My mom died when I was 10. My dad remarried and my sister was 5 and Considers our stepmom the only mother she's ever had. Her values and morals are different than mine because I took a more spiritual path with my grandmother as my role model. I met my husband when I was 17, married him when I was 28 and now I am almost 40. My sister is 35 and is very attractive and outgoing. Physically we get told we're very alike. However, in the spiritual realm we're very different: She's single, mundane, promiscuous, histrionic and very flirtatious - she lives the Miami life. I've been kind of like her mother in many ways, always giving her advice on how to be a good person, tried to turn her to God,but she won't listen and its like I'm throwing pearls to a pig. We no longer have much in common. She has always envied me and when she visits me in South Carolina she shows off, dresses inappropriately around the house, and flirts with my husband - its like a fun competition to her to get all the attention. My husband says he only sees her as a little sister but he responds to her flirtatious ways saying he is just being courteous to "family". She is also overly affectionate with my 4 year old son trying to out-do me in everything - she has always wanted kids but feels and acts 19. I feel VERY uncomfortable when she is around, to the point it sickens me when she is around my husband at family reunions (which don't happen that often, thank God). My husband is not very open about religion or a spiritual leader in our home and he's also mundane, something I am praying about very much. It worries me that my sister has said she is applying for a job here in South Carolina and will have to move here in about 3 months if she gets it. I don't want her around my family. We live in love peace and harmony and it will be extremely disturbing to have her be close to me as I feel it will be a temptation to my husband, so my anxiety is through the roof. I am trying to let go and let God but I need advice on how to keep it together. Please help me figure out what to do - I am a woman of faith and want to do Gods will here. I have not told my husband about this yet because he'll just say I'm blowing things out of proportion and think I am crazy.
