Yeah, we will meet in a couple of days. We live quite far apart, 4 hours by train, which is why we haven't met earlier.
Thank you very much for your answer. Those are all very good suggestions and questions that I will ask her and investigate.
She seems sincere and attends church, but not every Sunday it seems. The church she goes to has very few people of her own age, she has told me, and she has told me that she has no Christian friends. So I can totally understand that it isn't particular fun to live out your faith in that way. I have been forced by my mother to go to churches for many years where there have not been any other children in my own age, so I know the feeling and that it isn't something you tend to look forward to.
Overall, she has almost no friends. She seems to primarily hang out with one other girl, who is her best friend, and with her siblings and their children. So no guy friends it seems like.
I haven't asked her too much about her mental illnesses and I don't know if she's taking any meds. I think I want to meet her first, before I ask her too many personal questions about her history. Apparently she has old cutting marks on her arms from many years ago, but I feel like it's a sensitive subject that I haven't wanted to ask her about yet. I mean, I'm not sure if I had been in her situation if I would have been comfortable to reveal such details to a person I haven't met yet.
Thank you very much for your concerns.
However, no offence, but you seem to be a bit older than me, and I believe times might have changed since you were dating. It is not strange today for people to get in contact with one another online. For instance, two of my siblings met their partners that way. Also, regardless in what way I first get in contact with a girl, she will try to present her best side when we meet.
Furthermore, it is not like I haven't tried to meet girls in the "real world" too. I'm trying both avenues. But living in Sweden, i.e. one of the most secular countries in the world, the churches aren't exactly overflowing with people of the same age. Where I live, you might find 15 senior citizens in a typical church on a Sunday. I travel an hour to get to a larger city where there are churches with people of the same age as I.
Sure, ideally I would also like to meet a partner through the church I attend, but I'm afraid I might not have that luxury. I have a few Christian friends who are about 10 years older than I who are still single, and I would like to avoid ending up like them.
Yes, that's why I feel like we are compatible.
The thing is, my Christian upbringing is kinda unusual, so I have no childhood Christian friends, no church that I feel like I belong to, etc. That makes me feel almost like a heathen when I talk to many other Christians, who have been in youth groups; attended several summer camps, retreats, scouts, etc; done confirmation with others; studied in Bible school; been in praying and home groups; etc. I know that we aren't collecting Jesus points or anything similar. But I cannot help but feel inferior to most other Christians when I have almost no Christian community experience in comparison.
When talking to this girl, I feel like we are more or less on the same level when it comes to our relationship with God and experience with church activities.
Is it being "equally yoked" that is the most important factor when looking for a partner?
