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I just have one thing to say to you guys...

Sheya Joie is my pen name. The LORD gave it to me. Sheya means 'little star-like one' and Joie is the French spelling of joy. So 'joy' is my middle name. I call my nick my pen name, because I am a wannabe novelist, working on two novels at the same time. I hope eventually to be published.

Isaiah 54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called. As a widow, I tend to see the LORD as my Husband, according to the above verse. The LORD is the One who loves me, and is vitally concerned in my life and the lives of my young children. HE is the One I can turn to when I need to make decisions. The One who marvelously provides for my family, so that even now, I can stay home and be Mom. The One who calms me down when things are going awful, and gives me peace in life's storms. The One I can trust no matter what. I love HIM!

I told my story on one of the other marriage threads (I've forgotten which, but it was recently). I prayed 11 years for a husband, finally told the LORD to tell me when the right man showed up, and about 3 weeks later, Larry came into my life. Before we got married, we sat down one day and talked seriously about what each of us expected in a marriage - our roles as husband and wife, our views on GOD and children, etc, etc. We lined up, eye-to-eye, on all the most important things in our hearts. So, yes, the LORD definitely arranged our marriage.

I would really hesitate about telling the guy. More than once in my life, when a guy I had a crush on found out, he got all mad and wouldn't be even friends anymore. There's a verse in Proverbs that says to guard your hearts. I had to learn to do that, and not fall in love with guys easily, because I kept getting hurt. My two cents.

Well - this is such a hat as the 'deerstalker.' That's the kind of hat Sherlock Holmes wore in the movies. My brother wears a hat like that, and it looks really good on him. (He's a real brainy sort of guy.) I'm pretty sure, though, that my brother takes his deerstalker off when he gets to church.

My late husband was 43 when we met and got married. (I was in my late 20's.) We met after he started going to the church I was part of. The funny thing is, I had just recently looked around at that church and thought how the 'pickings were slim' - that is, that I didn't think much of any of the bachelor men. About that same time, I told the LORD, 'Look, when the right guy shows up, let me know.' And then Larry came into my life. We were amazingly perfectly suited for each other. We were married almost 14 years, until his death, and had 7 children together. So 43 wasn't too old to get married. I'm also trying to remember - wasn't C.S. Lewis in his 60's or so, when he married Joy?

Happiness is belonging to Jesus, and knowing HIM as Husband and Friend.

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Hi. I was wanting to read this thread because, well, I was raised in a church that was big on tithing - move the decimal point, that sort of thing. Then I married a man who did NOT believe in tithing. He believed in GIVING, and based it on tithing not being mentioned after the crucifixion. He believed this verse: 2Cor 9:7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver. And he gave. I didn't ask how much. The LORD always provided. Yeah, it got tight at times - sometimes, my husband would tell me to pay the bills one at a time. But then the LORD came through, and it got un-tight again. My husband passed away three years ago. The kids and I (7 kids) live on the Social Security survivors benefits - which ain't much! And then - bam - a check shows up to provide for us. Or someone gives us stuff. The LORD still provides. Anyway - a guest speaker this Sunday preached on tithing. He gave a lot of Scriptures, including a lot from the NT. But nothing that I think would have convinced my late husband that 'tithing' (as opposed to giving) is NT. So, anyway, the topic was kind of fresh in my mind, and I wanted to see what y'all were saying. (What I just wrote above made me think of something - that just because someone doesn't tithe, doesn't necessarily mean they don't give.)

Years ago, when I was a newlywed, I thought I was dressing modestly. I had never heard of the 'bend-over' test though. I wish I had heard of it! In the bend-over test, you stand in front of a mirror and bend forward, and check your reflection to see if people can look down your blouse when you are bent over like that. You see, all those years ago, I bent over one day. And a friend of my husband happened to be standing in just the wrong spot at the time - and he peeked down my front. I only found out about it years later, after my husband passed away, when this friend of his finally told me about what had happened that day. I was horrified, and apologized immediately. Offered to apologize to his wife as well. Well... turned out, it wasn't an apology this man was looking for. He started telling me very vulgar stuff - apparently, he had been using that memory of that view of me, in order to commit mental adultery against his wife. All. Those. Years. And now that my husband was dead, this man had the gall to proposition me! I cut off all contact. I was steaming mad too, at his abuse of my husband's friendship with him, as well as his betrayal of his wife - and using a mental image of me to do it! Well - I guard what I wear a good bit better now than I used to. Yes, I know there are guys out there who will lust after anything female - she could be wearing a burka, and he'd still find some excuse to get into lust. But there is no reason for *me* to be careless and give a guy some visual that he can use in his own head for years afterwards. Now, is there?

Heb 13:2 Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares. Not so weird, I think.

Nopales, of course! (which is a Mexican dish, of cooked cactus!!!)

I grew up Baptist; was saved at age 16 in a Baptist church. Shortly after that, the pastor of my Baptist church was preaching/teaching through various books of the Bible, and he worked his way through 1 Corinthians. I distinctly remember him teaching on the first half of 1 Cor 11, the passage on headcovering, and what a row that caused among the women of the church. And then he hit chapters 12 and 14. That caused an even huger row, so that the whole church divided, some (mostly the younger people) saying that if it's in the Bible, it's so - while others (mostly the older people) saying that the pastor had stopped being Baptist, and gone over to being charismatic. During all this, there was one Wed night service I remember in particular, where one women stood up and said hotly that prophecy and such had died out with John the Baptist (???) - and another women turned to the first and said, 'Don't blaspheme!' The upshot is the pastor got fired. Those who believed as he did left that church and scattered to the four winds. The next Baptist church I attended, the pastor was preaching through Psalm 150. Knowing that the Baptists (at least, the ones I grew up among) do not approve of dancing, I listened closely to hear what he would say about verse 4: Praise him with the timbrel and dance: praise him with stringed instruments and organs. You know what he did? He skipped over it. He went straight from 'praise him with the psaltery and harp' to 'praise him with stringed instruments and organs' - as if the part about 'timbrel and dance' wasn't even in there. I know traditionally the Baptist have been called 'the people of the Word.' But I also know by experience that even Baptists are not above pretending certain parts of the Bible aren't there, rather than rock their own boats. With respect,

Two years is not very long still. How she died - whether it was sudden and unexpected, or perhaps a lingering illness - can be a factor in how he is dealing with it. Everyone grieves differently. The boys may be still dealing with her death also. I'm not sure how much help I can be to you, but I am a widow. My husband passed away 3 years ago.

Psa 8:4 What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him? Psa 8:5 For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour. These verses are later quoted in Hebrews 2, with the explanation: Heb 2:9 But we see Jesus, who was made a little lower than the angels for the suffering of death, crowned with glory and honour; that he by the grace of God should taste death for every man. Hope that helps.

I just now ran across this thread, and my immediate reaction to the original question, about what the various words in the kind of church it is mean - was, how about ask the pastor to explain all of it?

The verse above is the one in question. And it is not talking about hair, but about a covering over the head and hair. Until about 30 years ago, it was well understood that it was a sign of respect for a man to remove his hat when entering a church (or any building). Men also removed their hats in respect when the flag was going by, etc.

Gal 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Gal 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

Ok, I finished reading the first one. Mini review time. I enjoyed it. Trying to remember the course of 600+ pages - but I don't think there was any cussing. Maybe 4 'sex' scenes - NOT graphic, discretely handled in my opinion. Two are positive, between a married couple. One is adulterous, and the woman goes through a lot of mental anguish afterwards. The last is a bad guy being a bad guy. This is a spy/military/high-tech novel, so it is something like a Tom Clancy. Some of it moved me to tears; some had me frightened for the characters. It was well-written, I thought. And... there was more than one clear presentation of the Gospel - including the Roman Road. I would reccommend it.