the mountian. But the secret is this... only in the valleys is it green, only in the valleys does it grow, which is where we grow. So embrace your valley because the book of genisis tells us God made dry land which means He put them mountians and valleys exactly where He wantex them. This is true in our lives as well. Embrace your valley and just keep in mind God still loves you and He has a plan thru it all.

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I was thinking about what you said in this thread, and your earlier ones.  I know you have had issues with co-workers, but let me ask you something.  If your co-workers got along with you, would you like your job?  I could be way off here, but it comes across to me like you may just not like your job, and nothing will change that.  You just don't like that kind of work.  If that is the case, it is obvious why you are depressed.  There is nothing more depressing than having a job you hate.  I have been there and done that.  If that is the case, what I would suggest you do is stay where you are, but look for something else.  Perhaps you could take on-line classes in another field.  That might open up better opportunities. 

 

Again, I may be way off base.  You might like your job fine, but just not be that good at it yet.  If that is the case, it will get better with experience.  I have no doubt you will improve at your work.  Some people are just slower at catching on to things. 



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Actually I love what I do. I have been working with children for 12 years. The last job I loved all the way until I started working with new administrators as well as some of the new staff. This job challenges me because it is a big difference between work in the public school system and a daycare center. The structure and it's set up is different. A daycare center has a much faster pace environment. Plus I never worked with children this young. I currently work with 3-4 year old preschool. Most of my experience came from working with 1st-4th grade.



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It sadden me to hear of your ongoing trial, but be most assured Dawn that the Father has not forgotten you.  But am happy to hear that you love what you do, that is a novel idea to me, as I truly do not like my job.

 

14)  And this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask any thing according to His will, He heareth us:

15)  And if we know that He heareth us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired from Him.

I John 5:14-15

 

For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

Jeremiah 29:11

 

I really hate that saying time heals all wounds, IMO, it is a big lie; but one Truth is that our God can and will heal all wounds.



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I was also thinking you had mentioned that you enjoyed grade school more. Pre school kids have much shorter attention spans. But they can be taught. That is why they started using advertising techniques to reach them--short, fun, and grabs their attention.

Since they are hiring for a new school year now, get out your application for schools again. They are more apt to hire someone who is presently employed. Meanwhile, as several have said, thank God for the job He has provided and start praising Him for everything that is good, especially that Jesus died for you.

I also had to retrain my mind to be a cup half full person. And I used the Philip. 4:4-8 passage to force my self to be thankful and to think on things that are good. That even meant turning off news, soap operas, TV dramas, and watching funny shows and old reruns. A merry hearts does good like a medicine. Prov. 17:22. I am not good at hiding my feelings or "putting on" a happy face when my heart is breaking. But I can thank God for answered prayers. I can look for the humor in life and remember the funny things kids do and say. So from being a very depressed, lonely personality who people regarded as being unfriendly and aloof I became known as a jolly person who always was smiling. This fact really amazed me. And it all started with the Phillippeans formula. Pray , with thanksgiving make my requests known, receive God's peace. Then think on things that are good and lovely. This took persistance. But it was not as gradual as one would expect. It also was a part of becoming less focused on self and more focused on God's faithfulness and loving others, and upon the beauty in nature.

Right now I am watching a squirrill bury something beneath our dogwood. It is probably a peanut that hubby has been supplying our neighbor who feeds them. The silly thing keeps going back to see if it is still there. Love to watch them. This is the 8th time it has gone back or made false trails and digs.
Blessings,
Willa

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Feeling very sad today. It seems like I can't stop being so sad.



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Feeling very sad today. It seems like I can't stop being so sad.

 

 

Praying for you Dawn . 



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Dawn, you may be dealing with a depressive illness.  Have you been to see a counselor or psychiatrist?  If you are dealing with continual sadness, there has to be a reason for it, and I don't know if it is a good idea to deal with this thing alone.  Everyone here desires to see you snap out of it, but being long distance, there is only so much we can do.  Perhaps talking to people one on one in chat would be helpful?  There you could discuss exactly what is going on.  Maybe you could talk to your Pastor?  Just don't try to deal with this by yourself.  I know from past experience that your inner thoughts will make things seem 1000 times worse than they really are.  I feel like you have a pretty good life, but you are looking only on the bad.  You like working with kids, and you have a job doing that.  If you remain there, you will only get better with experience.  That just stands to reason.  You have a relationship with the Lord, so you are never really alone.  If you are looking for a spouse, there are options today that didn't used to exist, like e-harmony.com and other Christian dating sites.  The situation isn't even close to being hopeless, but when you are in a sad place, it feels like there is no way to get out of it.  It feels like you are trapped in your circumstance, but that is nothing but feelings.  It is not reality. 

 

I will pray for your right now, but please seek help before this situation gets worse. 

 

Dear heavenly Father.  I pray for my sister Dawn.  I pray that you will help her to see the good in her life, and not the bad.  I pray that you will give her the desires of her heart.  I pray that you will fill her with the joy of the Lord.  Drive away all the sadness in her life and help her find true happiness.  Most of all, help her to learn to trust in you, regardless of her circumstances.  In Jesus name I pray.  A-men.






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