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Thank you all so very much for your advice. This is very helpful to me. I will share the scriptures with my boyfriend and see what he says. I have brought up Matthew 19:5 to him in the past, but that didn't seem to make much of a difference. His parents have been reiterating Ephesians 6:1-3 6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” And this has his feeling conflicted. He even went to his pastor who gave him the same advice and told him he shouldn't marry without his parent's blessings. He sent me a sermon from Moody's Ministries, where the pastor said one is to obey his/her parents, even if they think they are wrong or don't agree, for there is blessing in it. My thinking is that yes, we must all obey our parents, but the scripture goes on to say, "in the Lord", this to me means that as long as it is within Christian principles, you should obey your parents. But if it is not in the Lord, or not within Christian principles, then you are not breaking the Lord's commandment by not obeying. Am I wrong in deriving this translation from the scripture?

My boyfriend and I are Christian and love each other very much. We would like to get married, however there is one big problem. His parents, who are also Christian, do not approve of our relationship. They haven't met me yet, and they refuse to meet me because my parents are not Christian. In their eyes, my boyfriend shouldn't marry someone whose parents are not Christian as they may have an unchristian influence on our home or in our children's lives. We have already talked about how we would raise our kids in a Christian home using Christian principles. My boyfriend and I are really struggling with this. We believe that children should obey and honor their parents, even through we are both adults. And without their blessings he doesn't feel like he can or should marry me. What should we do? Is it unchristian to choose your own husband/wife or to marry without parents' blessings? Please advise. We want to follow the Christian path. We're both praying about this, but need advice.