I hope this is proper to ask here. I'm having trouble finding anyone I trust to be confidential to give me Christian insight on this issue. I'm a born again Christian married for many years, and the mother to a child with autism. There are strains and stresses in my life and marriage, as in any. Recently I found inappropriate messages that my husband sent to another woman, such as that he's attracted to her and if she ever feels the need to "sext" he's available, among other things, just that those were the 2 worst that I saw. He does not know I've seen the messages, and I'm definitely NOT in the habit of spying on him - just had a gut feeling that something was "off" due to his behavior when texting, and gave in to the temptation to check his messages. I'm not proud that I did, but now that I know I'm unsure of how to proceed. He's not easy to speak with about things that he may have done that hurt or upset me; tends to get very defensive and deflect. Of course, a part of me wonders if I'm overreacting, or if I'm right to be concerned. Any advice? The only previous advice I got was that I needed to be more open to his desires...
