I have high functioning autism. I have trouble with some of the things you mentioned but not all of them describe me. This site has some good resources and information if you are interested:
https://www.autismforums.com/
Yeah, they can be ridiculous. A family friend lives in one and they tell them what kind of plants they are allowed to have outside, there is only a short list of allowable plants.
I have the same problem only with Easter, as I was abused at an Easter egg hunt. My therapist told me a good way to get through the holidays is to create new traditions. Please take care of yourself through this difficult time.
Pennsylvania Family Ordered To Take Down Jesus Christmas Display After Neighbor Said It Was ‘Offensive’
http://start.att.net/news/read/article/fox_news-pennsylvania_family_ordered_to_take_down_jesus_chr-rfoxnews/category/news+
I don't understand why this is considered offensive.
There are Christian toys, such as play Nativity sets. So why not have Muslim toys for Muslims? Also, the Bible talks about people being stoned to death so honestly I don't see a difference.