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Hi Zion The church I go to has got around 1500 members, so for obvious reasons it is difficult to make friends. Everyone busy with their own lives.... The church calls New Life Christian Center(NLCC) I live in Croydon. How about you?

Now that is how I read it too. Its not that a Christian can't get divorced for any reason but that they can't get remarried if the spouse didn't commit adultery or abandonment. The penalty outside of these reasons is a life of celibacy until the other spouse dies. It is amazing that you are so strong. I have been celibate for last 5 years and I would like to be married. My ex-husband is healthy as an ox and I do not count on him to be dead any time soon. He committed countless acts of adulterous acts and much worst things than that. Does it mean that I am free to merry?

Hi stacey c I have got 3 kids altogether + I am a single mum. They are in similar age group and there is always something going on with them. At the moment I am experiencing difficulties with my 14 years old son (he will be 15 soon). He wanted to kill himself and tried to jump out of the window on several occasions. His grades went down too. On on occasion he hit me in the arm leaving a big bruise. There was so much cursing and swearing I honestly had enough. I put my foot down and gave him a silent treatment. I stopped trying to please him or make me feel guilty all the time. I also said that if he heats me again I will make him arrested. They are big enough to understand the consequences of their actions. I also said if he doesn't like the rules I can search for a foster family for him. I decided to gave them more responsibilities and house choirs. No doing- no eating! They must also help in food preparation. When they help they can get pocket money. Nothing comes free... I pray for him every night and reassure that I love him despite his horrible behavior. The main break-through was when I send him on the Christian camp and he experienced the work of the Holy Spirit. I will not allow them to bully me or manipulate me with their 'guilt rides' or mood swings. I know what I do for them and I do it with love. If they see they can push you around they will because it is part of their life when they test the boundaries and see how far they can go. They seem to respond better when I give them clear rules and limits.

Hi bornagain 2011 I also used to be part of the new age and have been involved in many ungodly things. I also went through 'living my body' experiences. During one of these activities I saw a big hand opening a door and I saw darkness on the other side. I heard voice telling me to go through the door and I would never had to come back to my body again. I was afraid of it. I heard also another voice calling my name and saying 'this isn't a game'. I wanted to follow this voice. I didn't know who it was but I felt home. I would like to encourage you by sharing my testimony with you. When I lived in South Africa I was advised to go to a christian place to receive prayer and deliverance. At the time I firmly believed in new age movement and everything it represented. I decided to go because I was certain that nothing can shake my beliefs.I thought there was nothing beyond that. In the small room there was an old lady, and she asked me:'do you want me to pray for you?' I said yes because I wanted to challenge myself....The woman prayed less than 5 min. The veil was lifted from my eyes and I saw the truth. I was free and new that whatever I believed 5 min before is a lie. It happened 14 years ago and I have been free from all my witchcraft-evil practices since. Never was attracted to it or desired to practice it again. God is good. 'When the Son sets you free you shall be free indeed' You must be free from it otherwise the devil will have hold on you. In some cases is instant and in other takes time: prayer and fasting( as someone mentioned before).

Hi I think you are not the only one feeling this way. Every day I feel like a stranger in the strange land! Sometimes I find it hard to maintain some friendships and it seems that if people see no use in me they just push me aside (I am talking about non-Christians) In the Church I am attending people are very closed and within their circle of friends, not easily letting new people in. I also live in London.

I think you are right. Perhaps the time isn't right yet. Sometimes I am not sure if the healing process is over. So, what do I do ? Pray and wait? Commit the situation in God's hands? How do I know when I am ready?

Hi Please remember that before anything take place in the physical realm is born in your head and heart first. Obviously it is a temptation. I have been married to a man that have been tempted like that on many occasions and gave in. We are not together any longer. In you heart you already sinned with that woman. It also says in the Bible: 'rebuke the devil and he will flee from you'. It is not easy but is possible. Every action has got consequences. I know it sound harsh but the reality is very painful. I would suggest to renew romance with your wife and give her the attention you wasting on the woman at work. I think the fact that she is attracted to you feeds your ego and boosts your confidence.....It is not wort it: often it starts as a innocent flirt and ends up in divorce. Think about that.

I agree with bopeep1909. I would like to receive honest advice based on my story. I know what the Bible says on divorce, etc. I only would like to know how to apply it in my situation. As a divorced person I have been judged and feel like an outcast. I have been married for 12 years and we have 3 children together. In 2008 I decided to leave my husband. When we met I was 19 and he was 32. At the time I was heavily involved in new age movement, he said he is a Christian. I thought as a Christian he must be a good person; I couldn't be more wrong! We fell in love, got married and had kids. He introduced me to Christianity, I got saved and entirely free from my past and witchcraft practices. The strange part was that the more I loved God the more he was departing from faith. He was very jealous and abusive towards me. With time the violence grew and life became hard to bare. The abuse was in all shape and form: physical, psychological, spiritual, sexual etc. I used to pray for him and fast every Friday for him to change or for me to have more faith and strength to cope. Things went only from bad to worst. After 5 years of marriage I decided to separate from him for 6 months. I thought it will give him time to think and put things right. He said everything will be better, he used many Bible verses to convince me, to show how good he is etc. I decided to give us another chance because of the children and I still loved him. After that the abuse increased and it was worst then ever. He started sleeping around and always justified that it is my fault. I felt rejected, guilty and failure. I kept forgiving him on daily basis, otherwise I would go crazy. I begged him and on many occasions got church people involved but without any changes for better. The last straw on the camels back was that I found out he was sexually abusing one of our children. I had a nervous break down and run away with kids and started new life. It took me 5 years to put my life back on truck and keep the faith. At the moment I feel I am ready for a relationship but I found it impossible to do. I feel like I am cursed or something. I am a woman of one man. When I originally got married it was in believe that it will be 'until death us apart'. I missed the part when husband loves and cherish his wife, provides and protect his family. I still have that desire to marry and have a chance for normal, Godly life. Be divorced is worst than be a widow. No Christian man wants to get involved with a person like me and all non-Christians have only one agenda on mind! What Jesus thinks of me?