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  1. naominash


    In a hard situation, with life seemingly out of control, I've lashed out at my husband. I was miserable and I wanted to make sure he knew it and that it was all his fault. I didn't care that I hurt him in the process. I have no friends in this new place. No church to attend. I'm staying with in-laws that are anxious for us to leave. I stopped trying to cling to God last week and sunk into frustration and spiritual failure. Now I'm just hanging on because I figure God doesn't want me to take my stuff and just leave. I've put out an application for an apartment. Please pray that we'll be able to move out as soon as we can. Please pray for me because I'm not handling things graciously anymore.
  2. naominash

    Why can't God give me a break?

    Hello Wintercharm, I'm in a stressful season as well. i definitely understand ranting and raving. The answer that I came up with is that God works best through our weakness. We are jars of clay, earthen vessels. The good news is that God chooses weak people to accomplish His will. These trials mean that He wants to use you in some way. 2 Corinthians 4:7 New King James Version (NKJV) 7 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us. We suffer for a short season (life is short) and it produces an eternal weight of glory that will result in praise at the revelation of Christ. Think of it this way. Anyone can exercise some man-made amount of patience when things are going well. But it is the soul who has learned to trust in the Lord that remains steadfast when everything is falling apart. This results in our future glory and glory to God. But these aggravations force our impurities to rise to the surface, reminding us of our need for Christ's power. Remember that we will reign with Christ, but we are not better than Christ. We will suffer in this world. However, the suffering and reproach of Christ is better than passing through with comfort (Hebrews 11: 24-26). Keep your mind on eternity, the New Heavens and the New Earth. Our true life begins there. God asks us to remain faithful in the meantime like a Bride waiting for the Bridegroom. Here are practical tips: 1) Do no neglect your devotional time. God's word is like a lifeline. 2) Do not neglect yourself. Are you sleeping enough? Eating as well as you can? Getting in exercise? When we are lonely, tired, hungry, or angry, a bad situation becomes so much worse. We are both spiritual and physical beings. You can't function under constant stress and the Lord knows it. 3) Be realistic in your expectations of what you can do. For example, some people can work a full=time job, go to school, and juggle kids. I personally don't need to put myself under all that pressure. I will get sick. If you need to scale back on some responsibility to keep your sanity, than I highly suggest that. 4) Do something that you enjoy, that takes your mind off things, that is just for you on a weekly basis. I love libraries and doing stuff alone!
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    A Quiet and Gentle Spirit

    Thank you all for the wonderful responses to my posts. In Christ, I AM gentle and quiet in spirit. It just takes faith to believe that.
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    A Quiet and Gentle Spirit

    1 Peter 3:3-5 New King James Version (NKJV) 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the [a]incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. How does a woman acquire a quiet and gentle spirit that trusts in the Lord? I only know about two women who seem to have that. I have good moments but often I feel the need to be brash, or tough, to get my point across or be respected. I feel like gentleness gets lost in the day to day struggle i go through sometimes and as I deal with my husband, I know I have room to grow.
  5. Okay. I looked closer at the Egypt thing. I really think pursuing a career and job is Egypt for me.
  6. I am not in any way saying higher education or career are bad things. But these are definitely things the world says you have to have above Christ. Recently, I realized I have no real desire to advance my career right now. I currently work at a deli. As soon as my husband can maintain a living space without my income, I want to become a stay-at-home Mom. My mind is usually split on which way to move forward, but now things are clearer. I realized this because of Hebrews 11. Hebrews 11:24-26 New King James Version (NKJV) 24 By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, 25 choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the [a]passing pleasures of sin, 26 esteeming the [b]reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures [c]in Egypt; for he looked to the reward. Growing up, I was in a comfortable household and raised to got to college, get a career, and worry about children last. This is reinforced by society and the desire to uphold a certain standard of living. Which makes sense from a practical perspective. However, I believe the Lord would much rather me stay at home and raise kids for a variety of reasons. First and foremost, I believe it would bless us as a family and open up time for volunteering and ministry. To me, the full-time salary job represents Egypt. It's definitely what my parents want me to go for. But not using my degree right now and becoming a stay-at-home mom? To me, that represents the reproach of Christ. Women are expected to both work and raise children these days, and pursue higher education first and women who don't are considered lazy or foolish. While I take no issue with those who work and raise kids, my heart's just not in it and the Lord has been working on me to trust Him about these matters for a long time now.
  7. naominash

    Yelling Into the Battle

    Ever see someone about to go into battle or try or face some huge obstacle and they yell to get in the right spirit to fight? Well that's what I'm doing today. I may not be yelling but I am fighting tooth and nail to not fall into despair about my situation. Maybe yesterday I felt like all I could to was complain and argue. But it's a new day and I'm fighting back in Christ. All thanks goes to the Lord. He is my sword and shield. The name of the Lord is a mighty strong tower. Righteous run in it and are saved. Even though life is stressful and trying, and everything seems like it's falling apart, the Lord is still the Lord and He is still on the throne. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
  8. Disclaimer: Some people want to be married but haven't had the opportunity. This is not directed at you. I'm targeting people who have the opportunity to get married and choose to put it off for un-biblical reasons. First, why am I writing this? A lot of people my age are getting emotionally burned by the "normal" system of doing things that we've come to accept. Broken hearts, STD's, compromise, and a general sense of confusion about sex and gender have affected Christians I know and non-Christians alike. So I wanted to make a strong case for why, in the majority of cases, marriage should be a celebrated path for Christians to pursue that will help them follow the Lord for the following reasons: The Bible supports it. It is a protection from sexual and emotional compromise. It would improve our society. There are some reasons people have against young marriage --- emotional immaturity, divorce rates, lack of financial preparedness --- that I will address near the end. Historically, delaying marriage has not been the norm. According to an informational table from the Census bureau on the estimated median age of marriage, the median age for women's first marriage for 27.5. For men, the age was 29.5. However, until the late 1960's the median age was well under that at about 22 years old for both ages. This isn't a big deal right? Times have changed. Economically, it has become harder to provide for a family with just a high school education. Women have more freedom to pursue different choices before marriage. And now, getting a bachelor's degree before getting married has become almost a standard among the "smart" young people. Other ideas have changed as well. Pre-marital sex is now commonly portrayed and celebrated in modern media. Young people may be delaying marriage, but they are not delaying sex and romantic relationships. This leaves the believing young person with conflicting messages: "Don't have sex till your married." and "Don't get married till you're established. Sure, you may be years into the time when you'll be tempted with lust but you have a purity ring, so just wait." Not only is this unrealistic but The Bible does not support this model. NKJV Proverbs 5: 18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. 1 Corinthians 7:8-10 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Corinthians 7:5 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. That last verse may be addressed to married couples but it highlights a huge case for young marriage: We lack self-control. It doesn't matter how spiritual a person might be. We are to flee temptation, not dance with it (1 Corinthians 6:18). Pursuing a Godly marriage, unless you're like Paul and set apart for ministry, seems to be the biblical solution for battling with lust. Young marriage is a protection from sexual and emotional compromise As if following Christ isn't hard enough, you've got a lot of lustful flesh energy to deal with as a young person. That and all the messages from society telling women "THROW yourself at the man with ALL you've got." I honestly don't know how young men deal with visual temptation. How, when immodesty is what's in style? But as a woman I can tell you, the temptation to be all about having a boyfriend, flirting, acting seductive, and crossing inappropriate boundaries to get attention is all too real. When I met my husband, I was volunteering at the library, for once, not really looking to date. He approached me in the library and asked for my number. We began to talk every day and he became a Christian. I told him he probably wouldn't even think about marrying me. He said it wasn't out of the question. It'll be our three-year anniversary tomorrow. People like my parents told us we were too young to get married. We didn't have layers of financial security. We were still in school. We were only 19. But marriage blessed me because while I witnessed my girl friends get their heart broken over and over, the Lord showed His protection by giving me a man that was serious. Instead of constantly wondering who to date and how to stay pure, I was focused on building up my marriage and how to be a Godly wife. For me, I was much better at being a Godly wife than being a Godly single person. I used to wonder why, but now I've come to the conclusion that we expect young people to stay single and pure way too long. It would improve our society Marriage is not this arbitrary thing that you choose to have if two people are "extra serious" about each other. It was created by God for our good. It protects families and children, and forces two very different, very sinful people to have to rely on the Lord and each other to make it work. So why aren't young people expected to get married for a long time? 1. Not much is expected from us. There's no getting around this one. Nowadays, young people are expected to be commitment-phobic, sowing their wild oats, kind of like some hybrid between a true adult and a child. This may be the world's standards, but as people who serve the Lord, let's reject this. I got married at 20, my husband at 19. Was it difficult? Yes. Extremely. But it was good for us. Why do young people need to remain steeped in immaturity till their 30's? Satan must be busy. My husband often gets shocked reactions when people find out he is married. And it's kind of sad. 2. The lie that love and marriage have nothing to do with each other. 3. The couple is not financially or educationally ready. Be careful with this one. What standard is "financially ready"? The man must work and provide for the family, yes. But does that mean a couple should date for over eight years and only marry when the spouse get a master's degree? Probably not. Much compromise would have already happened within that time frame. Ideally, you have some sort of plan of how things will go once you get married. But as long as a man is willing to work, I see no trouble with getting married before or during pursuing career and education. In fact, being married can help you focus on classes and take the coursework more seriously! In fact the only real reason to avoid marriage I can think of is when one of the couple is not a believer. 4. The lie of soul-mates. "But what if I choose the wrong person. How do I know if X is right for me? I think we'll live together maybe... ten years. Then I'll decide." There is no perfectly compatible person. It's a matter of the will. Will you love this person, commit to them? Or not? This does not take ten years to decide. There! I said it. Blast me if you want, but this really gets to me sometimes. I feel like this used to be common sense.
  9. naominash

    Can a woman lay hands on a man in prayer?

    I put one of the sentences in bold because I often fall into a pattern of wanting a rule instead of relying on God. In my opinion, it is way harder to follow the Spirit of the law rather than the letter. Is it loving? Does it please the Lord? Those are probably better questions to ask when faced with questions like the OP asked.
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    are we saved

    No. Even demons believe Jesus is the Son of God. Salvation means repenting of your old life, trusting that Jesus died for your sins,and submitting your life to Him as Lord.
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    Isaiah 53 is good
  12. At 14, I became a Christian. I remember I wanted to go become a missionary and live among orphans, spreading the gospel. I wanted to make a difference for Christ more than anything. But the messages I kept hearing we're, " Just focus on you." Focus on your education. Focus on getting a good job. Then save for retirement. I think these are good things but when I was younger I wanted to be more radical. What happened? I'm seeking the Lord but miss the reckless generosity and abandon I felt at first. I kind of hate just focusing on me and my own benefit. It's boring and tiresome. Has anyone else ever been through this?
  13. naominash

    Finding a non-apostate church

    When it comes to the prosperity of Christians in the west, you make a great point. I often feel convicted that my whole life is being pushed toward education, money, and comfort by those around me. It's so strong that I sometimes lose sight of living for Christ. It seems every time I get determined to live for the Kingdom, I get told to focus on my education, or my own well-being. It quenches the fire a bit. I'm looking for a church too. Maybe I can find one that's different.
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    Fiction reading

    Fiction is my weakness. But not all of it's bad.
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    Can a woman lay hands on a man in prayer?

    Yes, but I personally wouldn't. I have noticed there are some things a younger woman in the congregation can not get away with without causing suspicion. There's something to "avoiding the appearance of evil" that I think would please the Lord more than if I had an attitude of, " I can get away with this because I'm beyond temptation or giving off the wrong appearance." Same with the genders reversed. I wouldn't expect a young man in ministry to lay hands on me. Maybe not even an older man. Ministering closely to people of the same gender, in my opinion, honors the fact that male and female are created equal but differently. Plus, I have had a terrible experience with someone "ministering" to me in a way that was really creepy. No one ought to use ministry as a way to approach someone of the opposite sex. If it were same sex ministering only, that could have been avoided.