SamLeeBR423

Thank you very much for your feedback. I think I did not quite communicate myself very clearly about my cheating history. I cheated on the first girlfriend I ever had about 10 years ago. This was during my first year in post secondary. Since then, I have regretted it and have been faithful to my other girlfriends since then. Ever girl that I have been involved with is aware of my history. Emdie, I've spent the majority of my life as a very strong atheist and was raised to work hard to get things done. With the recent conversion to Christianity, I feel as I don't understand or perhaps unknowingly mis-understand the path God has given me versus what I need to work hard for. For example, I felt that God has given me a second chance at my girlfriend when we got back together because she is the one for me and decided to work extremely hard at our relationship. Today, I am feeling that this break-up can be a test from God to see if I really believe that she is the one for me. I still keep praying to God asking him to guide me though my life. The past couple of days have been rough, and for the first time in years I decided to masturbate to porn. I read once as a Reddit 'Life Tip Pro' to masturbate before any major decisions to see how you really think (sort of like Pheobe Buffay's Answer The Question As Fast As You Can game). I must have masturbated half dozen times, and each time I feel as though I may have the strength to let my girlfriend go but I don't want to because I think she is the one for me. My parents are actually Christian. I am brought up in a Christian household. My parents didn't have much time to bring my brother or myself to Christ much as they worked hard to ensure my brother and I was able to get a decent education (we grew up very poor - ie McDonald burgers were a special treat). They brought me to Church when I was younger, but I was very rebellious and quickly hated anything Christian. Fast forward to several years ago to my angry and painful self. I had no where to turn for peace so for once in my life I willingly asked God for help. I started going to a nearby church and met some great people there. Since then I can honestly say that things have been looking up. Although I do have an awful lot more to learn about God, I feel that I am on the right path. I do feel closer to God each month as my life takes an unexpected turn bringing me closer to God. Kwik, that is a lovely story with your son and I do hope that my girlfriend and I will get back together. I feel like this breakup is what I needed for me to see how much she means to me, and how she was helping guide me through my life. I will pray to God tonight to help reveal my own heart to myself and to change it if I do have wrong desires. Missmuffet, yes I understand cheating is wrong but that was 10 years ago during my first year in post secondary. I have regretted my actions since then, and I have changed dramatically. Yes, I do think I am slowly becoming a Christian now. I don't think I am fully there, but I think the progress is fairly good when considering 2 years ago I was an anti Christian. In addition, I think I exhibit the attributes defined in your list, however, I do not agree that those are what makes a good Christian partner. I think that list defines a 'basic' partner, but a Christian partner needs to be much more. I think the main difference between a good Christian and non Christian partner is that a Christian one would push each other to grow and become more involved with God.

My girlfriend just broke up with me a few days ago, and I don't know what to do. We broke up because I was not there for her during critical points in her life, she thinks I may cheat on her in the future, and that she wants to be single so she can focus on her career. I think I just need some direction on what to do in my life. I don't feel sad, upset, angry... I just feel nothing and I don't know why. My girlfriend (now ex) and I are in our late 20s. My first relationship ended as I cheated with my second girlfriend. My second relationship ended as I was too involved with work. My just now ex girlfriend has had several past relationship, and her two most recent ones involved the guy cheating on her. I met my girlfriend about 3 years ago. We quickly became good friends and started dating. We dated for 2 months but she broke up with me as she was afraid that I would cheat on her and that I was not a Christian. She utterly destroyed me as I literally stopped functioning from all the pain for months and months. I didn't know what else to do so for the first time ever I tried turning to God for help and he brought me peace. Since then I've been learning more about Christianity and slowly becoming a devoted Christian. Half a year after we broke up, I reached out to her and we restarted our relationship again:) The first 8 months were very difficult as I was so afraid I would loose her again. But we worked really hard and I felt like we had a strong foundation. Since then, I felt like the relationship has been pretty solid minus a feel bumps along the way. We had grown deeper together, and I have opened myself up to her in a way I have never done before. She was my ultimate best friend and companion, and I looked up to her for my Christianity guidance (minus my church friends, pretty much all of my other friends are atheists or anti-religious). Last weekend we got into an argument and things weren't the same since then. She asked me to help her with something, but instead of giving her a straight answer I got mad at her instead for another issue. That argument sparked why she wanted to break up with me. She was very considerate and understand that I am under a lot of pressure at work to meet project deadlines so she waited until the weekend to break up with me. Our breakup was very calm and just involved chatting about her decision. It has been a few days since we have broken up and I am completely lost. I didn't show up to work today, and don't think I'll be able to go into work tomorrow. I haven't left the house, or talked to anyone except God. I barely have an appetite, and I can't focus on any of my hobbies. I really miss my girlfriend, and oddly I feel that this breakup makes me realize how much I really love her. I was really lucky to have had a relationship with such a wonderful girl. I felt like I have always been very independent in my previous relationships but now without her I feel lost. One thing about me is that I am an extremely hard worker and I don't ever give up in anything I believe in until I have exhausted all realistic possibilities. I like to have a general plan to the direction in my life - like the next steps I'll take. I still have my hobbies and career that I want to focus on, but I'm trying to decide what I should do with my ex girlfriend. I feel like that we have so much untapped potential together, but at the same time I feel like she deserves someone much better then me. I don't know if I should respect her wishes in breaking up or if I should chase her again. I have tried asking God for guidance, but I'm still relatively new to being a Christian so I feel like my connection is him is not very strong. I guess I just don't know what to do.