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  1. A man got stuck in a vat of chocolate while trying to unplug it at work for two hours. To read more: vat of chocolate
  2. hmmmm... maybe I should teach my dogs to drive. One could stear and the other could work the breaks and accelerator, that way I could take a nap or do some work while moving from one location to another.
  3. There was actually the same story on Medical Mysteries this past week. I am pretty sure it was a different man that went through this, but maybe I was wrong.
  4. I can't say I totally agree with this. I always felt as a kid that I knew who I was and was more then happy to share that fact with anyone who would listen. But, I could be open to constructive criticism and if someone else didn't see me as I did, althrough it might have irritated me on the outside, on the inside I had the ability to see what they were talking about and would make a decision if I wanted to correct the behvior I was doing ot not. I don't see how authority being questioned can go too far when it is saying they just need a reason to know why that is a rule, law etc. As long as something is explained and they understand why it is wrong, I think questioning authority can be beneficial. I also don't feel everyone needs to get used to the situation they are in. I have been in some very boring jobs, but that is my own fault. I believe there is always a way to make the job a bit more creative. If you don't work well in a certain environment it can benefit you and your employer to adapt how you do things somewhat to make some part of your job a bit more "creative". Of course you are right... but this is what they are simply saying. Even if someone does things the right way but changes the system they are still most likely known as system busters. That is not necesarily true and one of the most beneficial things someone needs is the ability to speak up for themselves. If they don't they are more apt to do drugs, drink, premarital sex, and be in uncomfortably situations prematurely. What you are saying is correct. If taught to be managed, but I don't think it was necesarily pointing out that any of these traits are unmanaged ones. Of course it is good for a person to be a strong person. But, it is also important that people try to understand each other. If you don't understand someone then you are more likely to be rude to them. You are right though, that people seek to be around people that are like them. Unfortunatly, although natural, it isn't the nicest way to be. This is what causes cliques. I can't imagine guilt discipline being bad. Imo guilt discipline isn't just a way of being discipline by others, but mainly a way of discipling yourself. If I stole someones bike and didn't feel bad, that might be a problem. If I murdered someone and didn't feel bad, that might be a problem as well. If I was mean to someone in the heat of a discussion and didn't feel bad, that could be a problem. On the other hand if I was mean to someone and felt bad later that I called them names, etc which I shouldn't have. That would be a good thing. It is a learning mechanism imo.
  5. I had honestly never heard the term indigo child until your post. I had to follow the link to see what you are talking about. Most of the traits don't sound bad to me but a couple do. The ones I see benefit in are: * Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents "who they are." * They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice). * They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don't require creative thought. * They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like "system busters" (nonconforming to any system). * They are not shy in letting you know what they need. The traits that do sound like they could end up being bad to me are: * They come into the world with a feeling of royalty (and often act like it) * They have a feeling of "deserving to be here," and are surprised when others don't share that. * They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them. * They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially. * They will not respond to "guilt" discipline ("Wait till your father gets home and finds out what you did"). ________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________ Here is what I feel about the "indigo child". I think the idea of labeling anyone is bad. Often if someone is labled they may end up trying to live up to that label. You can try and label anyone something but it doesn't mean it's what they are. I think what one really needs to do is determine what traits there child has without labeling them. If you discover positve traits, reward them. If you discover negative traits, work with them to fix them.
  6. I have never heard the term Christian Canon before.... what exactly dos that mean? Thanks in advance,
  7. First, let me say this. Every child is different and a punishment should depend on the child. It shouldn't be a general rule. Both myself and my brother were spanked. My brother was spanked more often then I was. The reason for this is because my Christian, loving, wonderful parents tried to talk to him about his behavior, tried time outs, etc... and nothing else would work. My brother has never hit a woman, has never hitten a man, and neither would ever cross his mind. He is a loving husband, a faithful Christian, and an amazing father. I was spanked a few times. The reason I was spanked less is because my parents talking to me and finding out what the problem is would usually work. I also feel guilty after doing anything wrong, so it usually never had to get to the point of a spanking. Neither my brother or I would in any way think our parents abused us. They were upset as we were when they spanked us. Both of my parents hated doing it and weren't doing in while mad. They never spanked us while they were heated. They never spanked us other then our rears. They would never take any aggression or anger they had out on us during a spanking. It was simply a punishment they had to resort to at times. Next...let me say that spanking is not the same thing as abusing. Just because a child is spanked does not mean they will grow up to abuse women and children or be full of aggression. On the other hand I am sure there a few that will, as well as that there a few that have never been spanked as well. A rule of spanking imo: Spanking should never be done out of anger. If you are doing it out of anger you are not in control and that is when someone may cross the line. Spanking should also only be on the rear. It shouldn't be in areas where you may inadvertantly cause physical harm, like the head. Also, you have to remember that not all children respond to spanking, just as not all children respond to having talks. If your child doesn't respond to talk you may have to resort to spanking, but of course you should start there. I am also not saying that violence doesn't cause more violence. But, I don't consider spanking as a punishment when not in anger to be violence. If someone is beaten, physcially abused, mentally abused, emotionally abused, then yes I believe that child may grow up to do the same to someone else and not have a healthy relationship.
  8. This is what sierra posted. I can't respond there so I started a new thread here for it. I don't have enough posts yet to respond in that area. Ok so i've read a few threads where people talk about spanking and everyone seems to be all good with this. Why is it okay to hit children? Do you hit your friends when they do something that makes you angry? What about clients at work? I'm sure you'd get fired pretty darn fast. Yet it's okay to hit our innocent children who know how to press your buttons. I guess you can't get fired from being a parent...but maybe there should be some more supervision in terms of the parental role? I know that I'm going to get a backlash from tons of parents who say spanking is an acceptable form of punishment. But I guess my question to you is this: Do you really want your kids to learn that physical violence is an appropriate response to frustration and anger? Do you want to be getting calls from your kids school because he/she is hitting other kids and doesn't know how to handle their anger? And how about this: Do you want your 17 year old son to be arrested because he was beating his 16 year old girlfriend? Yes it seems silly now...but trust me when I say THIS IS HOW IT ALL BEGINS! Teach your children how to use their gift of speech to deal with upsetting situations not physical violence-- be their role model and DON'T HIT THEM- talk to them! And anyone who argues that spanking is not physical abuse is kidding themselves. sierra
  9. First, let me say that I have no scripture to back this up. This is just what I feel. I was a Church member for most of my young adult life but did have a falling out of sorts that has seperated me from the Church for a while. I was recently saved this past week and am trying to relearn how to go back to Church. The only reason I am saying that is because I have been out of touch with what the correct answer may be to that question and wanting to make sure you know it is really just my opinion based on nothing but the way I feel. I personally feel almost all disobedience is an act of will. The only times I think it isn't is when someone just does something either because they don't realize it is wrong or because they have been doing it so long out of habit they don't even realize they are doing it. In the first case, hopefully someone will point out to them what they are doing is wrong. In the second case again, hopefully someone will point it out so they can learn to take notice of it and slowly begin to correct it. Other then those two cases I can't think of a way disobedience wouldn't be an act of will. Even if you are forced to do something wrong at gunpoint, I think there is act of will. You could let yourself be killed rather then comply with the order could you not?
  10. I would absolutely positive do everything within my power to get the person help. Cutting is very serious and can lead to much worse. I would definitely tell their parents/guardians, I would also seek professional help for them, and of course pray about it.
  11. Hi... I am trying to log into chat rooms but it never loads. It takes me to the screen where it says please allow a few minutes for it to load but it never does. Any suggestions please? Thanks, Molly
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