D Smith- thank God I am not your spouse.
Here's my thing. If you are a true Christian and living under God's statutes, then there is NO way that you can be able to live a lie. The Holy Spirit convicts- you may be able to ignore it one, two, or hundred times, but we all know that God wins out- EVERYTIME. If my husband would ever cheat on me, I would want to know it immediately. Honestly, I cannot understand some of stupidity on this board.
On a lighter note (this post is now directed to you, bbs71), read the Bible and pray. We all know one of the Ten Commandments, which is "Do Not Lie"-seems like the answer is right there. Lift it up to God in prayer- you know His answer on the matter- now pray for the strength to follow through. The truth is, when you tell your husband, God will be with you. He will never leave you or forsake you. I'll pray for you.
*I think the mods should strongly consider closing this thread before more false doctrine is spread. This will be my last post.*