North.

"she is so far from my type it's become an issue" Is the problem with her appearance anything she can work on? Like weight, garb, ect? Surely you weren't unwilling to "even look at her as it depresses me" while you were dating her? If something has changed, I think you should very gently approach the topic. Clearly she knows something is off, let her help to fix it.

After five months of dating I feel like he should be aware if you guys could work as a pair or not. Ask him bluntly what he sees in his future, if he thinks you're in it, then he should be willing to offer you the security you're after via deactivating his profile. It doesn't mean he's sealing the deal or anything, but he doesn't need to be fishing around for other birds while you're waiting on him. If he's really not ready to commit, then he'd best stop dating and work on himself.

She just wanted to find a easy way to hurt you... and judging by this post it worked. Let it go, she's not worth anymore of your time.