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I am a soon to 33 year old woman that is currently seperated from my spouse. He started off lieing to me about doing drugs and I ended up finding several different things in my house. I had to choose between my kids and my husband at that time as he was on drugs and I his ex wife had been calling dfs on him. The officer told me that if drugs were found in my house that I would lose my children. I ended up moving into a house by myself with me and my children. We have now been seperated for 2 years but I still love him very much and we still spend time together every now and then. He still hangs out with the people that does drugs though. I am at my end of the rope. I have prayed non stop for something to happen to where we can have our family back together again. I am however scared that he is still using and I just can't let him move back in only to do drugs and be in the same situation I was in before. Please someone tell me what Jesus would do in these circumstances. I am at a loss here. I read my Bible constantly but I am still searching for an answer to this question. Any Christian advice would be greatly appreciated.


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Hi l and welcome! I have been where you are. Just stand your ground and pray and seek God. Please just take care of the chidren. Find a good church. You cant talk to an addictand until he ..stops his addiction he will destroy every one in his life. Only when he is sober/clean can you go into counseling. It didnt work out for me. I an praying it goes better for you. God bless.
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It sounds like you are doing what you should be doing, separate from him / still love him, be there for him, praying for him, but not allowing him to be in your home if he is still a user. It can be rough, really rough, been there have a hat and two t-shirts.....but keep the faith!! Draw closer and closer to God - pray ceaselessly - and continue on. I am sure it's a burden, but on another point, your spouse is going to have to be accountable as well....witness to him, get him into a treatment center, whatever it takes....even jail if need be. It does not mean you don't love him, it's quite contrary to that. You can be tough, and still do it with love and grace - 

 

Mat 11:27  All things are delivered to Me by My Father. And no one knows the Son except the Father. Nor does anyone know the Father except the Son, and the one to whom the Son will reveal Him.
Mat 11:28  Come to Me all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Mat 11:29  Take My yoke on you and learn of Me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you shall find rest to your souls.
Mat 11:30  For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.

 

2Co 12:8  For this thing I besought the Lord three times, that it might depart from me.
2Co 12:9  And He said to me, My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore I will rather glory in my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may overshadow me.
2Co 12:10  Therefore I am pleased in weaknesses, in insults, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am powerful.

 

God Bless,

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Please someone tell me what Jesus would do in these circumstances. I am at a loss here. I read my Bible constantly but I am still searching for an answer to this question. Any Christian advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm certainly not qualified to speak for Jesus, but I can tell you what I think he would do.....    I think he would take care of the children, for they really can't care for themselves in this world today......    and I certainly would not want DHS taking care of them.

 

your husband is going to have to make decisions and you should not make it easier for him to continue doing drugs.


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Thank you all for you kind words of encouragment and welcomes. I am so glad to have found a great website that has such a great support system as this one. I have been going through a lot and I use to talk to my mom about everything and she passed away. My dad is still there but he isn't like my mom was where I could just talk and talk..my dad gets on the bored side. haha

 

So thank you all for all of your replies! It means a lot to have other's there willing to listen and help out as they know how.

 

I really didn't have time to tell my full story as I was at work and on my lunch break when I found this site.

 

This all started about 2 years ago when I found him in the garage with a spoon and lighter. I still today am not 100% sure what was in there but he said it was pain pills but he was using it to shoot up in a needle. That was when all my trust was gone. It was horrible to see such a tight knit family pull away like a button on a shirt. So ever since then we have really went down hill. I have 2 step children who I barely see now as their mom moved them away to Columbia with her new husband, my husband and I have 2 small children together and I have a child from a previous marraige as well. So all together we had 5 children. After my husband started doing drugs we lost our house, he lost his job as a Chiropractor and didn't work for about a year. He finally does have a job but it's not nowhere what he was making as a Chiropractor. Nevertheless I am very happy that he does have a job. After we lost our house we moved into a duplex and Justin had went to rehab for a month and he came back and said he was all better and moved in with us at the duplex. Things was great until I found another needle and then another and he got into a rage and punched a whole in the wall at the duplex because I didn't believe him about the needles being old like he would always say. So he ended up moving his stuff out of the duplex and into his mom's house. He has now lived with her for a year and half and he has constantly been asking to move back in here. I will not let him however because even some of the nights that we have stayed together I have either found him talking to his friends that do drugs that he said he was no longer talking to or I would find needles and he would say they are old. I have went through this for a very long time now. I have lost a lot of people in my life including my sister and the stress is weighing me down. Now my gram is in the hospital as well. I have developed social anxiety as well over the last year and it's hard for me to even leave my house as I get anxiety so bad. I know this has to do with all of the stress that I have been under. I am not trying to say that I am a perfect Christian by any means though. I have had my down falls and have really messed up along the way as well, not in the drug dept but I have asked God for forgiveness and have turned my life around. I have told Justin to go to teen challenge but there is always an excuse. He wonders why I can't trust him and it's because I keep finding things for me to not be able to. It takes only a few seconds for trust to be broken but a lifetime to regain it.  Sorry that this is so long but I wanted to tell my story in it's entirity (if I spelled that right). I love God with all my heart, soul, mind and strength and I know that he will be with me through this all which is why I will continue praising him through all of these storms in my life. Thank you all for reading! :biggrin2: Any and all comments are welcome.

 

Hi l and welcome! I have been where you are. Just stand your ground and pray and seek God. Please just take care of the chidren. Find a good church. You cant talk to an addictand until he ..stops his addiction he will destroy every one in his life. Only when he is sober/clean can you go into counseling. It didnt work out for me. I an praying it goes better for you. God bless.

 

 

It sounds like you are doing what you should be doing, separate from him / still love him, be there for him, praying for him, but not allowing him to be in your home if he is still a user. It can be rough, really rough, been there have a hat and two t-shirts.....but keep the faith!! Draw closer and closer to God - pray ceaselessly - and continue on. I am sure it's a burden, but on another point, your spouse is going to have to be accountable as well....witness to him, get him into a treatment center, whatever it takes....even jail if need be. It does not mean you don't love him, it's quite contrary to that. You can be tough, and still do it with love and grace - 

 

Mat 11:27  All things are delivered to Me by My Father. And no one knows the Son except the Father. Nor does anyone know the Father except the Son, and the one to whom the Son will reveal Him.
Mat 11:28  Come to Me all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Mat 11:29  Take My yoke on you and learn of Me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you shall find rest to your souls.
Mat 11:30  For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.

 

2Co 12:8  For this thing I besought the Lord three times, that it might depart from me.
2Co 12:9  And He said to me, My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore I will rather glory in my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may overshadow me.
2Co 12:10  Therefore I am pleased in weaknesses, in insults, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am powerful.

 

God Bless,

Hip
 

 

 

 

Please someone tell me what Jesus would do in these circumstances. I am at a loss here. I read my Bible constantly but I am still searching for an answer to this question. Any Christian advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm certainly not qualified to speak for Jesus, but I can tell you what I think he would do.....    I think he would take care of the children, for they really can't care for themselves in this world today......    and I certainly would not want DHS taking care of them.

 

your husband is going to have to make decisions and you should not make it easier for him to continue doing drugs.

 


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Hello Belle and welcome to Worthy.

 

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  Ephesians 6:4  I definitely agree with the others, yes your marriage is important but just as you decided, your children are very important, and not only might you lose them, but your husband, would have provoke them to wrath.  I would be the richest man in the world if I received a dime for every time I have heard this next verse misquoted: Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  Ephesians 5:22    This is a verse that many men quote, and act like they are lord and master, but the smart wife will reply, yes dear just you remember the command given to you:  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it;  Ephesians 5:25  Basically any man who loves his wife as Christ loved the church will not lorded it over her.

 

Belle you have done a wonderful job, and it is up to you whether to let your husband depart or stay, but continue to pray for him.  You have shown yourself to be a woman of virtue,          Proverbs 31:10-31. 

14)  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

15)  But if the unbelieving departeth, let him depart.    A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases; but God hath called us to peace.

16)  For how knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shall save thy husband?  or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I Corinthians 7:14-16

Considering your circumstances I would say that God is will please with your actions, praying that your husband overcomes this addiction.


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Hello Belle and welcome to Worthy.

 

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  Ephesians 6:4  I definitely agree with the others, yes your marriage is important but just as you decided, your children are very important, and not only might you lose them, but your husband, would have provoke them to wrath.  I would be the richest man in the world if I received a dime for every time I have heard this next verse misquoted: Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  Ephesians 5:22    This is a verse that many men quote, and act like they are lord and master, but the smart wife will reply, yes dear just you remember the command given to you:  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it;  Ephesians 5:25  Basically any man who loves his wife as Christ loved the church will not lorded it over her.

 

Belle you have done a wonderful job, and it is up to you whether to let your husband depart or stay, but continue to pray for him.  You have shown yourself to be a woman of virtue,          Proverbs 31:10-31. 

14)  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

15)  But if the unbelieving departeth, let him depart.    A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases; but God hath called us to peace.

16)  For how knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shall save thy husband?  or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I Corinthians 7:14-16

Considering your circumstances I would say that God is will please with your actions, praying that your husband overcomes this addiction.

Thank you 19Duggarfan! You are so kind. I am so happy to have found this site as I have been looking for guidance on what I should be doing. I have felt as though I am doing it all wrong and then sometimes I feel right where I should be and then there are times where i get down again and think that God would not want me to exclude my husband from living with us. Thank you for clarifiying the above for me. I really think I am right where God wants me to be for the time being. I just hope and pray that Justin will put his family first and get help. I know that with people that have addictions though that it is hard to let it go. I just pray that he can so that we can be a family again one day. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart. God Bless you!

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Hi Belle

It's interesting we the same age and I've been down this road myself.

Hosea is a great place to start in the bible for an answer

Hosea managed to get his wife back and sorted out her lust for prostitution...but what I can tell u, it would appear ur husband is addicted to crystal meth and it is one of the worst drugs to get addicted to...

I don't know the full dynamics of your custody situation...but if I was u learn what Hosea had to do to his wife...cut him off from seeing the kids for a year and get him into a proper rehab...finally understand your enemy...find out everything u need to know about crystal meth do ur research.

Keep the faith
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Hi Belle

Firstly I want to say that I hope you know that you are a beautiful daughter of the Father. He loves you so much and nothing will or can ever change that. Roman's 8:35-39 tells us that nothing can ever separate us from the love of God.

I think the only thing I would like to add is from Roman's 8:28 - And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

You may not see it but its a promise you have to claim and believe. Even though the circumstances you find yourself in may dictate otherwise.

Jesus offered to exchange his burden for yours. Yours is heavy his is light. Claim that too. He is your strength and your shield.

Trust in him he is not a liar. It is God's responsibility to change your husband and not yours. Just pray for wisdom and trust in him and his promises even if your head tells you otherwise.
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Dear Belle,

Welcome my dear sister in CHRIST!!!

 

I'm going to join my voice with those of Hippie & {{{{Alien}}}]},

sometimes tough love is the only road open to us.....I have heard it said & it bears out to be true...

You can take the bottle out of an alcoholics hand,BUT if he isn't ready to take the bottle out of his own hand then it's all for nothing...

In other words {{{Belle}}},it's got to be his choice...if he's not ready to do this..then you need to do what is best for your kids and yourself.

continue to pray for him,but don't allow him access to you or your children.

 

GBU Sweet Sister!!

 

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Blessings Belle,,,,,

    Sweet Sister it doesn't really matter what he is shooting in his veins,in my opinion,,,,it is a substance that is mind altering a tool of the enemy & a way to contract the aids virus & or hepatitis C,,,,don't ever let an addict tell you that they would not or have not shared needles,push comes to shove ,,,if that is all that is available then that is w4hat they will use......you have children that need you ,your life is a precious gift from God,,,,,your ex may not value his life but to gamble with yours as well is a crime,,,,,,,you cannot even consider being with this man as long as he does not have some good sobriety TIME under his belt

   They usually speak half truths as the enemy is known to do ,& he is bound by this strongman,oppressed & lead to do what he is told ,,,,just like a puppet  i know it all too well & was married to a man in bondage,a Christian man (or so he said).......it was pain killers & steroids,,,,your husband probably is telling the truth about the pain killers as they can sometimes be very functional on these type of drugs & it can be very hard to tell if they are high .....when you described how he punched the wall in a rage because of your accusations it brought back awful memories,It started out just like that for me & ended up with such an altered personality that he turned that rage towards me.I will never forget how I finally asked God to show me a neon sign ....I could not see a sign or hear Gods voice in all of it yet i knew He must have been guiding me,I knew I was either in denial or the enemy was blinding me to Gods truth...............I vowed to God that if He would show me as plain as day,as plain as the nose on my face,what to do that i would follow Him ,,,,with my husband or without him ,,,,,,,I believe I finally committed fully to God before everything & everyone......The next morning my husband broke my nose & my rib....there was my neon sign,that very moment I felt Gods loving arms around me telling me He was with me & would not let him take my life.......Belle,he went to prison & I never looked back

     I am not telling you to move on ,I am telling you to keep God first in your life & seek His Will for you......you needn't keep asking God to fix your ex,,,,,,pray for him of course but ask God to show you want he has for YOU,with or without your ex,,,,,,,sometimes we keep praying that God deliver & heal someone else because we want that for ourselves,,,,,,,do you know what I mean?God bless you Beloved,just follow Gods direction,,,,,,,,,nothing is impossible for God but let his Will be done,it will always be for our good & to give Him Glory                                                                                                  With love -in Christ,Kwik


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Hi Belle

It's interesting we the same age and I've been down this road myself.

Hosea is a great place to start in the bible for an answer

Hosea managed to get his wife back and sorted out her lust for prostitution...but what I can tell u, it would appear ur husband is addicted to crystal meth and it is one of the worst drugs to get addicted to...

I don't know the full dynamics of your custody situation...but if I was u learn what Hosea had to do to his wife...cut him off from seeing the kids for a year and get him into a proper rehab...finally understand your enemy...find out everything u need to know about crystal meth do ur research.

Keep the faith

Hi inChrist

 

Thank you for response. I am unsure if it was crystal meth or not but he def needs help. All I can do is pray for him. I have tried telling his mom and she doesn't believe me and now she won't talk to me and she hasn't for quite some time because she believes that her son would never do something like that.

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Hi Belle

Firstly I want to say that I hope you know that you are a beautiful daughter of the Father. He loves you so much and nothing will or can ever change that. Roman's 8:35-39 tells us that nothing can ever separate us from the love of God.

I think the only thing I would like to add is from Roman's 8:28 - And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

You may not see it but its a promise you have to claim and believe. Even though the circumstances you find yourself in may dictate otherwise.

Jesus offered to exchange his burden for yours. Yours is heavy his is light. Claim that too. He is your strength and your shield.

Trust in him he is not a liar. It is God's responsibility to change your husband and not yours. Just pray for wisdom and trust in him and his promises even if your head tells you otherwise.

Hello WRG

Thank you for your kind reponse. You are right...I worry way to much about everything and instead I need to hand this all over to God. I will continue to pray for my husband though and will never stop. I believe he needs all the prayers and I am sure that God is right there listening.

Thank you and God Bless you


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May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better.

Hi OneLight

I do have several Christian friends that have been helping me for the last 2 years. They have got me through the hard times, and all but I wanted to reach out and make other Christian friends that can help me through this as well. Most of my Christian friends are also friends with my husband and they don't like to be in the middle of things but they all see where I coming from and what I have been through. They have been with me though through all my bad times, however I know that they get tired of having to hear me constantly go on about my husband and I can understand. It's nice to have this website here to be able to get good advice and have a support system.

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Blessings Belle,,,,,

    Sweet Sister it doesn't really matter what he is shooting in his veins,in my opinion,,,,it is a substance that is mind altering a tool of the enemy & a way to contract the aids virus & or hepatitis C,,,,don't ever let an addict tell you that they would not or have not shared needles,push comes to shove ,,,if that is all that is available then that is w4hat they will use......you have children that need you ,your life is a precious gift from God,,,,,your ex may not value his life but to gamble with yours as well is a crime,,,,,,,you cannot even consider being with this man as long as he does not have some good sobriety TIME under his belt

   They usually speak half truths as the enemy is known to do ,& he is bound by this strongman,oppressed & lead to do what he is told ,,,,just like a puppet  i know it all too well & was married to a man in bondage,a Christian man (or so he said).......it was pain killers & steroids,,,,your husband probably is telling the truth about the pain killers as they can sometimes be very functional on these type of drugs & it can be very hard to tell if they are high .....when you described how he punched the wall in a rage because of your accusations it brought back awful memories,It started out just like that for me & ended up with such an altered personality that he turned that rage towards me.I will never forget how I finally asked God to show me a neon sign ....I could not see a sign or hear Gods voice in all of it yet i knew He must have been guiding me,I knew I was either in denial or the enemy was blinding me to Gods truth...............I vowed to God that if He would show me as plain as day,as plain as the nose on my face,what to do that i would follow Him ,,,,with my husband or without him ,,,,,,,I believe I finally committed fully to God before everything & everyone......The next morning my husband broke my nose & my rib....there was my neon sign,that very moment I felt Gods loving arms around me telling me He was with me & would not let him take my life.......Belle,he went to prison & I never looked back

     I am not telling you to move on ,I am telling you to keep God first in your life & seek His Will for you......you needn't keep asking God to fix your ex,,,,,,pray for him of course but ask God to show you want he has for YOU,with or without your ex,,,,,,,sometimes we keep praying that God deliver & heal someone else because we want that for ourselves,,,,,,,do you know what I mean?God bless you Beloved,just follow Gods direction,,,,,,,,,nothing is impossible for God but let his Will be done,it will always be for our good & to give Him Glory                                                                                                  With love -in Christ,Kwik

Hi there dear Kwik

It brought tears to my eyes to know what you had to go through. My husband has never hit me luckily and I won't ever let it get to that point. He came over one night and got into another rage and smacked his phone down over my bed post and it was smashed.  I called the police to have him escorted out because he wouldn't leave and he kept yelling and calling me horrible names in front of our children and they were crying and upset. I even asked him to calm down so we could go in the bedroom and discuss this like adults and he said no the children need to be in the middle of this. It was horrible and I felt so bad for having to call the cops to my house. It's just so embarrassing. But I had to do it because he wouldn't leave and I was afraid of what else he might do. I will continue to pray for him...but he will not be welcome to my house until he can get his drug addiction and his anger under control. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I know that having to relive something like that must be horrible and for you to share your story with me means a lot. Thank you! I am glad to know that you are no longer in that relationship.

God Bless you!

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Dear Belle,

Welcome my dear sister in CHRIST!!!

 

I'm going to join my voice with those of Hippie & {{{{Alien}}}]},

sometimes tough love is the only road open to us.....I have heard it said & it bears out to be true...

You can take the bottle out of an alcoholics hand,BUT if he isn't ready to take the bottle out of his own hand then it's all for nothing...

In other words {{{Belle}}},it's got to be his choice...if he's not ready to do this..then you need to do what is best for your kids and yourself.

continue to pray for him,but don't allow him access to you or your children.

 

GBU Sweet Sister!!

 

~~~Miss~~~

Hi Miss

Thank you for your response. You are right about that. He won't quit until he is ready. I am just going to continue to pray like I have been for the last 2 years.

Thank you and God Bless you!

Belle


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     Sweet Sister,,,,,no,it is not difficult at all,just a faded memory but well worth it if it gives someone like you the strength to carry on & let God direct your footsteps.....I said the same thing,it couldn't possibly get to that point & it was not something that ever happened before ,,,,,just that morning ,no argument ,,,we were getting along fine & in a stupor ,I am not sure he even knew who I was ,,,his eyes were blank.Drugs can do strange things to a person ,that is why the devil loves to use them ,they open up the doorway for him,,,,,,,,be wise,be careful & walk in spirit & in truth by the Power of the Holy Spirit,in Jesus Name                                               Much love,Kwik


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    I really enjoy discussing the Bible. There is so much to learn and so much to share.

    I am led to reach my hand out, in love, to those in need.

 

May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better.

Hi OneLight

I do have several Christian friends that have been helping me for the last 2 years. They have got me through the hard times, and all but I wanted to reach out and make other Christian friends that can help me through this as well. Most of my Christian friends are also friends with my husband and they don't like to be in the middle of things but they all see where I coming from and what I have been through. They have been with me though through all my bad times, however I know that they get tired of having to hear me constantly go on about my husband and I can understand. It's nice to have this website here to be able to get good advice and have a support system.

God Bless

Belle

 

 

I offered this suggestion without reading the whole thread, so I am not sure if what you said had been offered up before.  I am glad you have those around who support you.  That makes me feel a lot better knowing this. 

 

I am not suggesting that you do not seek advice from your brothers and sisters here  There are many here who will be more then willing to offer a hand.  One of my concerns is that it may be best for you to find one or two females to talk with.  We males can offer support and scripture, while another female will understand the deeper feelings you are going through pertaining to your marriage.


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May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better.

Hi OneLight

I do have several Christian friends that have been helping me for the last 2 years. They have got me through the hard times, and all but I wanted to reach out and make other Christian friends that can help me through this as well. Most of my Christian friends are also friends with my husband and they don't like to be in the middle of things but they all see where I coming from and what I have been through. They have been with me though through all my bad times, however I know that they get tired of having to hear me constantly go on about my husband and I can understand. It's nice to have this website here to be able to get good advice and have a support system.

God Bless

Belle

 

 

I offered this suggestion without reading the whole thread, so I am not sure if what you said had been offered up before.  I am glad you have those around who support you.  That makes me feel a lot better knowing this. 

 

I am not suggesting that you do not seek advice from your brothers and sisters here  There are many here who will be more then willing to offer a hand.  One of my concerns is that it may be best for you to find one or two females to talk with.  We males can offer support and scripture, while another female will understand the deeper feelings you are going through pertaining to your marriage.

 

Thank you for your kind thoughts. I have several female friends who I do speak with often and I have also found some female friends on here as well that have been going through the same thing as I am. It kind of helps to have someone that knows exactly what you are going through. My friends luckily do not have the same problems in their life that I am facing so it is hard for them to relate. So I am indeed glad that I have found this site and am looking forward to making more friends here. It is nice to be able to talk to someone who has been through the same things that you are going through. I think God brought me to this site for a reason as he knows all of the pain that I have been going through. Thank you for reaching out and caring as you have. God Bless!
Belle


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