Hmmm... 69 pages of replies over a span of almost 9 years and we still don't have it nailed down yet.
Perhaps their are commonalities on our opinions we can agree on, e.g. regarding God's vs Man's will. What I mean is, if one says "God chooses by His sovereign will" and another says, "Man chooses by his God-given free will", do not they both agree that anyone who chooses Christ is never turned away by the father?
Or if a man is living in sin and his conscience justifies him, one theologian says, "The person lost their salvation" while another says "The person never actually had salvation." Are they both not talking about someone who needs to know Christ as Savior?
Despite our differences of theology or opinion, it seems to me we have more in common than we realize.
Blessings all!