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Well, today has gone better than most days walking with this guy. I took a little bit of a combination approach with Dill today. Instead of saying nothing, I started the conversation about something else entirely different and was able to express a little bit about myself for once. It was actually a bit of an experiment on my part to see if he would make the drastic switch back to religious debate. And he did. More than once just to confirm that with myself. So, I really do think that he bashes Christianity b/c of a bit of denial thing. He wants more than anything to prove Christianity wrong so that he won't have to be accountable for anything. I really do think that's what it is. Naturally he brought up the whole National Geographic discovery again about Jesus' tomb. He more or less challenged me on it. Did I dare say that I didn't believe that fact? Not really. In fact I didn't give him an answer. He challenged me to prove Christianity true after he is more or less saying it is all a lie. I know these are such opposites that there's absolutely NO point in lecturing him right then and there. So, I resorted to saying "If that makes you happy to say that go right ahead." It had the desired affect. He couldn't believe that I wouldn't argue with him. He tried to get me to say something in rebuttal. Nope. I don't feel like taking some bait to get me into a deeper whole that I personally wouldn't know how to get out of. I'm not that well-versed in how to debate with anyone on Christianity. He even tried the whole, "Well, you're just not arguing b/c you have nothing to say." My response: nope, but I'm not giving you an answer today. End of conversation. As to where to go from here, I'm a little vague, but I was pumped up on coffee and nothing could slow me down and he didn't make me feel stupid today, so I'm happy. Thank you, everyone for continuing with the advice and encouragement. More is needed! lol Talk to ya laterz. -- Chrissy

Going back a little bit... MONKEY! Like many things, context should be taken into account when considering tattoos. I don't have a tattoo. I have three very close friends that each have one tattoo. One, has a celtic symbol on his back, don't know what it means. My roommate has a celtic knot tattoo on her neck, just b/c she liked the design. lol And the other has a tattoo of a japanese symbol on her side that means peace. All three are Christians. Anyone want to pick this apart go right ahead. This is for the one who wanted to know how many other Christians have tattoos. Well, there's three more for you. And possibly one more in the future as I'm considering it also. God bless you all!

Thank you! All of these replies I totally needed to hear. We'll see how it goes tomorrow...

Ok, here's the situation. I go to college, I go to classes. Every mon, wed, and frid. morning I have art class. There is a guy that also has that art class. I live in an apartment complex. This same guy (I'll just call him Dill) also lives in the same apartment complex. So, every mon, wed, and friday I walk back to the apartment after class with Dill. Lately, I haven't even wanted to. But, he even waits for me after class just so that we CAN walk back together. Its nothing weird like wanting to ask me out or anything. I have a boyfriend and I'm not his 'type'. Ok, the problem is I just want to either run from him as fast as humanly possible or just strangle him. Obviously, I haven't done either or I wouldn't be writing this. lol Well, the problem arises in the area that he will ONLY talk about tattoos, stupidity of Christianity, how much fun it is to argue just b/c you can make someone else mad/feel bad, more tattoos, how great it is to know that Jesus' bones were found and that all Christians are wrong, he's got cool tattoos, bashing Christianity is fun.... and that's the only two topics Dill can talk about. Tattoos and bashing Christians. How can I turn this around!?? I'm obviously stuck walking with Dill about three times a week. He obviously has no respect for people having beliefs in anything. The only thing he believes in are tattoos. I know nothing about tattoos, I will never get a tattoo, I am a full-hearted Christian. How I'm so enjoyable to talk to when we are complete opposites is beyond me! lol. Well, I'm totally open to suggestions. Thank you so much for anything you guys might be able to add. God bless you! -- Chrissy

It's so good to have added reassurance that there are Christians wanting to help and be an encouragement to others. Thank you for being available and reliable. God bless! -- Chrissy

I made a post back in December about losing my virginity to my boyfriend and asking for advice about it. Well someone said that if he did that then he didn't really respect me... boy that person was right on and more so than I expected. I can't understand how a person so selfish can exist and still funcion as a human being. So instead of going back to the other boyfriend that some said I should get back together with, I am happily single. I can definately say both guys were awful fits for me. I need someone who is ambitious and caring. I went out with Derek first who was very nice and about the must anti-ambitious person that exists. Then, I went out with Daniel who had me fooled for almost 2 months. But, I figured him out sooner than he expected. He is extremely ambitious -- for himself -- and doesn't care about anybody else. He totally freaked out when I broke up with him. And what gets me is that he says I wasted HIS time and that I owe HIM even though he managed to take away my virginity as well as some of my trust in people. I am dong much better now though. I made a police report about his hassling me on campus and he hasn't bothered me since then. In fact, all of my friends are ready to 'hunt him down' if I ever tell them to. hehehe. I really appreciate all the help you guys gave me and I want you all to know that I'm doing good now. My family is wonderful at backing me up in my decision as well as knowing what has happened and not freaking out on me. I've heard the 'i told you so' speech a lot, but that's what I get. I now know to be more careful in getting into any relationship regardless of how wonderful he may appear. i believe God has someone out there for me. I'm not in a hurry to find him either. I'm sure the Lord knows when its best for me and then it will be the kind of person I need and vise versa. Till then, I have lots to do while I am in college. I am a part of BCM (Baptist Church Ministry) on campus and I get a ride to church on Sundays with some college friends of mine. I keep myself busy with homework, classes, my friends, and something to do for God every day. Here's to hoping everyone is doing fabulous and praying for those that need it -- EVERYONE! lol. God bless and catch ya later. -- Chrissy

Hey, I want to thank all of you for the wonderful advice you have given me. I was able to calm down in being able to recieve some input from other christians and married people alike. For an update, I pulled myself together because I would get so sick of life if I had gotten back together with Derek. Then, I went to Daniel's parents house (which is where he is over the holiday obviously) and got to talk to him about all that bothered me about what we had done. We understand each other's points of views and I think we are on the same page now. We shall see how things progress. God bless and have a very merry Christmas!

Well to your age requirement, Daniel is 23 while I am 19. It is a bit of a difference. I guess I was hoping that he'd be more grown up than others. I really appreciate the advice so far, everyone. I really am starting to believ that Daniel is certainly not the one meant for me. There's not enough there for me. It's like I'm talking to a cat. Listening but not really, then goes on about its own business. Maybe he is looking for a permenant relationship like he says, but he really is going about it all wrong. It's like I haven't heard from him in three days and he made NO effort to contact me. It seems rather frivolous to fret over, but it is good to feel wanted ya know? What's wrong with him calling me for a change? When I think back to how well Derek and I knew each other its just insane. I mean, who was the first one I talked to after losing my virginity? Derek. We talked for two hours alone in the campus library. He was able to set me to laughing again. Course, he was really wanting to kill Daniel as well. I'm really starting to think it was stupid to leave Derek. He cared so very much about me and I just got fed up with him anyway. Is that normal? I mean to get bored with someone? It feels like I wasted my time getting to know him so well and then just leaving him. And Daniel, well. He's different. Like I said there are times when we are awesome together, then there are other times when I wonder what I've gotten myself into. How can I know if Daniel loves me? Or do I already know it and just don't want to act on it? I have so many questions and no one to talk to about it. If my family knew about losing my virginity there's no telling what kind of a stir that would cause. I was able to tell my older sister at least. I know I can trust her to not tattle. She's been through much more than me and I know she won't just tell everybody. She'll leave that to me. I've done it for her before. I'm sorry if I carry on about this, but this is my first time getting myself completely stumped. thankyou so very much for your comments. I appreciate it very much. God bless and have a very merry Christmas. -- Chrissy

Advice! Oh, my gosh, do I need advice! I am normally able to handle confusion by myself whenever it arises, but I currently find myself completely befuddled. I've been a college student for one semester now. I had a boyfriend from highschool that I was still going out with when I first got to college. We (Derek and I) stayed together for a year and seven months. Yeah, long time. Did I love him? I know I did. But, I have a tendency to love everyone. I finally had to ask myself if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I had to say no to that one, simply b/c he didn't have an ambition for life. He was just kind of floating along asking what I wanted to do and doing it with me. Why couldn't he have a desire that was completely his own? It's like he went to church because I did, he went to Conway because I moved there to attend UCA (University of Central Arkansas). Anyway I broke up with him, which was awful for both of us. I convinced myself it was best because I would only get frustrated with him in the future, get mad, and he would in turn get mad at me. Anyway I remained single for about a month, then I started going out with one of my college friends, Daniel. Now Daniel is very motivated unlike Derek, but I just don't feel.... loved. It's like he says it, but like he just doesn't care about how he makes me feel. Do I feel like this simply because I miss Derek or is there really something to it? There were times when I wished I could just run back to Derek and beg for him to take me back, but that simply isn't my nature. I usually stick to my guns and do what I said I would do. Now, why I wonder if Daniel is true or not is because I've only been going out with Daniel for a little over a month now and he has managed to take something that Derek could not. My virginity. That was VERY precious to me. Anyone can tell you that I am a firm believer in sex AFTER marriage. why did I do that? WHY!?! But, it's like he doesn't really seem to care that he did that. He felt bad that I felt bad, but not really caring ya know? How should I approach this? I need help. please!