I am married and have been in an affair for 3 years. I know I am completely wrong in so many ways and completely selfish in my ways. I am looking for advice on how to end things and minimize hurting anyone. My wife is unaware of my activity. I do care for the woman and when this started I was making many bad decisions, I feel off the wagon and began drinking again and from there I went on a downward spiral, quickly. Any advice or help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.