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  1. My son and his girlfriend live with me. Sometimes I hear them arguing in the other room. I struggle with not going in there and helping with with whatever they're fighting about. It drives me crazy to hear them be rude and mean to each other. How do I reason with myself to stay out of it and not try to fix? I get really stressed and it gives me anxiety. I get knots in my shoulders listening to them.
  2. I have talked to my pastor but it is a large church and key keeps referring me to helplines and community service agencies. I have reached out to some of them and it's helped a little but not specifically or significantly. Other than not getting counseling, there has not been any overwhelming breach of anything I've asked of them. My son helps around the house and washes the dishes more than she does. I hate confrontation and so sometimes that's a problem for me especially in this situation. I will gather my wits and have difficult discussions when I have to but it's tough for me.
  3. Thank you and I agree the hundred percent with the words that you have said. I feel that I am in a spiritual renewal in my life right now in spite of everything that's going on. Through difficulties and disappointments and my own lack of communication with significant people in my own life, I feel like I've been in a 15 year drought and wilderness season. I stopped seeking the Lord as I should have been. I still went to church but the real seeking and pressing part of my Christian Life was missing. So there is even some blame that I feel and shame because of the choices my son has been making. I believe it was the Lord's doing but 2019 to this point has been an experience of faith restoration for me. I've struggled the last couple of days because the girlfriend was mocking a praise and worship video I was watching when they came home. She was mocking the people that were you know raising their hands in worship. I feel I should be stronger and that it shouldn't affect me but I'm just being honest and saying that it did and it still is a little bit. My struggle is in that I should not have backed off in my faith over the last 15 years and since in my opinion the damage has been done in my son's life what difference does it make if I renew my faith now. I have missed my relationship with God and I have been so thankful to experience renewal over these last 2 months and I don't want that to stop.
  4. I am a Christian. I pray daily and often about the whole situation. They have not had consistent income until last week. Overall, they are not rude or outright taking advantage of me in extreme ways. My son is 20 and the girlfriend is 19. My granddaughter is now 5 months old. My son got a new job last week that is a decently paying job as a grinder for a manufacturing company. He is in training to be a welder and the company will help him with that so if he can keep the job, it will be good. Last summer, after an incident, I made her stay somewhere else for a couple of days and I only let her come back after we had a serious discussion and they signed a behavior contract. They have not followed all of it to the letter. The main one that has not been followed is the aspect of her getting counseling. She has been hurt in the past and she needs to talk through her issues with a professional. I haven't able to convince her to do this. They don't go to church. She mocks church and God at times. I always took my kids to church but he has now quit going and says he doesn't know if he believes anymore. I am glad they are safe and my granddaughter is safe. If my son can keep this job, he will make enough money so they can get their own place. Don't know what will happen then.
  5. I am new but I need to find someone to talk to. I hope I don't overshare. My son and his girlfriend live with me. They have a child together, my granddaughter. They have lived with me for about 10 months. Before that they were homeless, living out of my son's truck. I don't agree with his decisions, but with her being pregnant and they were not in safe circumstances, I decided to ask them to live with me. It has been very rocky at times both between me and them and them between each other. I have had to talk her off of the precipice of self-harm several times. There have been some minor instances of physical "interaction" between them as well. All this to say I am looking for advice, admonishment, encouragement, Etc. My siblings and parents are very supportive but I feel like I need some third party perspective sometimes.
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