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I need help as to what to do with my life. I’m 24 and haven’t done anything with my life. I went to college for fashion and dropped out. Now I live with my mother. I think of joining the Air Force or navy. I owe student loans and have to wait 6 months to go back to college. I was adopted from my mom. I don’t even like living with her. I was taken from her for a reason, because she’s crazy. She pays no attention to me. We don’t even talk. The people I know are just people from church I’ve just recently met and even then those people don’t really want to be my friend because I carry to much baggage. I waited really late to repent. Even though I’m clearly alive right now, I feel like I killed myself inside spiritually a long time ago. I wish I could just kill myself and be put into a new body. I screw my whole life up. By the time I graduate college, I’ll be 28 or 29. Most kids graduate way earlier than that. I just have to deal with so many things I’ve done in my life and I don’t realize things are a mistake till after I do them. It’s hard growing up with no family or people who care about you. I just jumped at things and never did my research.

Hi! I've been in a serious, long term relationship with my Christian boyfriend for about two years now. We both feel that marriage is definitely something we're being called towards, however we're in college and would like to wait till we've gotten our degrees for financial reasons. While this is fine, by the time we've graduated, it'll have been 6 years that we've been together. I'm concerned about our temptations towards each other and how that might effect our relationship. While it seems fairly obvious that it's natural for a couple of long term and close emotional intimacy to feel attracted to each other, I'm worried that because we are not married it'll be a deep conviction, and something that is good and (dare I say it) rather essential for a relationship to be turned into a negative thing. I especially don't want that negative opinion of attraction or sexuality to carry over into our marriage and then turn painful for the both of us. Is there any scripture, any advice that you could give me? Is it really just best to haggle out the financial burden of being married in college for the sake of our purity and happiness?

Ok. I am a new member here, and I really need some advice. I am a Christian and I have a pretty close relationship with God. I'm having trouble knowing what God wants me to do in the situation I am in. I have 2 sisters, both older than me. My oldest sister is annoying and I have trouble getting along with her occaisionally, but she isn't overly bad or abusive. My middle sister, however, has caused so much drama and pain and upset to all of us for the past 5 or so years. She moved out because she got mad at our mother over something stupid and left to live at their dad's house. I have a different dad than them. She got really into alcohol and drugs and almost died in a bathtub. Then she decided she was Christian and went to church every Sunday and acted all proper after she quit the drugs. That only lasted a few months however, and she was only doing it to get approval from her dads side of the family. Well she worked with a bunch of rather, well, sleazy people and had all this casual sex and all these boyfriends and does all these absolutely terrible things and still acts like she's such a good Christian. I'm not saying I don't sin and I don't do bad things. None of us are worthy of gods gift. But the bible clearly says that if you talk the talk you should walk the walk and she doesn't even TRY. She has become rather abusive towards our mother verbally, and even hit her Sunday when she told her to quit arguing with her boyfriend in the store in the phone because we were getting uncomfortable. She punched my mom in the chest and my mom has a bad back so her back went out from the twisting motion. I wanted so badly to hurt her for doing that to our mother. Livid doesn't even begin to describe it. I managed to turn the other cheek and not hit her, but I'm now struggling with how we should handle her. I love her, she's my sister, but it just isn't healthy for us to be around her. God says to show mercy to those who don't deserve it, and I want to, but I also need to put my foot down and give her an ultimatum. Either she straightens up and quits dating trashy men and abusing our mom, or she isn't welcome anymore. Is this too harsh? Would that be unmerciful?

Dear friends, After I lost my job several years ago I really struggle mentally and financially. My wife kills my soul every single minute of my life. I feel like I am falling apart. Anyone in difficult time needs a hand, someone to comfort you, someone who could talk to but all I got is screaming, blaming me for everything, putting me down from the moment I open my eyes every morning, whole day under attracts, every day under huge pressure. It is very hard to move on, to concentrate on anything, loosing self-confidence and ground below my feet. I can't even describe my average day. It is a hell. I have two talented boys [one is really talented soccer player], very sick father and completely broken marriage, feel very, very unhappy. Every day I live in stress and depression. I desperately need some friendly people to help me a little bit with a good word, with some advise. *edited* Before I left the States I worked in NYC for almost 10 years. in 2003 I decided to move to Europe to stay with my sick parents but I did not expect that my financial situation would turn upside down. Unfortunately I can't go back to the States anytime soon. I need to be near my parents to help them and at the same time I need to do something to make any money. I feel like the whole world turned away from to me. I tried to contacts so many people around the world, sending info about myself, about things I can do, about my skills and experience but ended up with nothing, no one cares, absolutely no one.. What else I can say..I would be very happy to get in touch with some good people out there. I still believe they are somewhere over there. Pawel

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