Do to a conversation in another forum, I decided to post this study on the subject, because of confusion.
There is a lot of judging, and concern within the church about people that get remarried after divorce, or those that choose to marry someone who is divorced. First let me say that all my life I was VERY against remarrying after divorce, to the point that I would not go to my own relives wedding if it happened. I am a very black and white person, I believe the bible is the same way. I don't like discrepancy in the bible, and if I do find one, I'll study it until it is ether black, or white. Well I found a huge discrepancy in the bible concerning remarrying after divorce! This is what I found…
First we know According to the law, those that commit adultery are both put to death. Lev 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with [another] man's wife, [even he] that committeth adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
Here is the discrepancy…
Deut 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it shall come to pass that she findeth no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house.
Deut 24:2 And when she hath departed from his house, she may go and be another man's [wife].
Deut 24:3 And [if] the latter husband shall hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house; or if the latter husband shall die, who took her [to be] his wife;
So here we see a divorced woman remarriage another man… And she was not put to death, it was allowed!?! So ether God can't make up His mind, or….. Getting remarried after divorce is NOT committing adultery!
What about Matthew 19:9? Matt 19:9 And I say to you, Whoever shall put away his wife, except for lewdness, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoever marrieth her who is put away, committeth adultery.
V. 9 is actually not talking about divorce, or not legal divorce, but rather separation, and according to the bible there is a difference. In V. 8 it talks about making your divorce legal through paper work; Matt 19:7 They say to him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorce, and to put her away? That is the reason that they did not be put to death, because as long as they made there seperation legal according to God they could then remarry. Only if a couple separated, but were not legally divorced would it then be adultery to marry!
The truth is… 1Cor 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. God would rather have someone get married, or even remarried than to burn with lust on the inside!