Kgill99

XD No my name is not karrie. Thanks for the advice. I definitely agree that sometimes we have to get a little rough to get all our feelings out but at the same time I didn't want it to come to that. I think I'll wait and see if she comes back around. We will tell her how we've all been feeling and if she gets mad she gets mad, we can't stop her. Honestly duking it out might help like you said, but I won't resort to that unless she does something to warrant it.

I know it's definitely my mom's place to handle it and yes, god's too. The only issue I have is that she's treated all of us like garbage for so long and I feel like if she has enough gall to hit our mother over absolutely nothing, I'm afraid she's gonna start hitting me too. And I know we are to turn the other cheek but if she starts beating on me I will defend myself. She's mean to all of us, I just never expected her to cross the line of hitting. I know darn well she needs medication and therapy but she won't go and she vehemently refuses to take medicine. All 3 of us have issues. I take my pills and have come a long way from how awful I used to behave as a kid. She won't take anything no matter how hard we try to explain that it will help her feel better and think better. I told our mom I feel like she does all this awful stuff to us and never gets consequences. She never has to face the repercussions of her actions and if she does she won't tell you she cares. I used to be so close to her. Now she's like a monster that I don't even know and all I can do is ask God to handle it...

Ok. I am a new member here, and I really need some advice. I am a Christian and I have a pretty close relationship with God. I'm having trouble knowing what God wants me to do in the situation I am in. I have 2 sisters, both older than me. My oldest sister is annoying and I have trouble getting along with her occaisionally, but she isn't overly bad or abusive. My middle sister, however, has caused so much drama and pain and upset to all of us for the past 5 or so years. She moved out because she got mad at our mother over something stupid and left to live at their dad's house. I have a different dad than them. She got really into alcohol and drugs and almost died in a bathtub. Then she decided she was Christian and went to church every Sunday and acted all proper after she quit the drugs. That only lasted a few months however, and she was only doing it to get approval from her dads side of the family. Well she worked with a bunch of rather, well, sleazy people and had all this casual sex and all these boyfriends and does all these absolutely terrible things and still acts like she's such a good Christian. I'm not saying I don't sin and I don't do bad things. None of us are worthy of gods gift. But the bible clearly says that if you talk the talk you should walk the walk and she doesn't even TRY. She has become rather abusive towards our mother verbally, and even hit her Sunday when she told her to quit arguing with her boyfriend in the store in the phone because we were getting uncomfortable. She punched my mom in the chest and my mom has a bad back so her back went out from the twisting motion. I wanted so badly to hurt her for doing that to our mother. Livid doesn't even begin to describe it. I managed to turn the other cheek and not hit her, but I'm now struggling with how we should handle her. I love her, she's my sister, but it just isn't healthy for us to be around her. God says to show mercy to those who don't deserve it, and I want to, but I also need to put my foot down and give her an ultimatum. Either she straightens up and quits dating trashy men and abusing our mom, or she isn't welcome anymore. Is this too harsh? Would that be unmerciful?

So the best thing I could suggest if you aren't ready for a child, is to give the child up for adoption. You don't have the kid and she doesn't have to go against her wishes and the issue is solved in a nonviolent way. Regards