BacKaran you are spot on. No we have never been to a doctor for any possible diagnosis but I have noticed stark symptoms of bipolar. I have also later learned from my brother-in-law that her mother (my mother-in-law) often abused their father in a similar manner she has been conducting herself in our marriage viz Selfishness, manipulation, tantrums, demanding...etc. Im happy to know that u were able to coexist with your mother peacefully. I want to know, how did ur experiences living under those circumstances affect you and affect your relationships?