Jay99

It hurts, it hurts, it hurts. I have prayed and now I need to talk to her. I told her we need to talk and it's serious. I think she has an idea now cause last night when she came home she asked me is there something wrong and then followed up with did you find something? I said I just wasn't feeling right and she accepted that answer. I wasn't ready to say anything in that moment. This morning I told her I don't want to start the conversation we need to sit down for a couple of hours. I want to hurt her as much a she hurt me right now. That can't be Godly I am sure? The one thing I am thankful (I think) is that there hasn’t been an all out affair Internet or physical (I really hope not) but that's what I am going to find out. There are some other things I found out last night and I have been following up all through the night. Help...and thank you. I know that I have no one to talk this trough with skin on right now but this helps me process things. Your support is appreciated. Peace.

Thank you Kwik....Yes she is a Christian. Not making excuses I all so understand we should know better but sin is sin and I see this as a (silly) (and I am being kind) mistake. I have prayed and felt lead to approach this causally. Sooooo….I asked my wife last night why she changed her status. She told me that after her facebook account was hack a little while ago and she changed her page again she thought because I abbreviated my name I wanted to keep me private. Cause I am kind-of a private person like that…I remember her page being hacked. So I told her that hurt me she apologized and she promptly changed the profile. Ironically, I received tons of like when she did that???? I am starting to hate FB… But now you have got me wondering why would she think like that. My head is spinning and I don’t know what to do. I am trying to keep it together and I am losing it. Now I don’t even know if what she is telling me is the truth…. I feel so alone. Thank you for your advice please pray for me :-(

Thank you servant. I have prayed .. and here I am now. I have prayed and have a peace but I am still unset. Thank you for the input. Other one I will do this again. My wife has said we need more closeness but then does things that undermine that. This is confusing to me. But you are right.

OKAY, HERE GOES. My apologies for the long read but please help me gather my feelings together? This is a facebook story. Last couple of nights ago I was on my facebook and I was checking out friends and I came across my wife’s FB. Not a big deal. So I clicked on her profile and noticed she did not have her relationship status as married anymore? She once did. I do not know when that changed it to nothing or if she changed it but it’s gone. I was a little distressed thinking if she did delete the status what would be her reason be? That made me sad but I let it go and thought I would asker her at a more appropriate time what might have happened. I don’t want to come across as needy or over bearing but it hurt my feelings a little, AM I BEING SILLY? So here is where it gets a little complicated. Last night my wife went to bed and she left her face-book open. She has a small group of private friends that share the same interest in a hobby (so far all females I believe). I was going to close it but something told me to scroll down a bit. (Maybe I should not have done that but I did). I saw my wife posted a picture of a really good looking guy and made some type of suggestive remarks about him. Basically something like “wow how can I work with him” it was obviously in a sexual manner / tone…that got me thinking so I scrolled down more and noticed her commenting on a another male picture shared by a member of the group. I all so read some of her posts to the ladies (them as well) discussing our sex life and their sex lives in small detail. Not graphic but how often and in some cases what we do…etc… After that I close the page and spent the night and early morning chewing over what I hade seen. At no point did I see betrayal in the raw sense but definitely some kind of trust violation. What should I do? or am I at fault for looking at her FB? should I deal with it and ask about the relationship status only? I feel like a creep reading her posts but here we are.

scary....