Eagle2017

Thank you for the response! I do want to have this conversation with my boyfriend, but I am not really sure how to go about it. I gurdd my biggest fear if that if I express any "doubts" about our relationship, he will just end things and I won't get a chance to try and work things out and have us have a future. I know that the love is there, at least on my end, but maybe it's been so long that he's outgrown me? Maybe he feels like my priorities don't mesh with his anymore? These are things that I pray to have some clarity on.

Thanks for the response! For me the next logical step would be us hopefully getting married at some point and having our life together from there on out. I really look forward to us living together but I don't think I want to before we're married or at least engaged, we've both known several couples who have tried living togetherness outside of marriage and it hasn't ended well for any of them. I do think that once he settles into his work things will get easier, and as for me I've been having more open conversations with my parents about needing the freedom to spend more time with my boyfriend if we're really going to have a future together and they seem to understand. I do think we need to to have a talk about our relationship overall. But I'm just not sure how to go about that.

Hi all! I am seeking some relationship advice, I'll explain my dilemma the best I can and hopefully it will make sense. I may get a little long-winded though, so please bear with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 9 years, so all their high school and college and now beyond. He is truly a wonderful young man in so many ways, too many to name all of them here, but ever since we both graduated from college and have each moved back home with our families I feel like our communication has really suffered. We've always been different from other couples in that we don't talk and text constantly and don't see each other every day or even every week. And that's been fine for us, in fact it seems like us each having our own space especially when we were starting out allowed us to really develop our own identities and have the ability to form a stronger, more mature bond. All that being said, our lives have both changed a lot since graduation. A little over a year later, he has a really great job that he loves but it does keep him very busy most days. On the other hand, I am devoting my time to helping my mom maintain our household and keep things running smoothly for my younger siblings and our (many!) pets. So I guess I am pretty busy a lot of the time too, just in a different way. Now, I can text or call and leave messages and wait days for him to respond, if at all. I know I'm not perfect and there have been times where I haven't been communicating enough, but it also feels like I'm the only one making the effort. For instance, I honestly can't remember the last time he initiated a conversation; it's been at least a couple months. I want to be patient with my boyfriend and be understanding of how busy he is and how he probably doesn't have that much time or energy to talk sometimes, but I also don't want to let this go on and have him think that I don't care whether or not I get to see him or talk to him. I don't want to create strife in our relationship for no reason, but it doesn't feel like no reason anymore. Thank you for taking the time to read this whole thing, any help or advice you can offer would be immensely helpful. Thanks so much, and God bless!

I have made the decision recently to accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior once and for all, and I know that this means that I have turned my life over to Him instead of trying to run it myself (which I have seen referred to as the root of sin). Since I am kind of new to this experience of giving my life over to God completely, some people that I know (wonderful well-meaning people I should specify) are concerned that it means I will "stop making an effort to go after things that I want". I guess I am wondering about this too. How do I know if a choice I am making is me following God's plan for my life, or me trying to run my own life? Obviously if I am making a choice that I know is against what God says is right then it would be a sin, but other than that it seems a little ambiguous to me. Any help is much appreciated, thank you and God bless!

Does anyone have a certain way that they structure their prayers that they can recommend? For me personally I usually just end up with mine imitating regular conversation, but I want to be more intentional and purposeful when I say my prayers. It's not that I've never prayed before, but I'm working to recommit myself to my faith and this seems like a place where I can make a good start. Any advice or recommendation are greatly appreciated, thank you and God bless!