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Spouse or children/grandchildren: advice please

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I'm new here and looking for some advice. I have been praying for a situation...asking for guidance from the Holy Spirit, and still feeling unsure. I am a mother of 3 grown children, 4 grandchildren, currently living with my husband within 30 miles of all said children/grands. We are currently in a northern state ( moved here 15 years ago from a southern state). My dilemma is this: now that the kids are grown with families of their own, my husband is ready to go back south...warmer weather...more work opportunities for him and closer to my mom and sisters. Sounds perfect, right? Well I am having a very difficult time thinking of leaving my kids/grands. I know I am to be submissive to my husband...he is such a good man, if he thinks I will be the least bit unhappy he won't think about us going. But it has been his desire for quite some time now. I want to do this for him...and at times I feel a total peace about the situation....then feelings of overwhelming sadness and anxiety start to creep in (Satan attacking??) any advice, words of wisdom, scripture you have for me would be greatly appreciated.

In His love,

Kat

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Welcome to Worthy!! Talk through the problem together .

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your place is with your husband. your kids will be fine without you! i know the issue is that you don't want to miss them, and especially miss the grandkids growing up. trust me, i KNOW what you're talking about. three years ago we moved back to texas. my youngest daughter and her two sons stayed on the other side of the country. and then i learned she was pregnant again, this time with my first granddaughter. and while we were moving closer to my other daughter and her kids, they were still going to be a 12 hour drive away.

 

fortunately for me, my youngest daughter's husband has transferred down south. they'll now only be a few hours away.... easy drive. 

 

but here's the deal that you need to remember. (besides the obvious vow you made a million years ago that your place is with your husband...) SKYPE, SKYPE, SKYPE!!! no matter how far away you live from your kids and grandkids, skype (or facetime if you use macintosh products) allows you to SEE each other in real time every day! 

 

i use skype on my laptop. both my daughters use it on their tablets or phones though, and they carry them around the house with them while they are putting on makeup, cooking dinner, cleaning up the living room.... i get to visit with the grandkids that way too. well, two of them anyway. two absolutely love to be on the phone or on skype, the other two are about as camera shy as you can get. but that's ok, because now that they'll be an afternoon's drive away, i'll be able to spend weekends with them frequently. 

 

go with your husband. God didn't give us children to "keep", he gave us children to raise, with the expectation that when we'd raised them to adulthood, we would let them go. i know it's hard, but you can do this. and in the meantime, just pray that God will bring all your children closer to you... whether that is by today's technology, or maybe they'll someday move south too. it could happen.

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Welcome~!

 

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I'm new here and looking for some advice. I have been praying for a situation...asking for guidance from the Holy Spirit, and still feeling unsure. I am a mother of 3 grown children, 4 grandchildren, currently living with my husband within 30 miles of all said children/grands. We are currently in a northern state ( moved here 15 years ago from a southern state). My dilemma is this: now that the kids are grown with families of their own, my husband is ready to go back south...warmer weather...more work opportunities for him and closer to my mom and sisters. Sounds perfect, right? Well I am having a very difficult time thinking of leaving my kids/grands. I know I am to be submissive to my husband...he is such a good man, if he thinks I will be the least bit unhappy he won't think about us going. But it has been his desire for quite some time now. I want to do this for him...and at times I feel a total peace about the situation....then feelings of overwhelming sadness and anxiety start to creep in (Satan attacking??) any advice, words of wisdom, scripture you have for me would be greatly appreciated.
In His love,
Kat

 

Praying~!

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Thank you so much for the welcome and Lady C, thank you for the wonderful advice! I will continue to pray about it and keep the lines of communication open.

Thank you again

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Welcome! Praying.

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I have very mixed emotions about your situation...    I would hate to have to make that decision.

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Hi Katmc, I agree with LadyC.. blessed advice there. I can identify with how youre feeling and pray the Lord brings you and your husband ultimately in agreement thats filled with His peace. God bless you and your family.

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None of this has caught God off guard, He knew all of this would happen, long before you were even born. Be at peace, knowing that nothing escapes His notice.

 

  28And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. 

 

 14This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us15And if we know that He hears us inwhatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him.

 

6Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God7And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

 

Now, take a deep breath, let it our again, and trust!

 

 

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