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  1. Thank you much for your advice. I will own up to my truth and be brave with them once more. I completely agree with what you said about my decision will fall on me and not on my parents. God bless.
  2. Yes there is a lot of conformity that happens. It we dont talk about it and discuss it then its the end of it. I know that I have created this. I try and be obedient and good daughter. I dont agree that it should be at the expense of my happiness though. I have talked to an elder in the past who is a little more familiar with my family and who knows our dynamic. I hoped that after speaking to them previously things would get better but they haven't.
  3. Thank you so much for your words and advice. God bless!
  4. We have talked about marriage being together. At this point we are very serious about each other. We have discussed moving in together and I know that will add more fuel to the fire but it would just be to help us save up and it would make things easier since we wouldn't live an hour apart. I dont believe it's my feelings covering up my perceptions. I know that I am committed to this relationship and want it to succeed. It's just hard being in the middle of this.
  5. I completely understand what you mean. I come from a latin background. My family doesn't really have boundaries. I think partly is because I have allowed this for so long. I dont like living on conflict so I just do what I is told. My church is more evangelical and his is more baptist, if were talking about denominations. My parents have been together since they were teens mostly because they has me and they married. They were separated for sometime then they got back together. They had two children after that and there is a big age cap between my siblings and I. My parents recieved Jesus in their lives about 15 years ago. His parents have been separated since he was a kid. He mostly grew up with his aunt who raised him. He was raised Christian but didn't always attend church. He came to Jesus about 3 years ago. He does have a relationship with both of his parents but it's different as he has not ever lived with both of them together. When we first spoke to my parents about us dating. It was all fine but there were conditions. My parents told him that he had to come see me. They didn't want me to drive to him and such. We understood that and he did come to see me. We live about a hour apart so at times usually on sundays I would try and attend his church after my service and we would hang out. It got to the point that evertime I told my family that I was planning on visiting him it would turn into an arguement. I know it's a lot and there is possibly more that I need describe but I think this is a pretty good summary.
  6. As far as financially supporting myself- yes there is no doubt that I can do that. The biggest consequence will be with my family. I hope that they will come around eventually.
  7. I do live in the US. I am of a different culture though. I am prepared to go off on my own. I know that this will create a lot of conflict and that is ultimately what I am trying to avoid. I am a Christian praying person. I have gotten discouraged about this.
  8. Yes it's very contemporary like the person giving the message is not dressed in a suit and tie type. They wanted him to become a member pretty much, he obviously did not agree because he really likes his own church and I understood that. I do still live at home. I have helped my family with bills and with my siblings because the help is always needed. Ifeel like sometimes I'm the third parent. I have talked to them calmly. Once I even wrote a letter to be clear with them of how I felt. I was cut offnot even half way.
  9. Yes it's very contemporary like the person giving the message is not dressed in a suit and tie type. They wanted him to become a member pretty much, he obviously did not agree because he really likes his own church and I understood that. I do still live at home. I have helped my family with bills and with my siblings because the help is always needed. I feel like sometimes I'm the third parent. I have talked to them calmly. Once I even wrote a letter to be clear with them of how I felt. I was cut off not even half way.
  10. Hello all, I am here for advice. I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 16 months. We met a youth church event that his church was attending and my church was also attending. It all started great but then after he visited my church a few times things went a little downhill. My church is more conservative while his church is more "modern". My family wanted him to do the things and worship the way that is done at my church. He is not used to this and he doesn't necessarily agree. My family then began to disapprove and that's when the conflict started. I spoke to my family about how important he is to me and my feelings towards him but they have pretty much just shot me down. It makes me feel very sad because his family has been so kind to me and I was so welcomed at his church and they can't be welcoming to him. My boyfriend and I took a break to try and see if this was something that we both truly want. We have decided that we want to continue this relationship and grow but I am worried about my family. I don't want to go against them but I also dont feel like they are taking my feelings and relationships into consideration. They have told me to stop communicating with him because I am not allowed. I should also say that I am in my mid twenties and I don't agree that they should tell me who I am allowed to speak to who I am not. I need advice on how handle this situation with my parents and with my boyfriend.
  11. GG1010

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    Welcome Nathaniel. I am also new to this site and I hope to learn and grow from others.
  12. GG1010

    New Here

    I am also new to the site. Welcome. I would recommend searching in the web for churches in the Philippines and then reaching out to them and explaining what you want to do.
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