Hello everyone. I'm new here and I'm not able to post in other sub-forums yet so I decided to post this question here. I know it's a long post but please read because I've been struggling with this for a while and I'd like some advice.
I'm 21 years old and I've been attending my father's church since I was born. He started the church 23 years ago and obviously you start small and eventually grow. I became the drummer for the church when I was 4 and I've been the drummer ever since. It's fun to play the drum and stuff but now I'm completely tired of church. I'm tired of the way my church in particular is run.
Our church used for have 150+ regular attendees every Sunday and now we're down to 50+ simply because of the way the church is being run. Everything in my church is so disorganized that it takes away from the focus which is God.
Just to name a few problems:
1. The singers can't sing
2. The singers never know what they're going to sing until they get on stage on Sunday morning
3. We(the musicians) are never in sync with the singers because we don't practice and the singers aren't motivated to come out to practice
4. The children's church teachers can't teach
5. The moderator prolongs the service by taking non-stop for 25+ minutes. It's like the moderator loves to hear his own voice
6. The person reading the daily scripture doesn't know they're reading on Sunday. The moderator randomly selects someone from the congregation to read and sometimes they pick someone who can't read well which is embarrassing
7. Sometimes the worship team doesn't sing a song right or some members don't know the words to the song
8. All the songs we sing are old songs and as a result the young people are bored to tears
Those are just to name a few problems. The ONLY good thing I can say about my church is the preaching. I do believe my dad is a talented preacher.
Anyways. I've talked to countless people in the church and a lot of them are getting sick and tired of the way it's being run as well. They're tired of the lack of organization and professionalism.
So I decided to do a bunch of research on how to make the church grow and how to make it ultimately better. I've written pages and pages of documents on how to help improve the church and I've brought them to my dad and guess what??
He shut down EVERY SINGLE one of my points!
I've told him how we need to be more organized and how we need to have teacher evaluations and how we need to set standards in the church that people have to meet so it becomes a better overall service but he keeps shutting me down. He keeps telling me now to worry about the church and focus on the youth (I'm going to be the new youth leader soon). I keep telling him that I want to empower the youth but I don't want to just make church good one Sunday a month, I want it to be good every Sunday. I told him that we should grow together as a church instead of growing separately. No matter what I say he doesn't want to hear it. He wants it run his way and he doesn't want any advice from anyone and I'm just tired of it. I'm tired of seeing less and less people every Sunday and the SAME mistakes being made every single week. I'm tired of my dad not taking action to improve the church. I'm tired of my church members not taking church seriously . I'm tired of going to a lousy service every single week. I'm tired of members thinking that they can do w.e they want because they know that their Pastor won't do anything to prevent it. I'm tired of the LAZINESS.
I've gotten to the point where I feel like going to my girlfriend's church. They're not perfect but they're light years ahead of my church. When I go there, I feel the anointing even when I'm not playing an instrument. I feel like I've made a good decision by going to church.
It just hurts me to know that I can't invite people to my church and I can't even enjoy church because of all the reoccurring problems that have been happening for years and I feel like my dad is so scared to make changes because he's scared of upsetting people and losing members but by sitting down and doing nothing we are losing members.
My dad is just such an ignorant and hard headed person and I can't get through to him. I've tried every method possible and I just can't get through to him. So I don't know if I should just leave or endure the pain of going to church and just hope for the best.
Thanks for reading my excruciatingly long post.