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Hello everyone! This is a question for those who have gotten remarried after a divorce (either biblical or not), I am deathly afraid that after I remarry the Holy Spirit will leave me. I am afraid of this because I read that remarriage after divorce is a constant state of adultery which you can not repent of, and no adulterers will enter the Kingdom of heaven. My question is: after you got remarried do you feel like the Holy Spirit left you? Do you feel any different? Maybe more spiritually dry or less saved? I am afraid that after I sign that paper the Holy Spirit will immediately leave me and I will be spiritually dead. I have been in torment over this for months now. I was engaged a few months ago...the wedding date was for July 6th, but I called it off because of all this. When I got my divorce a few years ago I was not a Christian, neither is my ex. He committed adultery while we were still married. And now I love a Christian man that I believe God brought into my life, either to test me by tormenting me with wanting to marry him, or He brought him into my life to marry. He actually was the one that lead me to the Lord 2 years ago. The following is copied from an email I sent to a friend....I was too lazy to retype it all here! I have been reading a ton of articles and commentaries by pastors about remarriage after divorce. Some say that if someone remarries then they MUST get a divorce or else they are going to hell! They say this based on the scripture that says "no adulterers will inherit the Kingdom of God" and some other pastors say that that scripture applies to those NOT saved, we have been washed by the blood. And there is scripture that says "all manner of sins will be forgiven....except blasphemy of the Holy Spirit" some say that that would be someone who is remarried and ignores the conviction of the Holy Spirit to repent and divorce and some say that blasphemy of the Holy Spirit is repeatedly cursing Him and knowing that you are doing it. So this is just driving me crazy! So, lets just say that remarriage is ALWAYS adultery and that the people involved are going to hell, this is what it entails (and why I think it doesn't make sense!) this means.... 1.) Anyone who has remarried and their ex spouse is still alive, is going to hell along with their new spouse. 2.) You have to pray that your ex spouse dies before you or your current spouse does that way you can go to heaven, based on the belief that remarriage is only permissible if the ex is dead. If me and Jim got married we would have to hope Brian dies so our marriage would no longer be adultery and we can go to heaven. 3.) Before you witness to someone it would be a good idea to ask them "are you currently remarried after a divorce?" and if they reply "yes" then you don't have to witness to them because they are damned to hell anyways no matter what. 4.) When Jesus gave His sermons those in the audience that were remarried had to go and get a divorce so that they could be true believers in Christ and go to heaven. 5.) As soon as someone remarries they immediately forfeit their salvation and the Holy Spirit leaves them, they become spiritually blind and stop believing in Jesus, they stop hungering for Him as well, they become spiritually dead and dry. I have yet to hear of any Christian remarriage testimonies, but it would be interesting to hear if they "felt" anything different inside after getting remarried, if maybe they felt the Holy Spirit leave them. 6.) If remarriage after divorce is really so black and white that would mean king Xerxes and Esther are in hell right now because he put away his wife and married Esther, so they were both committing adultery. Or was this one of God's special exceptions to the rule? 7.) If a woman's husband went away to war and wasn't heard from for 20 years and is presumed dead, but by some miracle turns up alive and she is remarried by that time would she be going to hell along with her spouse? Unless the first husband dies before they do thereby setting her free from the law. 8.) Theoretically you could hire someone to kill your ex to set your free from that "bond" and repent of course, and then marry and it would be ok? Because as long as he is dead you are free to remarry. You could pull a king David. (don't worry, not tempted!) 9.) It is better for me and Jim to be boyfriend and girlfriend and be intimate with each other, committing single acts of fornication than to get married and commit one long continuous act of adultery and be cast into hell. This sounds crazy, but some Christians are actually doing this because they fear getting remarried! They just "repent" after each time! They are opting to just have live-in boyfriend/girlfriends or even sleep around because they would rather sin here and there rather than be living in a sinful lifestyle choice. This might all boil down to two questions...what is blaspheming the Holy Spirit? And can someone lose their salvation? Thank you everyone for reading this, I know it was long, but I have been tormenting and troubled by this for a long time. I just want to be at peace about it. I feel convicted that it is a sin, but not so much that it is an unpardonable sin. God bless! Natalie