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  1. To all of my real Christian brothers and sisters who have read my post and responded in love, shed light from a BIBLICAL standpoint (not their own) and gave examples of experiences, letting me know I am not alone, I sincerely appreciate your kindness, as well as, your warm welcomes to this platform. I will also take all of your advice into consideration going forth. I pray that God will bless each of you in abundance. To all who were judgmental, condescending and acting, "Holier than Thou", The Lord Jesus Christ can see right through each one of you. Your are not real Christians, no matter how sweet, inviting and church-going you claim to be. Everything you do is to make yourself look good in public. I know your type. Wolves in Sheep's clothing. You can fool people, but you can not and will not deceive The Most High. Keep responding and arguing by yourselves. I am done with this discussion and I am done with you. I actually feel sorry for you all. I'll pray for you. My conscience is free and clear. At this point, I will no longer be following, or responding to this post that I have created. I walk away with no regrets. My life is composed of so much more than this topic. God bless, JesusIsLove
  2. You seemed to miss the part in my original post when I mentioned how I gave the lady a token of my appreciation during Christmas, and how I did try to reach out to her in other ways. She simply overstepped her boundaries. I have a right to say who does and does not come onto my property, and whom I do and do not choose to share my life or time with. You're entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine. God bless. Yes, you do have any right that you wish to enforce but does that make it the right path? A person is not there just at Christmas time, what would happen if GOD said,. not receiving prayers today, not listening, come back next week? Do you think Jesus would have said to someone , sorry you have overstepped your boundaries, don't have time today? We are called to be Christ like , 1Jn 2:6 He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked. I did extended kindness to this lady even after Christmas by engaging in friendly conversation with her and exchanging phone numbers with her so she could call me if she needed me. I suggested that she call me and did tell her she was welcome at my home as well. I expected her to use common sense and have common courtesy, knowing that it's impolite to come and ring someone's doorbell without calling to let them know you are coming first, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. That is why I gave her my phone number. Besides, I don't live alone like she does, and I have other family members to consider. She should have thought about that as well. She never called me at all. Not once. She decided to manipulate the situation by coming to my home unannounced and stalk every move I made otherwise. I posted all of the above originally. Please read my original post before passing judgement on me and trying to make me out to be unreasonable in God's eyes. That's the tone you have set. Have you ever been stalked, sought after and manipulated by anyone you tried to befriend? If not, you don't know how this feels, and only God can judge. Not you or anyone else. Even if you have experienced this, your way and my way of seeing and doing things are obviously, totally different. That's why God made everyone individually. We are not the same. I am more than aware that we are to be there for others whether it is Christmas or not. I gave that scenario because during that time frame, my family and I were still considered newcomers to the neighborhood, had only spoken to her from a distance, and began to notice and appreciate the fact that she did acknowledge us. We also felt sorry for her. I made it a point to reach out to her, at the suggestion of my mother. It just happened to be Christmas at that particular time. Plain and simple. As far as I know, there is nothing in the bible that says we need to allow others to manipulate us. We are to forgive trespasses, which I have done. I have also asked God to forgive mine. Furthermore, every situation and person that enters our life is not always of God. That's why he gives us discernment so we can protect ourselves from people who take advantage of our kind nature. Again, you're entitled to your opinion and I am entitled tom mine. Truthfully, God's opinion is the only one that hold weight. If He disagrees with me, and he just might, HE will let me know and I will take heed to His advice. I will not argue this any further. Keep going if you wish.
  3. I understand what you are saying, and you are correct. The Lord Jesus Christ does sometimes bring forth uncomfortable situations in order to try and change us for the better and make us like Him. Also to show us the errors of our ways. I am open to that, and in other responses I've given to Biblical advice such as yours, I did acknowledge this. I made everyone aware in my original post, that I spoke to the The Lord Jesus Christ in prayer, and asked him for forgiveness regarding my actions toward my elderly neighbor. I take from this, God may have been trying to teach me to step outside of my comfort zone, and befriend a lonely, elderly person. In my defense, as I have been saying repeatedly, I tried that. The lady began overstepping her boundaries and becoming fixated on me in a peculiar way. That was when I chose to turn her away. Not anytime before this. I was more than willing to be her friend, within reasonable boundaries. I do believe that God gives us opportunities to show kindness to others in need, but I'm also believe that God does not necessarily require us to be a doormat for people to walk all over and be manipulated. Sometimes, it's quite possible that certain situations, as well as people, are not sent from God, and he tells us when it is time to step away from that person and/or situation. Especially when He sees that we have put for an effort to be as kind and generous as we can be to others. Thank you for giving Biblical advice. God bless.
  4. You seemed to miss the part in my original post when I mentioned how I gave the lady a token of my appreciation during Christmas, and how I did try to reach out to her in other ways. She simply overstepped her boundaries. I have a right to say who does and does not come onto my property, and whom I do and do not choose to share my life or time with. You're entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine. God bless.
  5. Well, this is strange for me because I was not raised with an, "Open Door Policy". My family and I have never run an open house for people to feel free to come by whenever they choose. We require people to visit on our terms, by notifying us via telephone first, because it is our home, not theirs! Good for you if you feel the need to allow people to dictate your time. I WILL NOT allow anyone of any age to make me feel obligated to them. Even though she was the only person in the community that was friendly to me and my loved ones when we first moved in, that does not give her license to be manipulative and overbearing. Also, just because she is my elder and very lonely, does not make her innocent. Older people are not exempt from being held accountable for their actions. God does not play favorites, and he sees everybody for who they really are and what their true intentions are. When you mentioned, and I quote, " An opportunity to show the love of Jesus to a lonely person", had you fully read my original post, you would have seen that I tried that in the beginning. My mother advised me to take her a token of appreciation this past Christmas. This woman was the one who insisted that I come into her home, and she walked me through her entire house, showing me all of her personal belongings. That, in my eyes was not nescessary or appropriate. She did not know me well enough at all, and vice versa. Not long after that, this lady began overstepping her boundaries and stalking my every move! It was extremely awkward and annoying. Maybe YOU would enjoy that, but I did not. Also, what makes you so sure she looks at me as a daughter? Her ways and actions suggested to ME that she thought of me as someone she could take advantage of. If you have never been through this, YOU have absolutely no idea what it's like to feel sought after by a person who has become fixated on YOU in an unhealthy manner. Especially someone you barely know. YOU are assuming that she is a sweet, innocent and harmless, little old lady. I have dealt with her, and if I barely know her, YOU most certainly know even less than I do about this woman. Easy for you to be so judgemental. YOU have an, "Open Door Policy", I DO NOT. As far as me needing her one day, I do not depend on PEOPLE, I depend on GOD to provide for me and my family and watch over us. I was not raised to be a clingy and needy person. The Lord Jesus Christ has always, always been there for me and my loved ones, through thick and thicker. I know He will continue to be there. People come and go! I do not owe her coffee or anything else. Besides, she has never offered me or my loved ones anything except intrusiveness. I refuse to be a doormat. Thank you. Proverbs 25:17 Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee. Verse 17. - Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; literally, make thy foot precious, rare; Septuagint, "Bring thy foot sparingly (σπάνιον) into thy friend's house," The proverb seems to be loosely connected with the preceding, as urging moderation. Do not pay too frequent visits to your neighbors' house, or make yourself too much at home there. You seem so angry and defensive. Trying to tell people off who don't agree with you, or post things you take issue with, is not a Christ-like attitude. When you post your personal problems here, expect people to respond. Who are YOU to tell ME what a Christ-like attitude is?! I never asked anyone to agree with me, I asked for good, sound, Godly advice, which I was not given by you or the other individual you are defending.
  6. If you don't want opinions or others' points of view, don't post your problems. I gave you mine and I will continue to post on any thread I please. Oh, btw, this IS a Christian forum and Christians DO have opinions. I think I understand your post for what it is. Yes, I did post my issue seeking advice. GODLY/BIBLICAL advice. Thank you very much. Not someone giving WORLDY advice, suggesting that I never acknowledge the existence of this woman again, as you said. Do you honestly think your advice to me was from a Christian standpoint? You even said you were going by the way YOU would handle it. Think about what YOU said! YOU did not give advice that comes from the Bible/God's word. Again, it was WORDLY. Furthermore, I did not tell you not to respond to other threads. I asked you not to respond to mine, since we obviously do not agree. Even if you do continue commenting on my post, it doesn't mean I have to accept what YOU say! As far as, "Understanding my post for what it is ", as you said, you understood what you felt was relevant to YOU!
  7. Hello, Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. Might I say, I am very sorry for everything you've had to endure from your brother and the older woman and pastor who took advantage of your kindness. Rest assured, God will deal with them. Both of your examples have made me so grateful that I did not allow things to go any further than they already had with my elderly neighbor. I put an end to her behavior in the nick of time. I would almost rather have this lady hate me, than become as dependent on me as that older woman became with you. There are some people that you can not be nice to in this world. It makes me think that some people may be lonely for good reason! Others may know something about these individuals that we don't, and we end up finding out the hard way. From what you have experienced with people who have hurt and betrayed your trust, I'm quite certain you proceed with a lot more caution than you did before. I don't blame you one bit. I, in turn, will do the same. I've learned, everyone that goes to church and refers to themself as a child of God, is not always who or what they claim to be. For some people, it's all for show! They may fool the public, but they can't fool The Lord Jesus Christ. This I know. God bless you.
  8. Well, this is strange for me because I was not raised with an, "Open Door Policy". My family and I have never run an open house for people to feel free to come by whenever they choose. We require people to visit on our terms, by notifying us via telephone first, because it is our home, not theirs! Good for you if you feel the need to allow people to dictate your time. I WILL NOT allow anyone of any age to make me feel obligated to them. Even though she was the only person in the community that was friendly to me and my loved ones when we first moved in, that does not give her license to be manipulative and overbearing. Also, just because she is my elder and very lonely, does not make her innocent. Older people are not exempt from being held accountable for their actions. God does not play favorites, and he sees everybody for who they really are and what their true intentions are. When you mentioned, and I quote, " An opportunity to show the love of Jesus to a lonely person", had you fully read my original post, you would have seen that I tried that in the beginning. My mother advised me to take her a token of appreciation this past Christmas. This woman was the one who insisted that I come into her home, and she walked me through her entire house, showing me all of her personal belongings. That, in my eyes was not nescessary or appropriate. She did not know me well enough at all, and vice versa. Not long after that, this lady began overstepping her boundaries and stalking my every move! It was extremely awkward and annoying. Maybe YOU would enjoy that, but I did not. Also, what makes you so sure she looks at me as a daughter? Her ways and actions suggested to ME that she thought of me as someone she could take advantage of. If you have never been through this, YOU have absolutely no idea what it's like to feel sought after by a person who has become fixated on YOU in an unhealthy manner. Especially someone you barely know. YOU are assuming that she is a sweet, innocent and harmless, little old lady. I have dealt with her, and if I barely know her, YOU most certainly know even less than I do about this woman. Easy for you to be so judgemental. YOU have an, "Open Door Policy", I DO NOT. As far as me needing her one day, I do not depend on PEOPLE, I depend on GOD to provide for me and my family and watch over us. I was not raised to be a clingy and needy person. The Lord Jesus Christ has always, always been there for me and my loved ones, through thick and thicker. I know He will continue to be there. People come and go! I do not owe her coffee or anything else. Besides, she has never offered me or my loved ones anything except intrusiveness. I refuse to be a doormat. Thank you. Proverbs 25:17 Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee. Verse 17. - Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; literally, make thy foot precious, rare; Septuagint, "Bring thy foot sparingly (σπάνιον) into thy friend's house," The proverb seems to be loosely connected with the preceding, as urging moderation. Do not pay too frequent visits to your neighbors' house, or make yourself too much at home there.
  9. I'm going to jump in here, if I may. I guess I'm looking at the whole thing from the perspective of how I would handle the situation. I would simply not speak to or even acknowledge the existence of this woman ever again. I don't understand what you mean by 'taking it out on your brother'. This woman has no power over you, your brother or any of your family. You are making her WAY too important but, if you think she's deranged or something, don't give her access to your home or family.. Odds are your neighbors don't want anything to do with her either because they've been down that road already. It IS sad that she's so lonely but you're not obligated to be her friend or confidante....just common courtesy is all that is required and you've provided that and gotten burned in the process. You don't owe her anything else, my friend. MorningGlory, Firstly, I never said this woman had any power over me or my family. I never said I owed her anything either. That is nowhere in my post or comments to other responses. Thank you. Secondly, as far as me "making her WAY too important", as you put it, is not correct either. It seems as if you have misunderstood this entire forum and the reason for my post. I only posted this issue to receive Biblical advice/wisdom/understanding, from my fellow Christian brothers and sisters on how to handle this situation and stay within God's rules. Also, I was curious as to whether or not anyone has ever dealt with this, since I am new to this particular experience of having an overbearing neighbor. As it turned out, 2 individuals have been through this and gave very helpful advice, letting me know I am not alone. They also responded with a lot more tact than you. I did not think that someone with a WORLDY point of view would even bother to "Jump In", as you said. I thought this was a Christian forum, for people with a Christian heart. Thirdly, when I mentioned her taking it out on my brother, I did originally say that she gave him the cold shoulder when he tried to greet her. In other words, she was not as friendly to him as she used to be, seemingly trying to get back at me for my actions toward her. Everyone else seemed to understand that............ Going forward, I would appreciate it if you and others who may share your point of view, did not respond. I am trying to change for the better, not worse. Thanks.
  10. Thank you. I must say, you made a strong point when you mentioned how being bullied at some point in your life can cause you to be a people pleaser. When I was a child, I was bullied in school. No matter how much I tried to fit in, it never seemed to do much to change things. When I became a teenager in High School, I became a bit more popular and had a group of friends that I already knew from Junior High School to hang out and clown with. Mostly when we were in school. Outside of school, each summer I looked forward to hanging out with my best friend who came to visit her grandparents who lived 1 house over from me. After I graduated High School, I lost contact with each of my friends from school, and soon enough, by the time I started college, my best friend from out of town made herself scarce because she was starting college as well. After a while, I lost contact with her due to growing into adulthood and each of us trying to find our own way. In other words, we grew apart. That was normal. The thing is, I became very accustomed to being alone and having my privacy. I actually preferred it. It takes too much time, energy and effort to build a friendship with someone, and I realize, I do not have the patience for it. To this day, my mind has not really changed. I no longer have a desire for close friends anymore. I appreciate a friendly distance between myself and others. The closer people come, the further away I push them, until I get rid of them for good. Especially if they are pushy. My grandmother always told me, people are only acquaintances, not friends. People are only in your life for a season and they will usually disappoint you in some way. The older I have become, the more I see how correct she was. Mostly because I have lived long enough to experience it for myself. I have built a large wall around myself that I am quite comfortable with and only I choose whom can and can not cross over it. Again, when people get too close for my comfort level, I push them away. I agree that I should have set ground rules in the beginning, but I expected my elderly neighbor to be old and wise enough to respect boundaries. I guess I expected more than she was capable of giving. Just as, she expected more of a close, personal friendship with me than I was capable or willing to give her. I am finding that many people these days, regardless of how old they are, lack common sense and common courtesy. They want respect, but refuse to give it. This may sound harsh, but I am being honest. I have learned my lesson for a lifetime. Be friendly from a distance and always, always set boundaries. Thank you again for your advice. God bless.
  11. My Christian Sister, I hear what you are saying and you are 100% correct. I am thinking about this matter from my own perspective, not God's. I will be the first to admit that I have always struggled with forgiveness. Not to make excuses, but my family and I have been disrespected by so many individuals in the past. Mostly the ones we went out of our way to be kind to. Somewhere along the way, I developed a bitter spirit of distrust and unforgiveness toward people in general, and it doesn't take much for me to cut people out of my life. I find it very easy. My heart has hardened in that respect and it's something my mother is constantly speaking to me and warning me about. I know for a fact that God is speaking to me each day in his own way, telling me to let go of anger and animosity against those who have wronged me and my loved ones over the years, and most recently. It is something I have been trying to work on for a while, and get a grip on so I can make my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ proud. I care what he thinks of me. Not the world. I will seriously consider apologizing to this lady, and pray that God will help her overcome her issues. Thank you for your words of wisdom my sister. May God bless you richly.
  12. @kwickphilly My sister, you are correct. In fact, my mother tried to tell me that I should have made it clear from the beginning that I am a person who enjoys privacy and I do not like frequent visitors stopping by unannounced. Mom also told me that I should have recommended that she called first. If my mother could read this, she would say, "I told you so." Lol!! I did bring this on myself without realizing it. My thought was, since my family and I are fairly new to the area, we should try to make friends with whomever seems like they want to be friendly. I just expected her to befriend us within reason and know her boundaries. I think I expected too much in this case because everyone has different ideas about friendship. As far as the two of us having nothing in common, I truly believe that to be the truth. Each conversation I've ever had with her has not been in regards to anything other than neighborhood issues. She always seemed to try and make up things to talk about just to keep me outside conversing with her. Probably because she was/is very lonely. The thing is, although I understand she is lonesome, she should understand that I am a fairly young person and I have family and other responsibilities to occupy my time. My family, especially my mother who is also an older woman, needs me. She has health problems. So does my brother. They are both on disability. I am all they have and vice versa. Needless to say, I love them. Aside from The Lord Jesus Christ who comes first in my life, my mother and brother are also a high priority with me. I wish that she could have respected that. She is older than my mother, but my mother is still my mother and she will come before others. Except God of course. Besides, I barely know this lady and she barely knows me. She wanted to become too close too soon with someone she just met. Why didn't she see that? Sadly, she ended up wearing out her welcome. As a result, she has chosen to take it out on my brother, and I do not appreciate that at all. Neither does my mother. He had nothing to do with the way I responded to her. This says something about her character. I believe she should be held accountable for her actions and ask for forgiveness as well. Sometimes, the older generation think they can get away with anything because of their age. God sees everyone the same way in that respect. He judges by the heart, not age. Do you agree sister?
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