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  1. Washington State Supreme Court Upholds Ruling Declaring Florist Must Service ‘Gay Weddings’ From a portion of the newsletter, emphasis mine: “We had gone to Arlene’s for many years and enjoyed her service. She did a great job for us, so it was just natural for us to go there to have her do our flowers,” Freed told KUOW radio. Stutzman stated that she politely explained that she would not be able to help in regard to the event, but referred him to three other florists that could be of assistance. “I just took his hands and said, ‘I’m sorry. I cannot do your wedding because of my relationship with Jesus Christ,’” (the florist) Stutzman told reporters. But after Ingersoll decided to post on Facebook about the matter, controversy arose on both sides of the issue—both for and against Stutzman. The florist said that she received a number of threatening and angry comments. “It blew way out of proportion,” Stutzman explained. “I’ve had hate mail. I’ve had people that want to burn my building. I’ve had people that will never shop here again and [vow to] tell all their friends.” "...Rob Ingersoll and I have been friends since very nearly the first time he walked into my shop all those years ago,” Stutzman said in a statement following the decision. “There was never an issue with his being gay, just as there hasn’t been with any of my other customers or employees. He just enjoyed my custom floral designs, and I loved creating them for him.” “But now the state is trying to use this case to force me to create artistic expression that violates my deepest beliefs and take away my life’s work and savings, which will also harm those who I employ,” she continued. “I’m not asking for anything that our Constitution hasn’t promised me and every other American: the right to create freely, and to live out my faith without fear of government punishment or interference.” Stutzman now plans to appeal her case to the U.S. Supreme Court.
  2. Marriage of the Israelites was very different from our western marriage of today. Although there is a great amount no known know about Israelite marriage, it customs and bindings, the biblical references that speak on this essential topic us that many Israelite marriage customs were very different than those our modern western societies. Number one,it is known that Israelite girls were expected to have maintained their virginity when they got married—and according to Deuteronomy Chap 22:1 could even be put to death if they were found not to be—men were allowed to marry multiple women. It is hard to know how common polygamy, unacceptable as it is now, which entailed a husband the right of being married to more than one woman, really was in ancient Israel. Also, certain evidence tells us that compared to wifes, the husband had more control over whom they married. For example, Samson chooses his own wife in Judges 14, even though his parents disapprove of the match speaks of a somewhat strong, somewhat independent degree of independence for men for selecting a mate. Most likely, young girls of age were married around puberty whereas young men were somewhat older than who they were marrying. Though unions were generally based more on economic or social considerations than romantic ones, some texts, including the Song of Songs, show us that ideas of passion and romantic love were also not only present but strong in ancient Israel. Number two In order to marry woman, a man would give her father a gift called the Mohar that would officaily seal and begin the betrothal between betrothed. Betrothal was, and today still is, a much firmer commitment than today’s engagement. Though one might think of the betrothal Mohar as a purchase price, this is inaccurate. Anthropologists call this gift “bridewealth.” It is found in many societies throughout the world and is not considered human sale by the people of those cultures—Israelite wives were never thought of as slaves in biblical times, though Israelite men sometimes did their marry slave women or servants. Some length of time after the betrothal, wedding festivities, often involving several or even weeks of feasting, would occur. The relationship between husbands and wives was not as equal in the ancient Near East as in modern Western Society, including Israel. Ba‘al, one of the Hebrew words for “husband,” also meant “lord” or “master,” and many Israelite men had life-and-death power over women in the case of adultery, which in ancient Israel involved a woman having sex outside of her marriage or a man having sex with another man’s wife. Men, though, could have multiple wives and concubines and were allowed to go to prostitutes, thus monogamy was a one-way street in this culture.And is the main reason prompting Jesus to to say the rules for divorce in the Gospel of Matthew... Matthew 19:9 "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." Finally, i say in a firm, final summarization , not all biblical texts are in agreement on every issue regarding marriage perhaps it changed with the constant struggle between conservatism and liberality in different tribes climates and Eras, More suggesting that different Israelite communities and authors had diverse and sometimes colliding viewpoints on more male dominant or gender equal marriage and that Israelite viewpoints evolved over time. Many biblical customs would be unfamiliar or even objectionable to many people living in our present- day Sex obsessed western societies today. Still, when we read the impassioned romantic poetry of the Song of Songs, we realize that some things, don't, never can, and never will change with love and marriage, Thank you.
  3. I need help that only God can give me, strength that I don't have, joy and peace that has been shaken, and I'm fighting fear, which is not of God. It's been a week since my wife left me. She had distanced herself from me and I confronted her and, long story short, she said that she didn't want this. She said that she doesn't want to be married anymore. This came out of nowhere and it completely rocked my world. She wants a different type of life. She says that she's missed out on some things and she wants to pursue them without the entanglements of commitment or the weight of marriage. But she has not asked for divorce. She's been out of the house sleeping at a friend's house who has a vacant room. To keep the kids secure, she's coming in before they wake up so that she can take them to school; then she picks them up and is here until my 11yr old goes to bed for the night; then she's gone. We went to church as a family and also shared Thanksgiving, however that was the worse thanksgiving I've ever had. This is a satanic attack and he wants to destroy my marriage, kids, and ministry. I instantly saw my children's future and it frightened and saddened me. I've explained this to her, but she's blinded by the enemy. I love her so deeply. I am depressed, lonely and sad. I fought for understanding and tried every logical and theological argument that she would tolerate. FTR, I don't believe she's sleeping around. She's a descent woman and she loves the Lord, but she's seduced by Satan and doesn't know it. Her heart has grown hard and cold to the influence of God's word. God has revealed to me that she will be back, but the pain doesn't go away...the fear doesn't either. I just gave it to God and told her that I won't stress her anymore over it. I told her that I would support her aspirations, and I would be here for her in whatever way she needed me to reach her goals. But this is so risky and I know it's an satanic attempt to rip our lives apart. Without God's intervention I'm witnessing the beginning of the end of my marriage. This hurts beyond description. I don't know what to do other than cry, support her and love her pray for her. Anything else will only serve to drive a wedge between us. There's still a connection and there's still hope. I'm open to ideas or testimonies that may give me hope. I don't understand, and I'm severely depressed. I don't eat and I've lost 10 lbs since she told me last week. I'm praying that everything falls back in place. Pray that I be the man that she needs. Pray that she has the success that she needs while our marriage is still intact, so that she won't think that even with this Arrangement it still is an obstacle that needs to be removed. Pray that God softens her heart and restore her affection for me. Pray that the Lord bring restoration to our relationship. Of course my heart is broken. I am devastated. I am undone. But I believe that the effectual fervent prayer of the righteous will avail. I believe that if we ask and I will receive my wife back. I need prayer for strength so that I can endure this. Thank you, pray my strength in the Lord.
  4. So long story short, my husband of a little over a year cannot get over what my life was before I make a Christian(aka the many sexual partners I had). At he beginning I lied about the number because I was terrified of him leaving me, but eventually the truth came out. It hurts. He says he will never leave me but will never be able to forget it. I don't want to live my entire life knowing that. My entire life feeling dirty. I don't know what to do.
  5. Omegaman 3.0

    Knowing if we are marriage ready

    Recently a young man asked me how one knows when one is mature enough for marriage. I responded to him, with some thoughts that went beyond his specific question. I am about to include my reply here. I should add though that some of these principles are for men and women both, and can also be considered in other aspect of life in addition to marriage. Also, I would like to add, that before getting married, I think it is wise (in terms of human wisdom, not Biblical revelation) for people to consider carefully the idea of being established as individuals before starting life in marriage. Finances, careers, education, and other skills in living, can go a long way to reducing the stresses that marriages can encounter. When considering marriage, good, Christian pre-marital counseling can be a very good thing. Try not to start off a marriage with financial problems. Learn about another before learning about them in marriage. Be aware that people often put their best foot forward during courtship, only to become lazy in marriage, revealing their true character. Be careful people, this is a life long commitment, and you do not want to make mistakes here. In my country (U.S.A.), it has become common practice to engage in a ritual we call dating. Unfortunately, dating often interferes with learning about one another. We have a tendency to make dating about being entertained in each other's presence. We go to a movie, or a theme park, or a restaurant, things like that. That can be enjoyable, but it typically prevents us from having meaningful communication about things we need to know about each other. I think it would be better, to meet with other people, more often than going out on a date. I suggest that being around people who are more experienced in life, especially people who already have long term, successful marriages. It is not the most enjoyable way to spend time perhaps, but it is a better way to learn about each other and focus on important things, than watching the latest Fast and Furious movie. Group Bible studies and prayer meetings, even getting together with others for fellowship, are better ways to get to know each other. Group situations are better, being together as only a man and a woman, is giving opportunity to temptation. Any time spent kissing, is time spent NOT getting to know one another, and you know once you start down a path, it is hard to turn around. Stay on the true path, do not get side-tracked. Anyway, what I wrote in answer to the question of know when one is mature enough for marriage, was this: That is an excellent question, and I am not sure that I am wise enough to provide a good answer, but I will offer some thoughts. First, if marriage is something you seek to do, as in something you are pursuing as a priority in your life, you may have your priorities wrong. Pleasing God, pursuing His will should be your priority. When I say pursuing His will, I do not mean things, like "where should I live", "where should I work or go to school" or questions like that. One can pursue God's will no matter where one lives or where one works. Paul, as an example, pursued God's will from a Roman jail. Jesus did the will of the Father by dying on the cross. Paul instructs us to expect troubles and persecution and learn to be content in our circumstances. Jesus tells us to take up our cross daily, and to count persecution as something to be joyful about and count as a blessing. So, I think that much of what we are called to, as Christians, has to do with our attitude, and our willingness to serve both God and others. If we pursue worldly pleasures as a priority, it will not be long before we go off track. This can be true even in subtle and harmless, even good things. There is nothing wrong with things like good food, or entertainment, a shiney new car, a wonderful home, the latest smart phone, or even a wife and family. However, when any of these things, distracts us from God, or cause us to split our loyalty or to seek them first over the kingdom of God, they we have allowed them to become idols. Take note that niether Jesus nor Paul ever married. Paul pointed out that there is a danger in being married, in that pleasing our wives, can distract us from our service to the Lord. When you think about it, the world was cursed, because one man, decided to listen to his wife over listening to God. Paul also tells us that it is good stay single, but if a person lacks self-control then they should marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with lust. Of course, it is better to have self control, and I suggest that since self control is part of the nine-fold fruit of the Spirit, that we really have little or no excuse to not have self control. That is part of Christian maturity. I think one way we know that we are ready for marriage, is when we have come to a place where (instead of looking for the right person) we are more concerned with being the right person. Paul gives husbands the instruction to love our wives, as Jesus loves the church, and died for her. To translate that to human action, husband to wife, we are willing to sacrifice for her, and serve her, and most of all love her. The problem with modern, western men, is that we have come to think of love as having warm, fuzzy, pleasurable feelings about someone. This is very distorted. Love is about serving others, sacrificing for others, seeking the well being of others. As much as it appeals to our flesh to live with a woman and enjoy the benefits of marriage, it is more loving to seek her well being, doing what is best for her instead of cooperating with her in fulfilling mutual pleasure. I believe grounded Christian women, and grounded Christian men, recognize that men have been assigned the role of being the spiritual leader of the couple. That is not something that we hold over our spouse, as some sort of boss or authority, it about being wise, caring, and wanting the best for her, and nurturing her relationship with God. A functional couple is not spending all of their lives, gazing into each others eyes, it is looking outward (and upward), in the same direction. I think also, that we not only need to seek being the right person for our spouse, we should seek a spouse that is right for us. They do not need to be perfect, and certainly things like appearance are extremely low on the priority list. People who are of good character, who both love the Lord first over all, are great candidates for each other. That can take a lot of patience, but to settle for too little, will lead to the people in a relationship, dragging each other down when they should be pulling in the same direction. A couple like that can accomplish a lot for the kingdom of God, and will have a very fulfilling relationship if they can manage to maintain that focus. Take some time to familiarize yourself with 1 Cor, chapter 7, and 1 Cor, chapter 13. Meanwhile, I shall pray for you, and suggest that you not be to shy, to ask others to do so as well.
  6. I have the urge and desire to be married ..in the same way I have the urge and desire to have friends...but... I feel I'm destined to be alone. I dont know how to explain it but I feel ill be alone. I just dont understand why id have the desire to be married and share myself with someone...as well as have the desire to have friends when I dont get the opportunity to have any. ( I've tried) one interesting thing that was said, was that you have no idea if those desires ( for friends and husband ) is from God... However, I feel not having these desires will make me less then human...kind of robotic. Its human to feel.. And it would turn me into a lone hermit. His word says he didnt call us to be alone...but that's where I'm headed to... I just wonder if maybe that's his will for me ...to just be by myself. I dont know ( and foe those who ask, yes I've volunteered at pantries and things like that... I'm gonna try and get back into it) what do you guys think?
  7. My boyfriend and I are Christian and love each other very much. We would like to get married, however there is one big problem. His parents, who are also Christian, do not approve of our relationship. They haven't met me yet, and they refuse to meet me because my parents are not Christian. In their eyes, my boyfriend shouldn't marry someone whose parents are not Christian as they may have an unchristian influence on our home or in our children's lives. We have already talked about how we would raise our kids in a Christian home using Christian principles. My boyfriend and I are really struggling with this. We believe that children should obey and honor their parents, even through we are both adults. And without their blessings he doesn't feel like he can or should marry me. What should we do? Is it unchristian to choose your own husband/wife or to marry without parents' blessings? Please advise. We want to follow the Christian path. We're both praying about this, but need advice.
  8. I am a 23 year old believer who is dating a 25 year old. She was only recently saved and has a long way to go. I have been praying whether she is the one God intended for me to marry. So asked my parents to pray also earnestly regarding the topic. My mother who wasn't too happy about the age difference initially told me the holy spirit spoke to her yesterday and said that he created Adam first and Eve second for a reason. That I need to do what's biblical. So I've been praying for a sign so that God shows me what to do. I want to put him first but it's difficult with so many voices to listen to. Please pray for me and give me advice.
  9. Hi everyone: Thank you for letting me be a member here. It looks like a good site, and it's easy to find your way around too. Would you mind praying for me, and also share some Bible verses to help me? I'll explain.. I am a Christian; have been since February 13th, 1985 at 9:58pm (Yes, I know exactly when!). My wife (or soon to be ex wife) is a Christian as well, she's been a Christian since 1983. On March 4th of this year, late afteroon, I arrived home at our house in the Seattle, WA area and found her with another man. I will not describe exactly where and what they were doing, but I'm sure if you think about it for a moment you can guess. I'm trying to be respectful here. It turns out they had been having an affair off and on over a period of years-and I had no idea. I can't believe it. Later that evening when I had recovered from the shock, we talked a bit. It was very awkward. My wife told me she wanted a divorce and "didn't want to go to church anymore." And I have been a stay at home dad since 2008, caring for our young adult son who has autism. So, that day I was also with no income and not much money in my wallet. I tried staying in our house for a few weeks because I had nowhere to go, no family close by to help me. My wife was around during the week and then on the weekends she went to her "friends" house. Toward the end of March, I checked myself into a local hospital. I had not been eating for quite some time and I had lost 30 pounds. While I was in the hospital, my wife essentially locked me out of the house, so when I was discharged, I was very, very close to going to a homeless shelter. I don't know why she had to lock me out of the house; while I was certainly very mad, I was not a danger to anyone. But I can't spend my time trying to analyze everything. I don't have enough energy for that. At the last minute, one of my sons in New Mexico arranged for me to fly to where he lives with my daughter in law and my grandsons. I am living there now, and I have to get a job, get on my feet, get my own place, etc. That, and deal with the horrendous stress of the divorce which is eating me up too. My wife, for whatever reason, is making life difficult for me even long distance. She's getting in the way of me getting access to funds that are rightfully mine, and just doing whatever she can to "get in my head." Me being without a job, and no money to speak of, I need every dollar freed up that I can get. My son has even paid for an attorney for me, and even the attorney is having a hard time. Can you get the picture that this is a nightmare for me? It is! Thank God for Jesus in my life. He's such a major lifeline to me right now. Please pray for just an overall improvement in my situation. I really need to get a job, but I am going to be honest and say I'm having a hard time getting through the day without sobbing. I sometimes ask The Lord how am I supposed to get a job when I can't keep my head together for a few hours at a time? And I really need my wife to cooperate on some things so I can get some money, any money, that's rightfully mine. I've been praying for my wife a lot, and it gives me peace inside when I do. I've also prayed for the guy she's with, that he will come to know Jesus as his savior. And a final request.. If anyone can offer some guidance, what are some great Bible verses that I can count on to remind me that God is not going to let me fail here? I'm not sure how to word it; some Bible verses that speak to God's restoration in my life in terms of not just money, but my spiritual life, my mental health, and just all around? I am trying to focus on just a few verses at a time and not an exhaustive study, as my brain is pretty fried and I can't concentrate very well at times. If you can help me I will appreciate it and please do pray for me. Thank you! John L.
  10. Do you think that a christian woman marrying an unbeliever (muslim in this case) is a sin or not? And what if they love each others? Do you think this kind of love is wrong? Also, if they are to have children and the children become muslims, is it wrong that the christian lets them become muslims (even if she tells them about her own christian beliefs) ? This kind of marriage is not a good idea anyway in my opinion because of the religion issues, but if these things just happen?
  11. Hoping for the rest of the country to follow suit. How rare is it these days to see a vote 161-0? Part of the article: ‘Pastor Protection Act’ Unanimously Passes Georgia House "ATLANTA, Ga. — The Georgia House of Representatives unanimously approved a bill this week that protects clergy from punishment if they decline to perform same-sex “weddings.” H.B. 757 was introduced last summer by Rep. Kevin Tanner, R-Dawsonville, and found support from Democrats and Republicans alike. “No minister of the gospel or cleric or religious practitioner ordained or authorized to solemnize marriages, perform rites, or administer sacraments according to the usages of the denomination, when acting in his or her official religious capacity, shall be required to solemnize any marriage, perform any rite or administer any sacrament in violation of his or her right to free exercise of religion under the Constitution of this state or the United States,” the bill reads in part. In addition to churches, the bill also applies to religious schools, missionary societies and denominational conventions. “The Pastor Protection Act is a simple reaffirmation of our bedrock principle of separation of church and state,” Tanner told reporters. “It makes clear that Georgia respects and honors the sacred oaths taken by our pastors, priests, rabbis and other clergy and that government has no intention of asking them to violate those oaths.” Homosexual advocacy groups decried the move, opining that it grants a “license to discriminate.” “It allows faith-based organizations to withhold services if they choose to do so,” Jeff Graham, the executive director of Georgia Equality, said in testimony before the Senate Rules Committee, which is considering a similar combined bill. “I am especially concerned that this bill will have a chilling effect on the state’s LGBT families.” As previously reported, a homosexual activist has been calling for clergy nationwide to stop calling homosexuality sinful. According to the New York Times, Mitchell Gold of Faith in America told the publication last May that “church leaders must be made ‘to take homosexuality off the sin list..." "...The Pastor Protection Act passed 161-0 on Thursday. “There’s a global threat to religious liberty occurring,” said Dr. Daniel Ausbun, pastor of First Baptist Church in Moreland in a column published in the Newnan Times-Herald on Saturday. “Religious liberty is the freedom to believe and practice your faith apart from government interference...”
  12. DaughterofLight

    Music Video Help

    Hello everyone! It is nice to meet you! Recently I have had a problem pop up in my life, and I was wondering if anyone had any advice for how to handle it. One of my greatest hobbies is cosplay. It is where you dress like your favorite characters from movies, games, comics, anime, or really anything! I have always loved it, but as these conventions are not always Christian friendly, I often do extensive research into them and the characters I portray in order to stay true to my faith. Recently, however, something happened and it has me very confused on what to do. A singer came to a convention in my city. She was looking for cosplayers to film briefly for one of her music videos. I read over the rules, and they stated that nothing inappropriate was allowed in the video (ie. no swearing, bullying, etc.) because the video was supposed to be family friendly. My friend (another Christian) decided to sign up with me, and we both were very excited, as not only was this a great opportunity, but also that we wouldn't have to violate our beliefs by joining. (We did a lot of research on the singer herself, and on the song she would be filming, and her and the song both appeared to be fine) Everything went well... until I came home from the convention. The singer posted that she had filmed a woman proposing to her girlfriend for her new music video. It was shot on a whim and was not planned, and was done after my friend and I had already finished shooting our parts for the video. Because of this, I didn't know about the proposal until after we were done filming and after the video was already nearly completed. I have begun to feel very guilty about being a part of this production. I had no idea that this would be a part of the video, and if I had, I would not have taken part in it. The Bible specifically states that marriage between two women is wrong. Am I supporting their life style by being featured in this video? Even though I am certain it is too late to back out, should I try anyways? And has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? Thank you everyone for your help! <3
  13. “House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a PRUDENT WIFE is from the LORD.” Proverbs 19:14 For about four years, I had been discreetly and prayerfully searching for a lady to marry, but all my efforts were to no avail. Many a time, based on my utopian ideal on what a perfect wife should be, I’ll get into a relationship- only to be disappointed after some months… And before the brake up, I must have wasted some resources, including time and energy. Until recently, God clearly revealed my wife to me. And since I got into relationship with this lady from the Lord, I can’t imagine ever being able to get (on my own discretion) a lady as prudent and lovely as she is for a wife. And ever since my breakthrough, I have learnt great lessons from my own experience, which I have been using to counsel my friends who are still scouting for a perfect life partner. Hence, I feel led by the Holy Spirit to share my lessons with folks who may as well be searching for a heavenly life partner in the interim. So they can hit right at their covenant life partners and avoid the grievous mistake and consequences of choosing a stranger for marriage. “How Can I Find a Heavenly Life Partner?” As I discuss with most of my friends, who are searching for life partner, I have always discovered one hindrance which have prevented them and so many believers (including my very self then), from getting the direction of God for a life partner. Just like me then, they have been earnestly praying to God to reveal the perfect person to them. Which I believe is the best and wisest thing to do, when a believer is looking for a life partner. Because according to our opening scripture, “A prudent wife (including husband- if I may add), cometh from the Lord.” Because, we as humans are very incapable of knowing and choosing the right person that will help us fulfil our God-given visions. But the hindrance here is that, these my friends (like me then), after praying, are not open-minded to the perfect will or choice of God. After praying, we put God’s opinion aside, and bring out our blueprint to scrutinize the person before we choose. In short, even in the place of prayers, we start giving God our criteria. For instance, if it’s a man asking God for a wife, he petitions God with all manners of conditions… Conditions such as: she must be very beautiful; tall and slim in shape. She must have gap in-between the teeth. She must have big breast and buttocks. Must come from a particular tribe… and the list goes on and on. If we’re to get God’s perfect counsel, we must open our hearts to God, for whomever he wants to give to us. Then after God reveals the person, we can then confirm spiritually (not carnally), if truly the person is from the Lord. My friend and Christian Brother, who came to me recently for counsel, concerning choosing a life partner, is a perfect case study. He told me he had been praying for a life partner. That he wants God to reveal his life partner to him. Then almost immediately, he started recounting to me, what he is expecting from the wife. He said the girl must be working… and other conditions… Then I told him plainly that God cannot show him a wife. Because he has already made up his mind on what he wants. As he heard that, he agreed with me, and even shared with me that there is a lady he feels nudged to speak to concerning marriage, but he was not comfortable with her fat stature. He agreed that the girl was a good Christian and has the fear of God, from his relationship with her. But just that he was uncomfortable with the fatness. It was then I counseled him to be totally opened to whomever God wants him to marry, if he must get married to God’s perfect will for him. Recently he just called me that he has gotten all the convictions from God, he needed to go ahead and approach the said lady for marriage. You see, if you want God to reveal to you your perfect life partner, you must completely zero out your mind in your request, else God will not speak to you. Because God knows better, than speak to you when you will not accept his counsel… If God must speak to you concerning marriage, you must wholeheartedly say; “God reveal to me the right person you want me to marry; I will marry her regardless of anything. I just want nothing but your perfect will. I don’t care her shape, status, height, color, education, tribe or anything.” I told someone that if God revealed a cripple, or a deaf mute to me to marry, as I confirm very well its God, I’ll go ahead with the marriage no matter how hard it seems… Many Christians only end up marrying God’s permissive will, because they won’t allow God show them his perfect will. And even if he did, they won’t accept it if the person does not meet their criteria. Hence, there are so much struggles, even breakages in many marriages. Including Christian Marriages. So there you have it! To choose a perfect life partner, ask God to show you. After praying, as you go about searching, just be open-minded to whomever God reveals to your heart… And I must add here, that a woman is not to find a husband, it is the man that should find her. The bible says; “He who finds a wife”. The man is to find the wife through God’s guidance, while the woman, as the man comes speaking, she should ask him for some time to pray for confirmation. And to confirm the voice of the Lord concerning the revelation of a life partner, I advise a minimum of two different witnesses of the Holy Spirit, before making a move or acceptance. Personally, before I was totally convicted to speak to my fiancé, I had up to three witnesses from the Holy Spirit. Then as I got into the relationship, I have received more confirmations from the Lord. Before I moved, I dreamt about her thrice, but the face was not specific. Although I saw on those three occasions that she was light in complexion. I even went ahead telling my course mates that my wife to be is light in complexion. Then after some time, I heard her name clearly in my heart, with God telling me, she likes me so much. Finally, before I spoke to her concerning marriage, the Holy Spirit convicted me with a scriptural revelation as I read a Christian literature. So in choosing a life partner, you must be fully convinced by the voice of God in your spirit (heart), then you move based on your conviction or convictions as the case may be. Because it is your convictions from the Lord that will enable you hang on in the marriage, regardless of whatever challenges you may come across. You will not make the wrong choice in choosing your life partner, in marriage, in Jesus precious name! Remain Blessed! Emeke Odili.
  14. Greetings All, This discussion will be between Shiloh357 and Butero regarding the authority of the husband in the home. Please be cognizant of the fact that this forum is specifically designed for one on one discussions between only the two members involved. If you are not Shiloh357 or Butero, please do not, under any circumstances, post in this thread.
  15. I was asked the question, and i could not give an answer... I'll appreciate your opinions... Can a married man lust after his own wife? - 1 Thessalonians 4: 1-5 thank you in advance
  16. “Adults Raised by Gay Couples Speak Out Against Gay ‘Marriage’ in Federal Court” ”Four adult children of same-sex parents have submitted amicus curiae briefs in the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals asking that it oppose the legalization of same-sex “marriage." The Court, in New Orleans, La., heard arguments on Jan. 9 as it considers whether to uphold traditional marriage – defined as being between one man and one woman -- in Texas, Louisiana, and Mississippi. B.N. Klein, Robert Oscar Lopez, Dawn Stefanowicz, and Katy Faust all grew up with homosexual parents. All four argued that redefining marriage to include same-sex couples would harm children by depriving them of a mother or father. In her brief, Dawn Stefanowicz described her experience living in a same-sex household. “I wasn’t surrounded by average heterosexual couples,” she says in her court brief. “Dad’s partners slept and ate in our home, and they took me along to meeting places in the LGBT communities. I was exposed to overt sexual activities like sodomy, nudity, pornography, group sex, sadomasochism and the ilk.” “There was no guarantee that any of my Dad’s partners would be around for long, and yet I often had to obey them,” she said. “My rights and innocence were violated.” “As children, we are not allowed to express our disagreement, pain and confusion,” Stefanowicz explained. “Most adult children from gay households do not feel safe or free to publicly express their stories and life-long challenges; they fear losing professional licenses, not obtaining employment in their chosen field, being cut off from some family members or losing whatever relationship they have with their gay parent(s). Some gay parents have threatened to leave no inheritance, if the children don’t accept their parent’s partner du jour.” “I grew up with a parent and her partner in an atmosphere in which gay ideology was used as a tool of repression, retribution and abuse,” B.N. Klein wrote of her experience with a lesbian mother. “I have seen that children in gay households often become props to be publicly displayed to prove that gay families are just like heterosexual ones.” Klein said she was taught that “some Jews and most Christians were stupid and hated gays and were violent,” and that homosexuals were “much more creative and artistic” because they were not repressed and were naturally more ‘feeling.’” “At the same time I was given the message that if I did not agree (which I did not), I was stupid and damned to a life of punishing hostility from my mother and her partner,” she recounts. “They did this with the encouragement of all their gay friends in the community and they were like a cheering squad. I was only allowed out of my room to go to school. This could go on for weeks.” “I was supposed to hate everyone based on what they thought of my mother and her partner,” said Klein. “People’s accomplishments did not matter, their personal struggles did not matter, and their own histories were of no consequence. The only thing that mattered was what they thought of gays.” Robert Oscar Lopez who was also raised by a lesbian mother and her partner, had a different experience which he described as the “best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple.” “Had I been formally studied by same-sex parenting ‘experts’ in 1985, I would have confirmed their rosiest estimations of LGBT family life,” Lopez wrote, but then went on to argue against same-sex marriage saying that, “behind these facades of a happy ‘outcome’ lay many problems.” He describes experiencing a great deal of sexual confusion due to the lack of a father figure in his life. He turned to a life of prostitution with older men as a teenager... Katy Faust, who grew up with a lesbian mother and her partner also testified against gay marriage but clarified that “my advocacy against gay marriage and for the rights of children will never include condemnation of my mother and her partner or details about their private lives.” “When we institutionalize same-sex marriage,” Faust writes, “we move from permitting citizens the freedom to live as they choose, to promoting same-sex headed households. In doing so, we ignore the true nature of the outcropping of marriage.” “Now we are normalizing a family structure where a child will always be deprived daily of one gender influence and the relationship with at least one natural parent,” she explains, “Our cultural narrative becomes one that, in essence, tells children that they have no right to the natural family structure or their biological parents, but that children simply exist for the satisfaction of adult desires...”
  17. AL Supreme Ct Justice Urges Governor to Defy ‘Tyranny’ of Courts on Same-Sex ‘Marriage’ “MONTGOMERY, Ala. – Alabama Supreme Court Justice Roy Moore, also known as the “Ten Commandments judge,” is urging Gov. Robert Bentley to defy the federal courts on the issue of same-sex “marriage” and uphold the state Constitution. Moore sent a letter to Bentley on Tuesday following Friday’s ruling by U.S. District Judge Ginny Granade, which declared Alabama’s “Sanctity of Marriage Amendment” unconstitutional. “As you know, nothing in the United States Constitution grants the federal government the authority to redefine the institution of marriage,” he wrote, stating that the recent ruling raised “serious, legitimate concerns about the propriety of federal court jurisdiction over the Alabama Sanctity of Marriage Amendment.” The amendment at issue, passed in 2006 with 81 percent of the vote, states that “[m]arriage is inherently a unique relationship between a man and a woman.” “As a matter of public policy, this state has a special interest in encouraging, supporting, and protecting this unique relationship in order to promote, among other goals, the stability and welfare of society and its children,” it continues. “A marriage contracted between individuals of the same sex is invalid in this state...” “Today, the destruction of [marriage] is upon us by federal courts using specious pretexts based on the Equal Protection, Due Process and Full Faith and Credit Clauses of the United States Constitution,” he wrote in his letter to Bentley. “As of this date, 44 federal courts have imposed by judicial fiat same-sex marriages in 21 states of the Union, overturning the express will of the people in those states.” Moore said that the issuance of marriage licenses to same-sex couples would be unlawful, and called upon Bentley uphold the state Constitution as he does the same as Alabama Supreme Court Chief Justice. “I ask you to uphold and support the Alabama Constitution with respect to marriage, both for the welfare of this state and for our posterity,” he urged. “Be advised that I will stand with you to stop judicial tyranny and any unlawful opinions issued without constitutional authority.” “As Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court, I will continue to recognize the Alabama Constitution and the will of the people as overwhelmingly expressed in the Sanctity of Marriage Amendment,” Moore said.”
  18. Trying to put a giant issue in a nut shell: my husband has admitted to his issues with anger, laziness, and selfishness. He either says that's the way he is and can't change or he tries reading a book, praying,or a devotional for a couple days...then says he is just this way...something is wrong with him and he can't change. We have done counseling where he listens, actively engages, agrees to the problem and solution but just won't take the steps. We can't afford counseling anymore. Especially if he refuses to do his part...it's worthless. I see my son getting his dad's anger. My husband says He doesn't have time for his devotional as he plays on his phone all night. Our kids need his love And encouragement but he seems to hate coming home and says he just can't wait for them to get in bed (I sometimes relate but after a full rough day with the kids). We have a great life but he doesn't seem to to think so. He seems miserable but not miserable enough to DO SOMETHING TO CHANGE IT. how can I submit or consider him head of our home? How can I respect him and not resent him? We struggle financially because he is in a commission job and Just has a lazy bad attitude about it. So we have very little money now, and he knows he needs a New job but has no motivation to look for one. So I do it and suggest some and he shoots them down. I have tried the encouraging approach and he thinks all is well and stays lazy. I try to motivate and he shoots me down. I try telling him how I feel and how this affects me and kids...he says I just make him feel like crap and it's not helping and loses his temper. Its just impossible...but I'm bound to him. Pray for me. I will take any advice.
  19. The Worlds religions, a few Protestants, Meet with the Pope to define “Marriage.” From the article on the ongoing Nov 17th - 19th meeting: “Russell Moore, Rick Warren to Join ‘Pope Francis’ With Muslims, Buddhists for Interfaith Conference” “ROME – Russell Moore, the president of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention, and Saddleback megachurch leader Rick Warren will team up with Roman Catholic Pontiff Francis later this month for an interfaith Vatican conference on marriage and family.” “According to the Catholic News Service, those of the Jewish, Islamic, Buddhist, Hindu, Jaina Shasana, Taoist and Sikh religions will be present, as well as Roman Catholics and professing Christians. The event is sponsored by the Pontifical Council for the Family, the Pontifical Council for Interreligious Dialogue, and the Pontifical Council for Promoting Christian Unity.” A few thoughts on the sponsored Pontifical Council meeting: We honestly do not need the worlds religions, Roman Catholicism, and watered down Protestants that embrace Roman Catholicism defining marriage for the Christian. God Himself has already defined it: Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Mat 19:4-6 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. The “Christian unity” being referred to in the article points to unity with “Rome” through it's Roman Catholic church system. This is the same Roman Catholic Pope Francis that has recently tried to embrace the sin of homosexuality, kissed a human skin fleck and a vile containing human blood to “saint” two previous Popes. And has a “father” that tells him all are going to heaven, even atheist... (This is the cult of Universalism.)
  20. Dear Friend, First of all I would thank you for sparing few minutes of your time to learn about miracles of Jesus Christ in my life. I assure you that this passage will help you find answers to many of your queries in life and about Jesus as well..!! When someone asks me about my faith in Jesus, whom I claim to have changed my life radically, I take no time to smile back and say – ‘without Jesus, you had no Timothy around you this day to ask this question..!!’ That much is the impact of Jesus Christ on my life. It was then painful every day before HE came into my life but now every minute has turned into joy..!! My association with Jesus Christ is 13 years old and in course of time, I have never neither felt alone nor forbidden from HIS mightiest love. This great love of Jesus has empowered me to cross many hurdles, multiple milestones and claim blessings after blessings in my life and into other’s life as well. Yes! It is Jesus Christ who led me all the way in this victorious life and it was HE, who was with me in my every fall and rise in all these years. His strong hand has never neither let me down nor left me alone. Instead, blessed me to be a blessing to others! My life before Jesus It was in the year 1999, when I was in my Intermediate education. My family was in severe troubles and tribulations which were there for long time. Our life was so miserable that we used to work a lot but nothing would remain at the end of the day. It was just like we had a big hole which was eating up all our earnings and on the other hand, we had to face satires of neighbors, relatives and friends on our poverty and miserable life style. Their comments and condemnations used to hurt us a lot but no one minded it because, it was a fun for them. I was so tired of hearing all those satires, comments and fun making things all the day for years and years. My father came from a very poor family and had no one supporting around. He got married to a middle class woman and his intentions and efforts were to become rich quickly. He attempted every possible business to fulfill his dreams and also he did not want his children to suffer from the same poverty and hunger he came across from his childhood. My mother used to do tailoring work all the day and earn our daily bread. She used to work all the day to earn a very little amount of money. My parents are very loving and caring and loved us .In spite of our poverty they gave us food, education, clothes and everything we asked for. It is not a sin to wish becoming rich, but short cuts will never work and even if they work, it would do for very short time. This same thing happened to our family. Though he earned money in those businesses, they never fulfilled any of our needs and used to dissolve somewhere. Only source of our daily bread was my mother’s tailoring work. Though my parents were making every effort, things did not work for us at all. The more we tried to succeed, we slipped into deeper poverty. Every day, we had to wait till 3pm in the afternoon to have our day’s first meal. I have three younger brothers and of them the youngest, Raju, was disabled. Though we four brothers were in our teens, we learnt to hold our hunger with water and very small quantity of food which my mom used to prepare. Apart from this hunger and poverty, the ruthless words of our friends, neighbors, especially relatives, who never gave us a single penny, but would throw hurtful questions like – ‘when will your life set right man’, ‘We bet your dad is never going to do it well’, ‘you kids will become beggars for sure’, ‘You better leave home/education and get into some work, at least you kinds will survive’. Our tender hearts would break many time a day with these pricking statements. My education was discontinued as I had failed in one subject in Inter First Year and was not in a situation to pay for the Second Year fee nor even re-examination fee at least. Because even Rs 10/- was a very big amount for us which helps to cut our one complete day. On the other hand, I lost my character. My parents brought me up very well but because of conditions in my family, neither my dad nor my mom had any time for us. There was no one around to care my daily routine. Slowly, I started stealing things from general stores, money from neighbors, got addicted to telling lies and even worst of all, I got addicted to all deadly sinful ways. My situation was very worst and I couldn’t skip them because I was taking them as ways of relief from my painful times. oh! It was a very pathetic condition for any young man to be in such conditions. Addiction to any sin is very very worst part of any human’s life. Mathews 4:16 Bible say’s: People living in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned Psalms 25:3 Bible say’s: No one who hopes in you (Jesus), will ever be put to shame Luke 4:18 Bible say’s: The Spirit of the Lord is upon me (Jesus), because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed. Salvation In the first week of September 1999, one day one of my friends came to me and took me outside to talk. After some chit-chat, he started explaining me about the love of Jesus. Very immediately I said: “I know you are trying to convert me to Christian but now I am neither ready for it nor has any possibility in future. I hated Jesus very much. I would say very very much. I was quite bitter with Christians every time. My home was near to a church where they used to play songs the early morning of the day and as soon as I heard that song, I would start abusing church and Christians. I felt that these people are heavily paid to convert people from other religions into Christianity and are planning to eradicate Hinduism in my country. (After accepting Jesus as my savior I realized that I was wrong. Every one of us has good respect towards India and we love our country. I feel more proud now than earlier and gladly say that my India is greatest country and Indians are the best humans across the globe. Because we Indians have love, mercy and sentiment in every particle of our blood. Whatever be the religion, caste and creed, every Indian will surely have love and compassion for everyone. It’s a gift we have by birth from Jesus almighty. Coming back to my story, here my friend used to visit me every day and tell me about Almighty Jesus’s love and power that he expressed through Jesus Christ on cross. But I had no interest in listening to his preaching and I used to gaze at people passing by all the time. He spent hours with me preaching about HIS love and compassion on human kind. After preaching me for continuous days, he said to me – “brother, I have preached you gospel of Jesus Christ and HIS love and resurrection power and I don’t think anything is left from my side”. Saying this he left for the day. On that day I was wondering why this man was passionate to convert me to Christian. (Again, I was wrong here, actually he was not eager to convert my religion but trying to introduce me to a loving and caring GOD – Jesus Christ, who is capable to redeem any man from any bondage. He is the only redeemer who rescues very instantly, only God who is always keen to help the one who comes seeking HIS mercy). After my friend left on that day, I went home forgetting all he taught me. All my family members went out. My youngest brother, Raju, and myself were at home and fall asleep early. Around at 11 o’ clock night, all of sudden I noticed that someone is staring, standing beside the wall and as I was looking at it, that creature came out and stood before me. It was a black figure with around 5’7” tall. OH God., It looked so horrible that I fell down with fear and was gripped in shivering. But there happened a miracle, unintentionally I started saying “may the blood of Jesus be ever victorious”, “may HIS Almighty name be victorious“, and ”may HIS Almighty name be victorious“. I wasn’t sure what I was chanting and had no idea at all that I am calling on a Jesus whom I hated till that very moment. As just I was uttering those words, all of sudden, I saw a very BIG & WHITE CROSS stood very next to my bed. It was around 15’ feet tall and was glowing in radiant white. We can never find that white color on this earth. Amazingly, as soon as that black creature notices this big and white cross, he fled away at speed of light..!! Hallelujah, I was both surprised and happy to see that incident. Then as I was still watching everything, filled with confusion and joy together, a blanket made of many small crosses came and fell upon us. I was so immensely joyful that I didn’t even notice what’s my brother was going through that day and because he was dumb and lame, he too didn’t show any reaction. But I am sure that he too should have experienced it. I was filled with an extraordinary faith in the Jesus Christ and a strong faith roused within me that this God will surely help me to come out of poverty, troubles, debts and even every defect of my life. I got much faith in Jesus that this God will surely redeem me from my bondages & fulfill my every dream. Immediately I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal savior and acknowledged HIM to be my one and only God with mouth, whole heartedly..!! Since then, every morning and evening and even to say, whenever I got some time, I used to pray to HIM seeking his deliverance. My prayer was very simple at that time. As one of us speaks to a friend, I used to tell him every pain and troubles I had in my life, expressed every feeling in his presences. One day while I was praying, I broke into tears and started confessing all my previous sins and mistake I committed. I cried for hours after hours that day and repented for all my sinful ways I adopted earlier. Then after some time, I felt deeply in my heart that someone has taken away all the sins which were very heavy on my heart till that time. Aha! I am free.. I got redeemed from my sinful ways and thoughts.. Jesus forgave me..!! I was filled with eternal joy this time and I was just dancing in happiness. On that very same day, I made a commitment that I will not stumble into my old wicked and sinful ways again leaving this golden, eternal and peaceful path. Jesus started blessing me in all terms of my life. He spoke to me through verses in Bible: II Corinthians 5:17 Bible say’s: Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! True! This God, in whom I have put my complete faith, did not leave me behind nor left me anytime. Till to this day, I have many people around me who say that my faith in Jesus didn’t go in vain. As the days passed on by, he gave me everything, cleared every debt, casted out poverty and blessed me better among my relatives and friends. Above all of these, he cleansed my heart of my sins and promised me an eternal life, Millions of praises to such a good and loving God, Jesus Christ. Romans 10:11 Bible say’s: “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” Miracles started I was steadily growing in Jesus Christ and slowly my time started changing its facet. I saw miracles after miracles back to back in my life. From small things to big things, family issues to financial troubles. My Jesus handled everything of my life in HIS own style. I still don’t believe how things changed from extreme poverty to blessed prosperity. I never see anything unusual. Say money falling from heaven, someone leaving a million dollars briefcase around my or so. But things changed very quietly. So silently that even I who prayed Jesus for miracles had to gaze at every small moment in life to study how things are moving on.. that very nature in me helped me to observe Jesus’s plan and work in my life. I prayed, saw them in faith, believed honestly and undoubtedly and saw them alive! Hallelujah to Holy Spirit who taught me to follow this excellent rule. The very first concern of my life Jesus handled was poverty and its effects on my family! As I said earlier, till that day we had lot of debts and our creditors used to trouble us every day. One fine morning, one of those creditors came to my home and my dad asked him if he can help us to start a business. At first he scolded my father, then after some time his voice all of sudden became adorable and spoke well of us and then took out Rs. 2500/- and gave them to my father. Halleluiah.. I was shocked to see this miracle. It was the first miracle that I saw and it was just awesome! A man who was repeatedly forcing us to repay the money every day has helped us to start a new business. It was my Lord who blessed us by giving him a kind heart. Yes! Jesus has the power to control and turn any human according to HIS plan and will. He he is so kind and merciful God to set everything work together for good to all those who Love HIM – Amen. With that little money, my father started a movable, small fast food center by road side. He first started it at a crowded junction. Looking at that crowd, I thought that we will blessed abundantly. But unfortunately not even a dozen plates of food were sold there. We got so frustrated by the sales. Not sure who taught him, my dad changed the location to a small junction of some residential and few commercial buildings. This junction was no way comparable to the old one. Our fast food center attracted only few people and used to sell up to Rs.50/- Rs.100/-. My father never had a hope of big sales there but still he was happy because he now has something to earn his daily bread! On the other hand, I was growing in faith steadily and almost entire day, my mouth and heart would keep on praising Jesus & presenting my prayer requests in HIS presence. I used say: I am not sure Jesus what you are going to do but please help me to fetch at least 50 pots of water daily (as I was drawing water from nearby well for both drinking and clean utensils). Till then only few pots of water was enough for us. As I was praying with much faith that my Lord will surely bless my business, my Lord Jesus Christ blessed our business to grow abundantly. It grew in no time and our sales went up from Rs 100/- per day to 3000/- per day and that was more than enough for us. All the hotels around us almost closed their businesses and vacated their premises. My father gained a good fame – ‘This man has now put every hotel around into scare now’. That’s how Jesus glorified him for just being a father to HIS son (me). Yes my dear friend, Our Jesus will not only blesses us but also our parents, brothers, relatives, friends and all those who will bless us. Yes, Jesus can uphold anything and everyone. If it is Jesus who raises you (even from dust), every human on this will accept you happily. That is how sovereign Jesus shows HIS control on this earth. He always tends to prove HIS ability to help you and your every belonging by bringing up impossible things into your life. Mathews 19:26 Bible say’s: with men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible We started repaying our debits, moved to a new big house and myself, was back to studies. All our relatives started coming back to us. He generated a new and true love in them and they were receiving us very warmly. All things changed super naturally into our favor and it was my redeemer, Jesus Christ, who changed everything dramatically. There is one and only God on this earth who is living still, very merciful, powerful and above all, patient enough to bear us every time. We humans trouble HIM many times every day. Even I too was not that much righteous after I accepted Jesus till he cleansed my heart. I stumbled here and there as every one of does, till we are changed into HIS own image by HIS precious blood. Whatever be my situation, whenever I repented of my sins at HIS feet and seek HIS mercy in my times of trouble, Jesus Christ would say to me: “Let your heart not be troubled in any situation. Just come to me and I will resolve your every problem and will surely redeem you from any bondage.. Because I am your Jesus and you are my beloved child. I love you so much that I laid my own life on the cross just to save you from evil bondages of this world. If you come to me and believe in me, I am strong enough to rescue you from any trouble. I will bless your labor and land to give its best fruits to you and will turn even your enemies into your favor. Because I am the one who created heaven and earth and my ability has no limits and my strength immeasurable.my plans for you are amazing and my ways are simple to follow. All you have to do is follow my ways by heart honestly.” John 14:1 Bible say’s: Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. Aha.. Millions of praises to such a loving and promising God who cares for us just like a mother protects us more than a father..! Yes! It is the mercy of Jesus Christ which delivered many people around you and me from the bondages of SIN, POVERTY, DISEASES, TRIBULATIONS in FAMILY, UNSTABLE FINANCIAL POSITION, WITCHCRAFT POWERS, ADDICTIONS, DIVORCE, ILLEGAL AFFAIRS, BARRENNESS (CHILDLESS), DESERTED (LONELINESS) and every problem humans face these days. There is nothing from which Jesus Christ in incapable of redeeming you! All you have to do is believe in HIM that he will ‘surely deliver’ Anointing of Holy Spirit: I was steadily growing in prayers and meditating Jesus’s word. It is not that I turned into a prayer warrior overnight. I was insisting on myself and asking Jesus to help me to increase in faith and prayer and Jesus has been helping me to increase in faith and Love. The more I grow in HIS faith, the more Love grows in me and even vice-versa. I strongly believe as said in bible, Love and Faith are closely related and grow unitedly as we seek HIS presence on daily basis. One day, I was going to Gospel of Luke chapter 11 verse 13, I found word of God saying: Our heavenly Father will surely give Holy Spirit to all those who asks HIM for it. This verse touched my heart and I was so happy to see this promise in bible. Before to that, I used to think that power of Holy-Spirit is only for pastors and elders. Though my church pastor told me several times, I was just taking those parables as reference to power and ability of Jesus. But as soon as I saw this verse, I started praying for Holy-Spirit. I used to spend hours and hours in prayer just asking for holy-spirit. With 2-4 days of fasting per week, 3-6 hours of daily prayer, I prayed for one complete year at the feet of Lord to bless me with HIS Holy-Spirit. I would cry all the day to forgive me in case any hidden mistake lies in me. Every morning, I used to complete my work at fast food center and jumped into secret prayer room far away from my home. I should thank my friend here who allowed me to pray in his house for almost one year. If there was any issue to reach this prayer room, I used to go to railway tracks nearby and used to walk along by the tracks for few miles and pray there lonely. To get best from Jesus, remember, we should have some peaceful place where we can talk to HIM and even HE can talk to us. I prayed with tears everyday just for Holy-Spirit because Jesus had already promised me that he will take care of all my problems through the word (bible). After one complete year of everyday prayers upholding HIS promise, on 2nd of May, 2001, I was praying in a church along with some pastors and elders when all of sudden I saw Jesus along with HIS angels who has put a crown on my head and blessed me. Hallelujah, Jesus blessed me with Holy Spirit according to HIS promise to us in Luke 11:13. Luke 11:13: Bible say’s: your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him I was filled with unbounded joy and happiness. I kept on praising my Lord for hours. What a great God we have. He always fulfills HIS every promise beyond our ability to receive them. I believe that this unique quality of loving humans beyond their inability is possible only for Jesus. Even to this day, it is Holy-Spirit, who helps me at every juncture of my life with valuable guidance. He prays for me every day. He has been there at every minute of my life and takes care of even small things. He saves me, guides me, leads me and does much more for me. It is Holy-Spirit, who made me stand still in faith even after so much of challenges I face every day. What a God we have.. Hallelujah.. Millions of praises to HIM. MARRIAGE: After we got lifted up by the Jesus from poverty and gained financial independence, my father started searching for a life partner for me. I had completed by bachelor degree and was working as an officer in a multinational banking institution. I was spending my whole time in job and in lord’s ministry, I was assisting our church pastor most of the time of a day. All my life was going on happily and I was not aware my happiness is going to be doubled soon! One day my church pastor told me that it is time for me to get married. I laughed and said “let Jesus do his will”. I had strongly decided not to marry a gentile since light has no business with darkness. Because I know that I will have to struggle again at home as I had to in my earlier Christian days if I marry a gentile. Even Jesus’s word said that ‘light has no relationship with darkness’. You may ask me why we should not marry gentiles. Dear, we can show hospitality towards our beloved person for one or two day or say with regular visits (not frequent and long), sharing God’s word. But a permanent bondage with them will not trouble you or corrupt you one or the other day? If you are already married to a non-believer that is different case, abiding by the bond, you need to pray for your life partner and Jesus will change his/her heart. So I have decided according to the preaching of Jesus Christ that I will marry only a born again Christian girl. One day as I was reading bible, I found Solomon 31:10 which say’s wife is as precious as a pearl! That is awesome word of God, how would it if I found one of those precious pearls? I started praying Jesus referring the same line. Actually it was the Holy-Spirit that gave me this lead! Hallelujah.. Things started working in favor of me according to HIS promises. James 1:17 Bible say’s: Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. Jesus gave me good reputation in my home, relatives and among all known people around. This good name fetched lot of proposals for me but my heart was stuck to marry a born again girl. When I clarified this thing to my parents, they first opposed but later on, laid few conditions to accept a Christian girl into our family. My mom’s condition: Girl should be beautiful and well aware of home making. My father’s condition: She should be well educated. My brothers said that she should loving and caring person and very friendly one. Above all my wish was to marry a devotional, God fearing, born again and prayerful Christian girl. Now these conditions looked to be very hard for me! I had doubt on finding such a match but believed in Jesus that HE is capable of doing anything. At first I started searching for a profile which matches all the above conditions but after few months, I lost my patience and determined to marry anyone who comes in the way. Then, Holy-Spirit said to me “Don’t rush! Jesus is doing good things for you and behold, they will come fulfilled accordingly”. After hearing this from HIS Holy-Spirit, I turned back from my plans and waited for his mercy. I denied every marriage proposal from my relatives because though the profiles were good, they were not in Christ. Romans 8:28 Bible say’s: we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. One day a brother known to me, asked me help finding a match for one of his relative. I was prompted in heart to give some money to him and also to spend some time with him. So according to Jesus’s love, I gave him some money and went with him, he met a pastor and later they both continued the search and I was helping here and there. One day that brother called me over phone and told me to come to a place quickly. The place he told was around 25kms away from my office. However, I started because it was man of Jesus who asked me to come. As soon as I reached there, they showed me a photograph of a girl and asked me if she is ok to me for marriage. I said that this girl should be good looking but photography is bad and asked if we can go to her residence. All the three pastors agreed and we started in no time in a vehicle. Because delay in accepting lords gift may lead to chances of losing them. However it is a primary duty of a Christians to check with Jesus before coming to a conclusion. But don’t be late in accepting them. Just pray in his ‘presence’ and accept in your heart that Jesus is working on your side and will lead and guide you the way you should go! We exchanged our salvation testimonies and I told my salary and family details. We liked in each other was the ‘fear of God’ within us. Elders and pastors prayed for God’s will and we departed to our ways. We prayed at the feet of Jesus individually as well and as soon as we received confirmation from HIM, we informed our parents and requested them to verify our selection. My parents accepted her when they saw her another day and even her parents. Jesus was leading everything to end up well and as expected. Unlike some bad uncles these days, my father-in-law is a very generous man who always thinks about others well-being. Even my Aunt is very generous. Hard working and kind hearted women. My cousins too hold good respect for me. My loving Jesus has blessed me with such a good family. Many a times my wife said that it is Jesus who turned my family to your side!! Hallelujah, today many of our brothers are facing so many troubles from their father-in-law’s house. But Jesus has blessed both of us with good families who support us at every decision we make. At the time of marriage, I ran out of money because I made a habit of giving major portion of my salary to church and other charity institutions and was rest was spending for my home. Both my father and uncle (my wife’s father) helped me with some money and we were in need of some more money, I had to approach a bank for loan and it was already 25th of March and my marriage was fixed on 03rd of April. I was praying of the feet of Jesus to help me. I was much worried about money adjustment. If loan is not approved, marriage would be postponed which would have been very worst thing. But behold.. Jesus is on my side..!! On 31st of March, I received a call from bank that my loan was approved and I will get my money into my account by 3rd of April. I was quite perplexed on how to get gold from gold shop and pay advances at function hall and others. I used to sit nail-biting after completing small works but through the word of God (bible), I used to get encouraged every day that my Lord will take care of everything and need not to bother. My loan amount was credited into my bank account but due to withdrawal limits, I was not able to withdraw money from my account. So I went to gold shop and told him what all happened and handed over him my debit card. Surprisingly he gave me ornaments and I rushed home because it was already 09:30 AM and my marriage is at 11:00 AM. In presence of 10 renowned pastors, evangelists and ministers of Jesus, hundreds of well-wishers and relatives from all sides (not even single family missed my marriage from our close relatives), my marriage ceremony was just like a festival and everything went so smoothly. Everyone including my family members were quite happy with the way the ceremony completed by the grace and presence of Jesus, Almighty. My own brothers, parents, cousins (my spouse brothers), my church pastor, took everything on their shoulders and helped to get this event successfully. My marriage life, though a little bit of tough hours here and there, is truly a bundle of happy, surprising moments which also taught me many things and even Jesus helped me to learn many things through my wife and kids Just as promised in Proverbs 31:10, my wife is really a precious ornament to me. She is good advisor, gentle, loving and caring person. Being more educated than me, she is very helpful in making good and quick decisions. Praises to Jesus for giving me such a good life partner. Genesis 1:28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Children: In the same year of marriage, Jesus blessed me with a boy. Here I should share my wife’s testimony who was saved merely by the grace of merciful Jesus. In the 3rd month after my marriage, I had a dream in which I was talking to my brother and was explaining him that Jesus is going to give me a son whom I name ‘Theodore’. When I woke up in the morning, I was surprised with the dream because, we never had this name in our family nor I ever heard this name before anywhere..!! It did not take much time for my dream come true. On one fine day, my wife told me that she is feeling not well and a nurse around checked her and confirmed that she is pregnant. Hallelujah.. In the 7th month, my father-in-law took my wife to their home. When it was time for my wife to have her baby, that night, amniotic fluid (This is the liquid inside womb in which baby lives) started flowing out of her body from evening hours and she was not aware that it is amniotic fluid and did not inform any one. This liquid is very important for baby survival inside her womb..!! Almost in the mid-night, she told her mother who immediately got alarmed and informed my father-in-law. They started for hospital and even worst there, doctors who did primary aid but then took almost 7+ hours to treat her. I was much worried when I heard this and my cousins were soothing me that everything will be alright. I had my eyes on my Jesus who rescued me from every trouble and was praying for HIS presence in hospital. Almost in the evening hours next day, Sr. Doctor attended her and did delivery operation. According to her, almost all amniotic fluid is drained out and baby was still alive and fine in my wife’s womb!! Amazing, it is splendid power of Jesus that preserved my son even though there was no way to live at all when all the amniotic fluid drained out! At 6:30 in the evening, Jesus blessed me with handsome SON whom I named as Theodore, now he is called as Samson Theodore. Psalm 127:3 Bible say’s : Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him IInd Son: This time I was asking Jesus to give me a daughter and was praying fervently for it. However, I forgot the truth that we humans cannot change his will and plan by any means. My wife had a vision in which she saw a beautiful son who was specially designed in computer by God, was wearing well designed clothes, and someone told her that it is her son whom Jesus is going to give as blessing. When I heard this, I almost fought with my wife that this time Jesus will surely give me a daughter and that vision she had was out of her flesh. She fell so badly but yet, she did not get into quarrel with me and was praying Jesus to fulfill his own will (this is how Godly women are different from worldly one!!) Days completed and she joined hospital and after few hours, a compounder came running to me and said that it is BOY again..!! Hearing this, I cried a lot and bitterly filled with sorrow. My friend Babar sat beside me and consoled me a lot. Though he was a Muslim, Jesus has put excellent words in his mouth which gave enough peace in my heart. Especially when my mother and friend together said, that it is Jesus’s will which get fulfilled in man’s life to get this things conclude in good for righteous..!! Now we are blessed with two sons. My elder son in Samson Theodore and younger is Joseph Theodore. Through HIS divine mercy and according to HIS blood which makes all of us stand-strong in HIM, has blessed us in all aspects of our life. We are now well settled with all blessings needed for this life, financial stability and especially with spiritual revival everyday along with the Almighty Jesus’ presence in my home..!! All the Glory goes to our tremendous God, Jesus Christ and our heavenly father God Almighty. I am also very grateful to my master Holy-Spirit who lead in my tough times by providing excellent guidance and revelations, encouraging me every time I tend to fall off the way. It is HIM who speaks through me to others encouraging, comforting and guiding them into true life and way of our God, Jesus Christ. This is how many people are blessed and encouraged through my ministry around. Psalm 128:1-3 : Blessed are all who fear the LORD, who walk in obedience to him. You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Professional Life As I already mentioned my life started as a worker at a road side fast food center. I was working very honestly and happily there according to the preaching of Jesus. Later on after completion of my graduation, Jesus gave me a chance to work with one of the Financial Company. My father spoke to one of the manager if that company’s local branch seeking their help to join the job. When I first went there to branch seeking opportunity as said by my father, the sr. manager rejected me on my face without any basic check or interview saying that I do not look worthy enough to work with them. I have gone there only after praying Jesus. Immediately on them said to that manager to do a basic check at least to reject him if then found unworthy. Then Sr. Manager said ok and took an interview of me and said to meet me next day. Meanwhile one of my friend was looking for job who was in desperately need of it and I suggested him to see the manager of the same branch. He went and met the same manager and surprisingly his job was confirmed immediately as office assistance (stetting job). I was very surprised to see that because before sending him to manager, I prayed for him for a miracle and Jesus instantly did it. Next day, when I went to office, I too was offered a job as sales executive. My first month salary was 1900/- and then for the next month, they increased it to 3000/- (after they found me worthy!!). I worked there for 15 months and gained enough faith of my managers. Everyone in my office was happy at my performance in sales. I got a promotion as sr.sales executive with a salary of 4500/- INR. Jesus blessed me with abundant money to meet all my household expenses. I was supporting my home, church to my level best and Jesus blessed me to grow to support them well even with that little money. With this unbounded happiness as I was enjoying in all aspects of life in Christ. But all of sudden, in my office, my manager formed a special team to target hi-profile customers in which I was expecting a place but was left off without any reason. I was surprised to see it. I was so depressed that I couldn’t even concentrate in sales which tampered my performance. Every day I had to hear that management is not happy with me and planning to terminate me from my job. This all could be very small things for other but remember I was just from a very lower family to which every penny is valuable. I was praying at his every day to set everything right and even to correct if there is any mistake in me hidden. One day, a friend of my named TulsiRam and said that there is some interview going on in nearby hotel. I immediately started for it with a very small prayer and went to hotel and stood outside. I was allowing everyone to go before me so that I can have time to prayer silently within me. Then I heard voice asking me to rush inside the room or else all vacancies will be filled-up and I may have to return empty handed. I immediately took a chance to peek inside and stood before the manager. He asked me about my performance in present company and I replied that I am one of the top performer there. They asked me my current package and I answered honestly that is 4500/- Hearing this, they said that they are offering job with 6500/- hallelujah, Jesus did a miracle again!! Again the times of Joy and happiness started. Again new job, better package and new challenges and opportunities ahead..!! Here also Jesus started blessing me and used me as a mighty vessel in all terms for HIS glory. I was top performer here and I had financial independency as all my financial troubles and obligations were cleared. Jesus gave a new bike as I was using only cycle till that time. It was during this period Jesus gave me a beautiful, kind and wise women as my wife to worship HIM along as a family. Miracles after miracles, glory after glory and blessings after blessings rolled into my life. I was filled with joy and excitement all the day. I used to do sales in my first hours of the day and then used to go with my pastor or someone other to share my testimony to others. I used to share HIS word everywhere I go including office, friends and other places I visited praying, sharing my experiences with Jesus all the day. My life was filled with eternal joy and happiness I was lacking nothing. Whenever some troubles came to me, people including own, used to make fun of me but Jesus told me: John 12:27, 28. Meanwhile, due to bad friendships again, I lost into worldly ways in 2005 and failed to follow Jesus whole heartedly. After seeing these many of miracles and companionship with Jesus, I failed to hold on strong in HIS ways because of ignorance and lack of faithful prayers. During this time, I lost many good blessings in my life. But our Jesus is a good God and he never holds HIS anger. One a very good day, I heard the good news again..!! On that day, I was in one of our local church where to which a man of God named Peter Perera came for to deliver Jesus’s message. While he was speaking the word of God, he took the parable of women caught in adultery and our beloved God, Jesus Christ was silent there for few moments. Though those moments were tough for that women, Jesus was sure that she will be fine and will leave that place peacefully. Those words touched me and filled me with eternal joy that I shouted a big hallelujah in the church. Entire church was silently listening to the word of God and everyone turned to look at me to see who it was shouting so loudly. They do not know my hard times… right? That’s all, my faith in Jesus arouse again in me in double measure and I started begging for HIS mercy and forgiveness. Lord soon accepted me and washed away my sins with HIS blood. I was back home smiling. My friends, brothers and everyone asked me: hey, you look quite refreshed these days? Whatzup? … I used to smile at them and said, hallelujah… I started praying Jesus fervently to deliver me from every bondage as promised through the man of God and Jesus without any delay removed every clutch and bondage from my shoulders. After some months, I got a chance to attend Jesus Calls Prophetical Conference in Hyderabad in which I learnt many things which no pastor or preacher taught me ever. On the final day of that conference, Jesus spoke to me through prayers of bro. Samuel Dhinakaran and gave me a vision to opt IT sector as my next career and even HIS plans for me in coming future times. I was immensely filled with happiness and eternal joy that day. I meditated HIS vision in my prayers and when Jesus gave a clear picture. I immediately resigned my job in the month of Feb and after serving official notice period of 90 days, I left that job and without any delay, I jumped to Bangalore, learnt a technical course from my own brother, Rajesh and stayed there for 110 days (for both learning and job trails). During my stay at my brothers home, I never missed a chance to glorify my Jesus and spent most of the time either in learning and praying. Jesus spoke in the 2nd week of that month through a vision that he will bless me with an excellent job offer. Proverbs 22:29 : Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men. Proverbs 2:6 For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. As promised by Jesus, I received an awesome job offer with one of the top MNCs of Indian IT sector in financial capital of India, Mumbai with an outstanding package. Few months later, I had a chance to speak to my earlier manager and when I told him my package, he was shocked and said, ‘Do you have one more job offer for me there..?’ Every one of my colleagues and friends in Bangalore was shocked to see me get offer in such a short time. We seriously have some people there who are spending years together to get one right job!! I shared my personal testimony along with the good news of job opportunity in TPM church of Frazer Town where I used to attend my Sunday service and then next day, left to join at my new job location. Jesus has been with me as long as I was in Mumbai on this job and I was enjoying the pleasant life-style of Mumbai along with Jesus’s presence in my life. After few years, today, I am in my hometown in same IT sector with better position. My spouse left her job to care of my home and my kids are school going now. My parents are yet to believe in Jesus and slowly turning to HIS way. Both my brothers are now well planted in Jesus Christ and got married to two sisters and are blessed with kids as well. They too are well settled in their professions. I still today do not believe that how such great things happened in my life whenever I remember my early days of poverty, sickness, extremely miserable life and try to scale up them with today’s stature. All I can say is: Jesus Christ is the God who did these unbelievable miracles..!! One after the other, as required by time and situation. It is Jesus Christ who brought this poor man to sit with best men and lead a prosperous life..!! Today, we are working with different people in various ways of preaching to get HIS mission accomplished through us as per our measured share and get gospel of Jesus Christ to reach others who are in need of HIS light to shine on them Even today Jesus is same and HE can deliver any one from sinful life and bless them abundantly to lead a glorious life, if we can surrender our life to HIM. It is very simply.. Just accept Jesus Christ as your personal savior and invite HIM to be your God and lead your life. If you are ready to do so.. Here is a very small prayer which can change your life completely. Dear Jesus, I now believe that you are the only way, truth and life. I confess that I am a sinner and need your forgiveness. Kindly come into my life and be my God and take control of everything I hold in my life. Change me into your own image and bless me in all aspects of life. In Jesus name I pray, Amen. All the glory to Jesus Almighty… Amen. **link to personal site removed**
  21. Warrior777

    Remarriage after divorce

    I have been searching this forum on this topic of remarriage but could not find any discussions or info about it. I have been extensively trying to find the truth about this topic only to end up with several different opinions from people (and many of them are biased also), but actually there can only be one truth. The other problem of this topic is that there are so many different situations one can find themselves in and on the other hand there is not a lot of scripture explaining in detail every situation. The general question is: Can a divorced person remarry? Except what is stated to be obvious in scripture, like if their spouse dies they are free to remarry, let's focus on the situation were one is either divorcing or being divorced and from the viewpoint of a divorced man and then of a divorced woman (there seems to be a difference mentioned in scripture). Can a divorced man remarry? Can a divorced woman remarry? When is remarriage OK, if at all and why or why not, in both situations of a man and a woman being divorced and being the one divorcing. I also don't want to talk about divorce being not the will of God and that God's hates divorce, that is a given. Please back up every comment with scripture, I don't want just your opinion, it has to be based on the word of God. Please do include if possible any cultural background information in light of scripture of the times it was written in that might help to understand the meaning of the scripture and how it applies to the current times (since the Word of God is timeless but it helps at times to know the background info). Also word studies in the original language that help to understand the meaning of a scripture in better detail than the english translation is welcome. God bless!
  22. j102

    Prayer for marriage

    Please pray for my wife, we're not doing to good at the moment. Due to disability I'm unable to work and my wife thinks that's since I'm not working she can treat me any way she wants. She is emotionally distant from me and very controlling. Today I almost had it I told my wife I can't stand to be inside all day and that I need to use the car (we have two by the way) so I can be out of the house and to try to have some kind of social life. Well she said no way to that and we got into an argument and she even brought up divorce. I just really need some prayers I believe she has control issues and this seems to be a spiritual warfare issue too.
  23. I do, and I watch it mainly for Pat Robinson's political commentaries. I don't always agree. They present other information and I often wonder if they check their sources before they say something? I hope they do. Lately they have said, on at least 2 separate occasions, that the divorce rate in America is no where near 50%. That's the number we have been hearing since I can't remember when. If this indeed be a lie of the devil it has done much harm. Young folks get married and when things get tough, and they always will, the couple gets divorced. They know it's wrong and violates their marriage vows, but they think, what the heck, 50% of couples break up. A woman has written at least 1 book on this. Her research found that maybe 30% of all marriages end in divorce. However, when both people are church going Christians, the divorce rate drops to 10 - 15%, and maybe even only 5%, depending on how the statistical analysis is done. That's good news. All relationships hit rocky roads, even friendships. If married couples knew most of their married friends stick it out, until the road becomes smooth again, that knowledge will help the couple stay together. I find it very easy to believe Satan has tricked the minds of atheists to believe the divorce rate is 50%. Therefore, I find it equally easy to believe that couples who are equally yoked together can stay together all their lives. What do you all think?
  24. sasanford

    Prayer for marriage

    Please prayer for my marriage. My husband of 22 years left me for another woman.Please pray for my faith and my finances. Me and my daughter need a place to live. Thanks
  25. garbi01

    Hello,I need advice

    Guess I have to post 5 messages to start a topic, but I've ran into some issues in my marriage and need a lot of help. Basically just got caught about an hour and a half ago, and this is my first step. I'm 40 and been married since my early 20s and we are having problems and I'm the cause.