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  1. Just read back at that verse in Matthew 19, Jesus told them that it was man's idea for divorcement. Jesus isn't supporting divorcement, but rather against it.
  2. You obviously don't understand God or scripture. You're claiming we need to do things for ourselves because of whatever issues or selfish desires we have involving in our marriages. God cares what is right in all things, just as He sees the value of sin being equal to every other sin. If you committed one sin then you committed the other. But you seem to say God doesn't care about 2 people more than he does 1 individual, as in, God would rather you disobey him and sin by divorcing not on Biblical grounds, then rather stay with an abusive spouse who sins. Can you find scripture to stand on that which says God suggests or commands or wants you to divorce rather than stay with an abusive spouse? Again, just because someone abuses you does not require a divorcement. You can move away and hopefully one day come back together in love where you won't live like that anymore. If not, you can live your life married until death just as you vowed to them before God creating a covenant. Whenever ANYONE wants a divorcement, you are listening to your selfish, hardened heart, just as scripture says from the very own lips of Jesus Christ!! He told us that is why people want a divorcement and God let them do so with Moses, but God never wanted divorcement. Have you not read or understand this common scripture? Read it for yourself and pray for understanding. Recognize what God has done for you in your marriage with Him! Should he not just divorce you and forsaken you because you treat Him badly when you sin? "In all things, do it for the glory of God"- how is breaking a holy covenant before God ever something to glorify God? Hm? I cannot see it, but I see there are at least 1 or 2 selfish sinful people caring more about themselves than rather the one they gave their lives to vowing to be together for better or for worse until death. If we are to be an example of Christ, are we then to do what Christ does by breaking covenants and forsaken the ones we said we would be together with until death? Like I said, there is never a truly good reason for divorcement other than to give up and be selfish and listen to your hardened hearts when you want that, it goes to show you care about yourself more than someone else, which clearly shows, you lied when you made your vows, you are doing the opposite of what God wants and what He would have done and wanted you to do. You cannot find anywhere in scripture that the Lord likes or wants or commands for divorcement. But you will find Him supporting marriages and how to live in them well in many ways. It was never God's plan, and what is not God's plan, is not God's will. Divorcement, is "Man's will," just like many other times, God let them have that. Which will you support or follow?
  3. There is also this quiz, about being ready for marriage, on a godly perspective mostly but of course there also needs to be worldly things involved for a marriage in the world. https://www.quotev.com/quiz/11231515/Are-you-Ready-To-Be-Wed-Married
  4. i see. but that to the world, including Christians, they would simply call it communion and see it as something holy and to not be silly, having fun, laughing and running around, etc- but rather a time to be as mature than ever and take it seriously. People see these other things as celebrations because its like a party. Communion isn't a party. So its not even the same thing I am talking about. Though I get your view, I support communion, it serves a godly purpose. But colored eggs, chocolate, bunnies, trees, santa, trucks filled with candy, etc. all that is a party to celebrate to them without God on their mind, but rather the physical pleasure. If you care about communion, it obviously would not be that you are doing it for fun and pleasure, but rather you believe and care about the Lord or at least you want to make your people in the Church think that you care.
  5. i just replied to the other person if you read it above/below.
  6. People rarely talk to me in the way you're talking. Are you saying I am personally pointing fingers? If you didn't know, we are all evil. People hate the Bible because its right from Genesis that it shows God pointing His finger at as that we have sinned and now we suffer the consequences, starting with Lucifer, Adam and Eve. So we all fall into this category from the time we are born. To say we remain that way where we want to be that way shows it's an unbeliever. But we all still are stuck with an evil flesh. So it's not like I am claiming I am better than anyone or that anyone is better than anyone else. That would be taking my words out of context, assuming what I mean and making it a lie.
  7. heh its free on Quotev.com. I know its packed with young adults but mostly teens who really need the Lord there. You likely have to make a quick account to take it, maybe. Here's one about How Well Do You Know God (but this doesnt mean even if you get all questions correct that you know all about or even half about God, but its just to see if you got the wrong idea or the right idea about God) https://www.quotev.com/quiz/11821436/How-Well-Do-You-Understand-God This is how well do you understand Christianity, basic things about the Bible, but not the stories. It's more if you understand it, not if you remember it. https://www.quotev.com/quiz/10391027/How-Well-Do-You-Know-Christianity-The-Truth And this is a kind of for fun quiz about what is your role/position in the Church/chapel https://www.quotev.com/quiz/10377893/What-Is-Your-Role-In-The-Church Some of these are quizzes but some are tests.
  8. It was all about another false god, a bunch of worldly stuff for worldly pleasures, etc. I wouldn't want to say I'm celebrating the death of Jesus Christ if it was named "Lucifester" naming it after Satan/Lucifer, and start decorating things symbolizing Satan but the decorations are so colorful and pretty and the activities are fun but claim i am celebrating it for Jesus, but I'm spending my time doing what Satanists do. Same thing, just with Paganism. Christians who do this Easter stuff are doing it for themselves, they enjoy worldly things, for there is no glory in God about this bunny, chocolate and egg stuff. That's simply worldly entertainment with history hundreds of years ago for a false god. It's even celebrated on a day named after the Sun god, Sunday. The last chapel I went to understand this, but they say they need to have easter stuff to attract people to hear the Gospel. But when you put out stuff to attract people with things that give pleasure to even unbelievers, then all you're going to do is attract unbelievers who will keep being unbelievers who are just there for the fun and pleasure, then they will leave until you have another Easter, Christmas, party, event, famous band, plays, camping trip, etc. If people are interested in truth, the Gospel, and Jesus, God will draw them there without needing any Easter, holiday, party, revival, etc. Saying "you need" to do something to get people saved, is simply saying "Christ isn't enough." We stay away from all holidays for their meanings behind them. If I was to care so much that I needed or wanted to celebrate Jesus' birth and death, then I'd throw a celebration every single day of my life. Literally. But I simply remember and thank the Lord every day for what He's done and who He is. People mostly like celebrations for the fun and pleasure, they dont do it for the Lord. That's very rare.
  9. Greetings. Hope you will get better with this and if you're a Christian, a saved one of the Lord, I believe you will. To simply call it lust, lust is a desire. Sexual lust may be what you're referring to, because this has always been the most common lust people talk about when they say it's a battle and its out of control. But lust can be for anything. You're definitely not alone. I'm sure there are also multiple people here who will pray for you. But when it comes to guidance, i dont know if you expect to receive that here or in person. its also very different how you need guidance and help with it being porn or actually sexual activity with other people. but maybe that's not the lust you mean. I've struggled with it, but I am better now than ever at staying away from it. I'm trying to make my heart desire my wife and not anyone else whenever the thought crosses my mind. I hate it, its always more painful to give into it. I've grown a desire to hate it and more of a desire to not want it more than the desire to want it. if you need anything else, you can let us/me know
  10. I tell Atheist the Gospel, the truth, and I have no other belief or effort into changing their mind in the end other than letting the Lord to convince them. Knowledge and wisdom won't get you to believe, being gullible to listen to it because you'll believe almost anything won't make that true belief, it takes faith, and this faith won't come from any sinner and their evil hearts. Faith isn't a thing of the brain. So if I have done all I can to witness to them and they still don't, the rest is between them and the Lord. But when I do witness, I don't just shove a bunch of information and scripture in their face. Instead, I get to know them a bit, I ask them what they believe, I ask them why the believe what they believe, I ask them what have Christians been telling them who God and Christ is, and also what is their view of the Lord- that gives me the answer to see their reasons for denying Christ. Atheist don't usually deny Christ because they don't have the knowledge, but it can be that they were raped, child abused, poor, cheated on, everything in life is just going terrible, their children died, their parents are suffering in cancer, etc- a list of countless things, and when they hear about this caring and loving God who can do anything, and that God made everything, then God isn't doing anything about these bad things that have happened and still happen, they feel anger towards God and blame Him for it. So, then they may just be making up lies and try to think of ways to say they can prove the Bible is a lie, but the truth is, they really just hate the Lord for personal issues in their lives. I see many of them have already heard the truth, and they just keep arguing with Christian's about it, but what they usually need, is love. They need a godly example of Christ's love in you, and showing that even though you understand their evilness and that they are wrong, you are still there to help them and love them and why you have faith in Christ. They may need to see an example of Christ through you and not just words alone. But God saves people through different experiences. Yet, i find a lot of atheist say they deny Christ, simply because they have been hearing about a fake Jesus Christ and the fake God from this world of fake Christians. They think that Jesus is the real Jesus, but it's not. I tell them, you probably claim you hate or don't believe in Him, because that's not the Jesus I know who saved me. Now, I can share with you about the Jesus I know and show you in scripture why. Atheist have questioned again and started to open a bit more after that because now they have met a Christian who isn't like every other Christian they have met, this one is different, more loving, caring, calm, understands what they're talking about, always has scripture for backup and not opinions or just thoughts, who is concerned about the Atheist and not just telling them how to live or they're going to Hell, etc. I'm doing this again with an Atheist this week. They are quite stubborn, but I gave them a quiz test about how well do they even know the Lord and scripture, and they got every single answer wrong in 20 questions. I told them, this may be the issue why you don't believe. Who you've told me God is to the world and to you, is completely NOT who God is. Maybe if you had the opposite view and understanding of God, then maybe you would believe. Maybe you say you deny Him, because it's the fake God and not the real one. Overall, the Lord draws people to Jesus, the Lord gives them the faith they need, not us and not themselves. We are called to spread the Gospel and share the word and witness, but we aren't called to change their minds and hearts. That's God's job for His glory.
  11. Yes, it is quite heartbreaking, my testimony book has made everyone shed some tears reading it so far. A 500 page book about my life and testimony, and this is just a minor but important part of it. But for all the sufferings in my life, I see a reason to praise and thank God for the outcomes. But thank you, and also, you are welcome, and I hope you will have a great marriage that God has planned if He does. Yahweh bless
  12. "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." I discussed a similar subject recently, and i do often on this with people throughout life. If I may use my marriage testimony as an example, it may relate well to your situation. The real story could be extremely long but I will state the basics to make a point that even with crazy lives like mine, God still has a plan for marriages. In my life, I was very lonely about 95% of my life. The majority of people i spoke to until I was in my 20's were people online who come and go. In fact, i was so lonely, almost all my childhood, my parents lived out in the boonies/woods, miles and miles from anything except fields, trees and a few houses. Hours and hours can go by and not a single car may drive on the road passed our house. Since I was 5, I was lonely and already wanted to marry. I cried all the time about it. Can you imagine, a little 5 year old boy watching a romance movie and crying and you ask him why he's crying, and he replies that he is lonely and wants a wife and kids? Heh. I did that. Since i was 9, my parents kept me out of school completely and taught me absolutely nothing. As I was abused, all I ever heard was how much they hated me. I had no where to go and no one to be with except out in the woods alone. Day and night, for years and years watching the sky, dreaming of a woman someday to marry- i couldn't wait any longer. I rushed it, and I started walking averagely 5 hours a day just to get to a library in a small town to use the internet and meet girls. When i was 15, i met the woman I proposed to when i was 17. At 15 she said she wouldn't talk to me anymore because she has school, but i promised her i will hold myself for her until i am 18. The year came later we contacted each other after she graduated, i proposed on the phone, she said yes. months later, she told me to kill myself and hung up on me and we never dated again. After that, i was becoming 18, and my step father had already been waiting 10 years for me to turn a legal age to kick me out and make me homeless. Then i moved in with a room mate i knew for years but barely ever got to see him except a few times a year since we were 9, then long story short, i met another girl, we dated for a few months, then one day when they thought i was gone to work, my room mate brought her in and had sex. Then we argued, days or so later, he made me homeless. I dated many women online, only 2 in person. But after being cheated on by more than half of them, and not long after being saved at 18 years old, when I was 22 I told the Lord "I GIVE UP! If you want me to marry a woman, you will have to make it happen! I plan to live my life single now and seek your will all my life." That year, the Lord told me to leave the chapel i was going to and wanted me to go elsewhere, but He wouldn't tell me where to go. The next Sunday, i got up in the morning expecting the Lord to lead me somewhere, I walked out onto the porch and held my hands up and said "Where do you want me to go, Lord?" Just at that moment, a car pulled up with some older women, and they randomly offered to take me to their chapel. I had no idea what it was, where it was or who these people were, but I believed that was the sign. If I had not walked out that minute, they may have passed me and moved on. That was actually a very evil chapel- and half a year went by of them hating on me, being negative, threatening me, rumors going around that I would rape the women my age, etc. All sorts of lied with the pastor claiming I was demon possessed and such. Just ridiculous things. I was so frustrated, upset, hurt, depressed, not only from the chapel but many things. I began to complain to the Lord at my house. I yelled, for real, I told God "I don't see why you want me to go there! WHAT'S THE POINT!? TO BE HATED!? I'm not going back there!" And He told me "Go back." I kept questioning Him, but all He said was "Go back." For a few weeks, I avoided listening, but night and day I spent time feeling like I'll just be another Jonah, so I apologized to the Lord and said "Your will be done." I went back expecting nothing but still hoping the Lord was planning to do something with my life for His will. I chose to seek His will instead of mine. The pastor barely sounded like he was going to let me come back. Not long afterwards, on another Sunday, I walked in the sanctuary with about 200 people and all the pews filled up, and my eyes noticed and my soul was shocked by the beauty of this particular new visitor of the chapel. I almost thought I had seen an angel, heh. I thought about what if I could marry that woman, but then i shook my head and said no, I am finished with women, I am here to seek the kingdom of God and pursue His will. Besides, the guy standing next to her is likely her boyfriend. As I moved on, there was a camping trip the chapel was having, they barely let me go on that trip either. As I was homeless and had a disability where i could not drive, they needed to find me a ride to go. And when they did, the people that were going to drive me, were also the ones taking care of that woman who were not her relatives or family or even friends. When it was time for the trip, and i opened the door to the vehicle, i was shocked out of all 200+ people in the chapel, that it was her. On that trip, I camped right next to her in a tent while she stayed in an RV/Camper. Long story short, on that camping trip next to a lake, we spoke night and day for half a week, morning till night non stop, and when the chapel noticed that was happening, they tried to keep her away from me and me away from her. The pastor rebuked me with no scripture or even a topic the Bible discusses. On that trip, she felt God was telling her I will be her husband. I didn't know yet, I was just being me. But the night before we left, she came up to me and put her arms around me unexpectedly and I had never felt loved like that before by anyone. After the trip and the next Sunday came, they kicked me out and refused to let me in the chapel. Yet, the woman and I stayed in contact, but the people she was living with hated that as well. So they threatened to send her back to her family across the states if she continues to talk to me. That woman was living with those people because her family was also abusive, and they lived out in the woods in that state far from everything, and they wouldn't help her get into college or even a job, so these people who knew her previously got her from that state to help her. So, it was either being my friend and lose everything else and go far away, or have nothing to do with me and have all these worldly things. She chose to be my friend even though she only knew me about a month. Another long story short, after talking to her about God and love and many things, the Lord was letting me know the whole purpose of me to go there, is that He wanted to bring us together in marriage. Now that she was so far away, I felt like the cycle with girls would just repeat, plus i was homeless, but as I still would seek the will of the Lord, He got me a job, i paid someone to get her, we moved in and got married, then we had a wonderful marriage ever since through many crazy things even seeing some miracles along the years. Relating to your situation, we were both lonely, we both wanted to be with someone for a long time, more specifically in marriage. But there are things to understand, that first of all, there are more divorces in Christian relationships- which is really counting real and fake Christians, so maybe its not literally real saved Christians being the majority. Also, God works in mysterious ways. He rarely ever lets anyone know what he's planning, it would be too much for us to comprehend anyways. On top of that, the Lord wants you to be focusing on Him and His will, not your own desires for yourself. I'm not saying you are. God may not have you prepared yet for marriage, He may just not have the man for you to marry prepared either, or even both. Be patient with the Lord, it may seem like it sucks to wait, but it's worth the wait, and if you're truly busy for the Lord, time will fly and that spouse will be added to your life before you know it. God may be waiting for you to surrender your marriage to Him, which is that you want a marriage for God's glory overall, not simply your loneliness to become happiness or to have fun or anything that benefits you being the whole purpose of wanting marriage. All things are for the glory of God, but if you aren't going to use it for God's glory, perhaps He is trying to get you to a point where you will first. That's what He did with me. I had my focus on myself and a woman and not picturing God in my marriage. but once I made the plans for my marriage to surround God, then quickly He moved in and brought us together. Perfect timing in the most needy time of my life for a wife and God's help. Glory still comes to Him out of all that. So it could be a variety of things, but if you seek the will of God and it is His will for you to marry, which I would bet it is, then on God's perfect timing you will be married. But it is possible that God may allow you to screw up marrying the wrong person or simply at the wrong time with the right person because you are seeking your own will for marriage. Overall, if you are a saved child of God by Jesus Christ, then I know the Lord has a plan for you in some way, so be patient and seek the will of God as scripture tells us, and don't give up hope that someday God will bless you with a spouse.
  13. I wish people would have thought about this and still about this for those who want to justify and see divorcement as a good thing or believing divorcement is God's will for some people. But if all the answers were yes to your questions, then it would show God wouldn't want people to marry who wouldn't be like that and would likely want or end in a divorcement, but for no to those answers, it's much better off never to marry. I never planned a woman to be a certain age and I didn't care, because I was counting on God to either lead me to or bring the woman to me that He had planned for me to marry at whatever age He wants of any kind of woman He wants me to marry. I waited and it was clear who to marry when the time came. All I needed to know was that it was obvious it was the person the Lord had planned for me to marry. All this stuff about looking for someone specifically, is like a selfish way of hunting for your favorite type of meat that may not be the healthiest kind for you to eat either. Rather, I knew if I set God's will before mine in everything, then if it is His will for me to marry, one day that lady will be added to my life. Matthew 6;33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. The Lord wasn't lying or even using a metaphor when He said this. It is true. I can live a complete life of faith when I keep this in mind about pretty much everything, that if the Lord's kingdom and what is righteous is what I am seeking, then all other things will be added. Basically, if you're pursuing the will of God, then He will somehow add you to a marriage with the person He has planned for you to marry.
  14. leaving isn't an issue, as if you need safety or have difficulty living with each other- but that doesn't require you to divorce. But for the verses where I find it's not the will of God EVER that you divorce; Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” I believe when it says let no man separate, I believe that includes the couple themselves not to separate. And do you understand the very chapter you brought up in that tells couples not to divorce. That chapter actually would recommend for a couple to stay together, which i will bring up a little later here. Matthew 19:8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so." This verse tells us simply by the Lord, that people wanted divorcements for the evilness of their hearts, and so Moses allowed them to divorce since they wouldn't get over it and constantly keep bringing it up and making such a big deal about it. But it says in the beginning, God didn't want that, it wasn't supposed to be like that. But if God is going to allow it, he only does under a certain condition, that is if one or the other or both have committed sexual immorality, basically cheating. What people really go wrong is what scripture clearly commands what to do and not to do if you choose to divorce. Even Jesus brought this point up to the Pharisees in chapter 19 of Matthew. Matthew 19:3-9 And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” ... Mark 10:12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” I mean, wow. That was hardcore wasn't it? Do you have any clue how many Christians alone even disobey God's word here? So many Christian women I have met have divorced even twice and keep jumping to another man. Here says they have committed adultery if they have divorced and married someone else. Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Same thing, but here you see where the Lord says "except." Here's a very clear verse not to marry someone else or divorce, unless you divorce and remarry who you were first married to, and this is right before the part you were talking about in Chapter 7 of 1st Corinthians. It says they are to remain unmarried to anyone unless they remarry who they have divorced. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. And I point out the aspect of someone's love, their godly love, when they claim they want or they were not wrong for divorcing, that here it shows you don't love who you married if you divorce them, simply divorcing shows your selfish, evil, sinful heart; Malachi 2:13-16 13 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” This tells us clearly, it bothers the Lord that we want a divorcement. The only places I find where it says someone is free to marry someone else and not be guilty of sin, is when their spouse has died. Verses like this; Romans 7:3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress. Corinthians 7;15 says you can let someone "leave," that doesn't have to mean divorce. Even so, Paul still told us just before this, 1 Corinthians 7:12-13 12 "To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him." That being said, even if they are an unbeliever, it shouldn't be the Christian's desire to ever leave, but if the unbeliever wants to leave, then it's okay to let them leave. Especially if you study other languages like Greek, it doesn't implicate that it means they should or need to divorce. Not at all. Separation, as in, living elsewhere or going somewhere separately, does not mean a couple is divorced. Still, we must not ignore all these other countless scriptures about divorcement. We should never assume in our own understanding that God is "okay" with our reasons for wanting to divorce. We should take Him at His word in scripture and obey it. We are not simply dealing with a piece of candy being stolen, or even simply a crime, though they are both sin and deserving Hell, we are dealing with the symbol of Christ's marriage with us, the Church! Our physical marriages in flesh are a symbol of our spiritual marriage with Christ. As if man was Christ being the groom, and wife was the Church being the bride. We are taking the symbol of what God has made to show how He wants us to view how we should love someone as God loves us. That no matter what happens and until the end of everything, we are there for each other in love, forgiving and staying together through everything, that we are even sacrificing and even surrendering our lives for someone else. When you keep in mind for any reason that you would want a divorce, you are showing you are putting yourself before the one you married, and that you have set certain conditions they must follow or else you are breaking your covenant you made with them, you even went against such vows as "for better or for worse-" we constantly see that being broken, because when times comes to the worst, it's over and they lied about their vows. If the Lord had set conditions for our marriage with Him, we'd all be doomed for Hell. That isn't how Christ wants us to love our spouses. What also to keep in mind, is not once to we ever see God literally tells us, or anyone, that we SHOULD or MUST divorce, but rather it says in the beginning divorcement wasn't the plan, if you can then stay married, if you divorce then remarry if you can, let no man separate what couple God has joined together, etc- verse after verse telling us to stay committed to that person. And only under 1 condition will God "allow" someone to divorce and not be guilty of sin. Divorcement is NEVER glory to God, but rather a disgrace and dishonor to the symbol of His marriage with the Church, His bride. Remember, Jesus told us that Moses had made a law that we could divorce because of the hardness of our hearts. Anyone thinking about divorcement, dwell on these scriptures, and pray, and ask yourself "Do I want a divorce for my will, or God's will? How can I give glory to God through breaking a covenant unlike the covenant God still hasn't broken with me? Is my heart hardened that I desire a divorcement through my fleshly desires, or is it the Holy Spirit giving me a desire to divorce?" In everything we do, we are to do it for the glory of God. And I cannot find any glory or a good reason to praise God for a divorcement. I never see that as an option in our marriage with my wife, even if she cheated. Because like God chose to love me despite my sin, I want to do the same for my wife and love her and be with her till the very end of my days no matter what she does. I want to love how the Lord loves His Church. God has never forsaken any of those whom He saved, so I don't believe we should forsake our spouses. And surely, we have done much worse before God and to God than our spouses could do to us in a lifetime.
  15. God NEVER wants anyone to divorce for any reason, even cheating. The Bible does say God will allow people to divorce for cheating/sexual immorality, but he didn't say he wanted them to divorce, more that they begged and wanted a divorcement, so God allowed it only under that one reason that it would be acceptable to God and not be a sin to divorce. If you divorce, you break a covenant God made with you two. The Bible says let no man separate what God has joined together, and I view that even the couple themselves should not separate themselves. Your situation isn't clear as others are saying. Btu I've never seen a divorcement make things better, maybe there is less arguing, but overall in other ways, life gets much worse for you, especially for people who follow God. Whether your kids are minors or adults, it will bother them their entire life even years after you're dead and gone. Grandchildren who dont even exist now may feel bad about it later. My wife's grandmother got a divorce for her husband having a second wife. Wowzers! Not just cheating, but he left the country and came back married to a random woman in just a short time. That happened nearly 30 years ago, and till this day, its left her heartbroken and even made it very hard on her children's lives, and even grandchildrens lives. SO even as far as sexual cheating and even another husband or wife, it isn't going to end up being better in every way to divorce, and it is never God's plan according to his word. Rather we should love and be married as Christ is married to the church. No matter what happens between us and God, He never forsakens us, never breaks his vows, never leaves us even though He may at times be unhappy with what we have done, we are still his bride. Marriage on earth is a symbol of our eternal spiritual marriage with the Lord. We Christians are the bride of Christ. We should do the same for our groom and bride here on earth in our short term temporary marriage until we die.
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