Lump dump

Good Morning Worthy Family, well I am reaching out because I have been trying to grow in my marriage and I am now at my wits end. I had begun counseling a few years ago through my church but the deacon and his wife explained that because my husband was undergoing therapy for mental issues they did not want to interfere with that process and because of his inabilities to run a household my home would never be in balance with the lord. I'm okay with that and excepted it. As we continued to go through the every day issues of life we also had a year of separation which after ward when he returned home we functioned as a family but slept in two separate rooms. we moved into our new home, he was in the basement and I was upstairs with our son. so now we have done some work around the house and he has began to sleep in the bedroom with me and I am not use to it. it feels like he is invading my space. I am not use to his ways and all the little things are bothering me. when w go to the grocery store we buy everyone their favorite snacks. he its all his and my sons then mine without asking if I mind. I share a lot but is it to much to ask for common courteously to have someone one ask me for something that belongs to me. I am obsessed with making my bed when I get up. he lays across my bed an never fixes it. as soon as I comment then he gets an attitude. when I go to bed I like it quiet, he comes in the room and makes so much noise and unfortunately he has a bad habit of bumping his head, it shakes the bed and wakes me up. I just need advice on how to work on me to adjust and get past my feelings. it should not be about my feeling but putting my home in order. any advice would be appreciated. thank you

thank you angels, the young man has never lived with me and I don't think he has ever felt that overwhelming excepting love. But I am going to follow your advice and keep casting all my emotions on the lord and ask him to direct me in love and peace.

Angels to be honest I had not prayed on it yet. I came straight to the WEB site so that I could share and express myself in a positive way. and look for advice from others before I react negatively. I have been responding really negatively in my life as of recently and I know I need to change that so I am making that effort. however I am about to get ready for the end of my day and I plan to spend some time in prayer on every thing that is going on in my life.

thank you so much for your prayers and advice. at this point I am ready to walk away from the whole situation. I told my husband it is in his hands but I really do not want his son to live with me if he can not respect me, my home and my rules. I was raised that you have to work hard and obey the law in order to succeed in life. and those are the standards I have set for my home. I don't believe in you lying around and sleeping all day playing video games or smoking drugs. I had a hard enough time working with his father while he was getting off of drugs. I have just had enough. thank you so much!!!!!!

you know life is really starting to get funny. Just last week I was really going through a storm and I reached out for prayers and just when the sun was begging to shine I am about to be hit with another whammy. God has truly blessed me because not only did I have my birth mother in my life but I have a good stepfather, god mother and my god father just recently passed away. all of them loved me and never made me feel unwanted or like a was a burden in their lives. My husband had five other children before we met If you have seen my prayer request you would also see that I was just recently dealing with him mentally spazzing out on me due to family issues from his father and his children. So to day he calls me and tells me that his oldest son (who is 17) is having issues with his mother. She gets child support for this young man however instead of giving him the money for shoes and clothes and school. She comes out of her mouth that he has to pay to live with her so because she moved into a new house and has a mortgage, she wants to use the child support to help her with her bills. Not to mention she has five other children and their father doesn't pay a dime. So I said to him it sounds like she is trying to push his son out of the house because he will be 18 in December. my husband says I don't have a problem with him living with me. And I wanted to gasp. now I tried to be a positive figure in this young mans life but he made if clear that he did not like me and wanted nothing to do with me but if I were spending money on him, he wanted whatever I bought and was like on to the next thing. So now that he is almost an adult what, or why would he even listen to the rules in my house. He doesn't respect his birth mothers home. And I am suppose to be just excepting of what is to come. I have a fiver year old that I am trying to raise I am struggling to stay above water and provide for my house hold. My husband is scrapping together what he can but the boat load is on me. what do I do just be supportive and keep quiet or stand firm and say I am done.

It is so hard to explain. The very things o loved about my husband for years have now changed to almost hate. We were friends for years and I had such a crush on him. He worked hard and had a giving heart. Now he is not trying as head to find a job and his attentive giving nature is towards every one but me. He was using drugs last year and we had to separate now that we are back together it is like two room mates. I just want a little dealing if being loved back!

hello, i am new to this and would like to know how does the bible study work. Do we just read the post and respond based on the topic is there particular reading we do then we post comments after we have read what was posted and the private reading. any guidance would be appreciated.