Wheezie

This girl was my bff in grade school ... through highschool we didnt stay close but I was always there for her when life was down and she was the same for me ... I practically lived at her house on the weekends growing up Love her mom like my own mom. Its not just 'how it looks' or even that she had to tell me ... she ended up in te local jail and while there I went to visit her egery weekend. When it got close for her time served we tried to get her to enroll in Teen Challenge ... of course she had excuses and she had no where else to go when she left jail ... so I let her move in with me. Anyhow, things started going haywire and next thing I know this kid is showing up at my house and then finally she took off and didnt come back ... after she got in trouble locally (she has arrest warrants out for her in two counties) her and this boy decided they needed to get clean ... so off to Florida they went ... that was October of last year. She says she went through detox and rehab and has been sober 6 months ... but she has no accountabilty to family and the only person that can verify her sobriety is the boy who she did drugs with ... they both have jobs (?) and she doesnt have plans to move home because everything is a trigger ... but in reality the boy is in worse trouble than her and they would both probably end up arrested if they came back. Her mom and now ex husband is raising her kids ... she facetimes and texts them and I think that it seems like enough to satify her feeling like she is involved in their life (she doesnt financially take care of them in any way) ... and yes I am a Christian and pray for her ... she is reaching out to me but I just want somebody to tell me what to say ... because I dont want to be a jerk but I definitely dont want to act like Im all happy that she is pregnant and still living irresponsibly. She says she goes to church down where she is at ... but not sure what kind of church. Obviously she is living with a man she is not married to ... I just dont know what to say or how to say whatever it is to her ... I hate avoiding her ... please help

Hello. I have a friend who got into drugs and basically abandoned her two girls and left her husband for another guy half her age. They are supposedly clean and she just found out that she is pregnant. (mind you she has chosen this guy over her daughters as he can not come back to this area where they are). Her comment is she feels its God's will because she already has so many health problems and only a 5% chance of getting pregnant ... I disagree. So I have been avoiding her because Im not sure what to say to her and I dont think it would be right to 'congratulate' her. But I also know that life is precious no matter the circumstance ... what would you say to her?