God Princess, I couldn't agree more. A healthy relationship benefits everyone and not just one person. It's interesting that since our friend has joined us, I've also started attending church again. I was angry at God for allowing my sweet wife to get such a horrible disease.
Now, that we are a caring loving "family of three", we all go to church together. I'm amazed at the love and acceptance we've had from the congregation and pastor.
They may talk behind our backs but I could not care less about what people think. I've never felt closer to God. As we should know, one's faith is a personal relationship and not one dictated by man, even those who claim to have written the bible. So, to in answer to your statement, I'm spiritually healthy.
Now Willa, perhaps I didn't make myself clear. My wife is LIKE a five year old. The dynamics of our relationship has changed and, instead of a husband, I'm more like her father. Instead of learning and growing up, she's forgetting and regressing back in age. So, again, I don't have a daughter, I have a wife who doesn't know my name. ....and a dog. I'm also the leader of two caregiver support groups and know more about Alzheimer's and dementia caregiving than most health care professionals.
It's great that you've done just fine with your situation but, I can't do that. Everyone is different. I'm now happy and comfortable with the choice we've made and I also see the benefit in my wife's life. She's very happy and is now more socially active than she's been in several years. She will be well cared for, and live a life feeling loved and appreciated.
Throwing a bunch of verses at me, hoping some will stick is of no help at all. We can use the bible as a loose guide but, we must be our own best adviser. Beating someone over the head with it only makes things worse, bruising those who desire to stay in the church but are constantly driven away.
...Besides, it wears out your bible.
I'm certainly not saying what we're doing is for everyone, it's not and I don't recommend it unless there is a great deal of discussion with each other and other family members. But, it has been working for us just fine and we are looking for a few more wonderful years with my beautiful wife.
I can go to sleep assured that, yes, I'll still go to heaven. I may get the folding chairs way up in the nosebleed section but I'll make it.
As for my mansion in heaven...
It may not have indoor plumbing but that I can live with.