jruner

I am so saddened to hear about these other tough relationships, You are in my prayers. You can probably tell by now I am not a perfect person and that I realize we go through different kinds of growing pains both spiritual and in the flesh. It is my sincere hope and prayer that no matter how this goes there can still be a two way life long relationship through the grace of God. That is my prayer for anyone in a tough relationship of any kind right now. This is ripping my wife spiritually, emotionally and physically apart and my disability blocks out her medical care.

Doctor said he is just a teen what the big deal! He tested normal on blood and urine test I demanded. He is definitely in the high defiant categrory and as of a talk yesterday night says he blanks out when her hurts others. That is what I think the doctor needs to know now. I got an appointment in the morning. Thanks

I know someone and before acknowledging that my epilepsy had come back and affected memory and some speech I was a reserve deputy (in training only) and an animal control officer. It is much easier to help a kid rebelling against their parents when you are not the parent. I would rather face the guy with a gun in my face than my own child with this heart breaking dangerous attitude. He is my child and going beyond what I have seen in other angry youth. The local school ejects troubled youth (not bullies, until proof of drugs) and has an occasional counselor. Sadly as stated before no he should not use the teachers or bullies as excuses. There were teachers supporting many of his claims-those teachers were ignored but not willing to lose jobs over it. This current bad behavior is all him! He has total denial and when held accountable more excuses. Law enforcement here has to wait until he commits a crime of certain amount in dollars or with proof of violence (photograph's), that can be tougher than imagined. I have become my son's warden. Never words I thought would relate to my son, his half brother asked me why he is acting like this, I am teen too and I only get angry a little? I answered we all have different wills and therefore make different choices your brother is making poor choices right now..

I will try the nursing home Idea and have made phone call already! As I am disabled myself and have worked in nursing homes before I understand the different aspects of poor. It is my prayer they are open to a not fully willing volunteer.

We do have him volunteer at a food bank. Another person has suggested we treat every act of aggression at home like he is at a juvenile detention center you don't want to do school you do hard labor, you intimidate your siblings you do hard labor you steal, you lose every thing but your mattress and there are no snacks or entertainment and friends are out until the abuse of siblings stops. I like the food bank approach as my younger teen son really gets a lot out of it already. The super tough approach I could see going really south or scaring him strait. Thoughts?

All good points made, yes he does play us. I have a hard time with some of this stuff as does my wife. We are in a small rural area and even churches here have been doing musical Pastor or some things we personally view as non-Biblical like women leading the entire congregation. Now we have a son full of excuses who is also stealing from us and starting to mentally and physically intimidate his siblings, one who is very frail with mild cerebral palsy. We can't find reliable biblical counseling for him and he his oblivious to our parental authority. We have let him know their are legal authorities as an option if this continues to escalate. As he puts it the entire family has a problem not him he is fine!. We agree this is a family with a big problem and yes God needs to be in charge regardless of anyone's excuses. We have been trying to pair him with a christian mentor and the mentor's have backed out. No secular is not our first choice, God is not his choice, sadly. Yes God does have a plan, things don't always go in our human time frame however. Thank you for your blunt honesty.

We have a teen son who I now home-school. He has little interest in education and rage issues I pray about daily with my spouse and that we are seeking secular counseling for as well. The overriding message we get is that teachers have made him hate learning by supporting bullies when he asked for help and telling him to shut up when he asked questions about learning first from them and then from smart friends (since he felt teachers ignored him or did not like him), so why learn anything anywhere! He has a really hard time with emotions other than anger when does talk their is a ton of hurt in our beautiful and intelligent young man. This kid is good at math and bright, with reading issues. He is athletic and good at a certain sport yet bullied by teammates after the sports over with for the year. We try to point out all the positives God has given him in his life but being from a poor family he is really struggling to thrive. We are openly seeking loving input. With love for our son, The Runer's

We no longer go to this church as soon as my wife and I saw these new age ideas we left and fast! My friend and his wife left also after trying in vain to pray-fully and in person asking the congregation publicly to stick with the word of God. I need to correct my error above here also, the pastor is a he not a she, but new age is still very, very correct! They are in my prayers.

One lady is very close friends with the male pastor and her son is starting the youth group that my son wants to attend. The pastor's daughter is learning some wicca for "healing purposes." They talk about people needing to correct their auras?

Sadly a christian friend and his wife came to me with concerns about a small group of christian's who are mixing wicca or something similar to it with bible studies and worship services. They are speaking in multiple conflicting tongues and ridiculing mourners (one teen mourner was told she had bad aura because of lack of faith as he best friend had died last week) all while stating nature will give them the peace and power to heal because they have dreamed it or been taught this by others. This does not seem to be Godly truth in anyway, but evil deception as it does not edify. This was witnessed by myself and my friends at different times and still continues to varying degrees and yes we all did lovingly object. Thoughts? Thank You, John Runer

Jesus was a scholar of of Jewish law and I know that He would not "spoil" the honorable hard work of another scholar seeking to share God's wisdom. So why would a christian diminish what was worked for by others? Jruner