Good afternoon Jayne,
At this point, it would be impossible to get back with him. He has married another. Your words are of great comfort. Can I ask you something maybe you can help me with? My ex and I are legally divorced now and we share custody of our daughter. According to the law he has been charged with financially supporting her 40% (IE child support and health insurance). Luckily, I have a job that God gave me that I live pretty well financially on my own. I do struggle here and there but I have absolutely no financial support from my ex. He randomly throws these fits when I mention that it is his responsibility to pay his debts and he has not. Yet he wants to have our daughter over to play house with his new wife 2 days a week (she cannot have kids apparently). In his words (not mine) he should not have to pay anything because it is joint custody. He literally sees her 2 days a week, does not care about her diet (she has celiac disease like I do), constantly abuses his new wife in front of her. When I get upset about him afflicting her I get basically, you are a bad Christian because you didn't do what I told you to do while we were married. Calling me names and just in general annoying me. I really try to not let it get to me but it does? Am I still under his authority? Is our daughter?
I do have someone I am involved with now (after my ex-married not long ago). Will my daughter fall under her father's protection or my new partner? It is a really gray area. The way I was taught, the father has authority over his daughter until she marries. But what if the Father walked away? Does it even matter?