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  1. I was about to title this thread "Dynamic Relationship Interaction", but I was prompted in the Spirit to symplify it to "An Interesting Challenge", which is what dynamic relationship interactions are to me. Basically the word "dynamic", from the Greek dunamis, is synonymous with "power", so it is the power of relationships at work that I am referring to as an interesting challenge. Key Verse: Romans 12:18 Forgiveness …17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Carefully consider what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.”… Berean Study Bible Where it says "If it is possible" the phrase is translated from the Greek word dunatos, which signifies having power or ability. Recently I have found the cummulative lack of empathy one of my friends manifests when we meet up and fellowship as brothers in Christ, an irritating problem. Firstly, please empathise with me before coaching me on how to handle this situation. Secondly, please be aware that I do pray and intercede for those I fellowship with, and as much as I have the dunamis to live at peace with them and keep on forgiving I do just that. What I am hoping is that, for our mutual edification, others will respectfully share thoughts and stories about the challenges of relating to irritating brothers and sisters in Christ.
  2. Hi, I'm Rycee. I'm 20 years old, from the UK. This year's been pretty rough and I've been wanting to go to church for months, but reluctant to join one since I relocate a lot, so I thought I'd try this out instead. Any career/marriage advice is appreciated, thanks 🙂
  3. Hello all, I am here for advice. I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 16 months. We met a youth church event that his church was attending and my church was also attending. It all started great but then after he visited my church a few times things went a little downhill. My church is more conservative while his church is more "modern". My family wanted him to do the things and worship the way that is done at my church. He is not used to this and he doesn't necessarily agree. My family then began to disapprove and that's when the conflict started. I spoke to my family about how important he is to me and my feelings towards him but they have pretty much just shot me down. It makes me feel very sad because his family has been so kind to me and I was so welcomed at his church and they can't be welcoming to him. My boyfriend and I took a break to try and see if this was something that we both truly want. We have decided that we want to continue this relationship and grow but I am worried about my family. I don't want to go against them but I also dont feel like they are taking my feelings and relationships into consideration. They have told me to stop communicating with him because I am not allowed. I should also say that I am in my mid twenties and I don't agree that they should tell me who I am allowed to speak to who I am not. I need advice on how handle this situation with my parents and with my boyfriend.
  4. My fellowship preference is for mutually comforting faith among those who have "a yearning to fellowship with those of like faith, in order to liberally share something given freely by the Holy Spirit to reinforce them." Rom 1:11-12 (11) For I long to see you, that I may impart unto you some spiritual gift, to the end ye may be established; (12) That is, that I may be comforted together with you by the mutual faith both of you and me. This preference for mutually comforting faith is both a deal maker and a deal breaker when it comes to my fellowshipping decisions. For something to be mutual there must be some reciprocity, or beneficial exchange between those concerned. If there is no comforting cooperation and participation from those I am assembling with for edification I soon part company with them, as Paul did with those who refuted his preaching in the synagogue at Corinth. Act 18:4-7 (4) And he reasoned in the synagogue every sabbath, and persuaded the Jews and the Greeks. (5) And when Silas and Timotheus were come from Macedonia, Paul was pressed in the spirit, and testified to the Jews that Jesus was Christ. (6) And when they opposed him, and blasphemed, he shook his raiment, and said unto them, Your blood be upon your own heads; I am clean: from henceforth I will go unto the Gentiles. (7) And he departed thence, and entered into a certain man's house, named Justus, one that worshipped God, whose house joined hard to the synagogue. Rather than forsake assembling anywhere with anyone because of a Scripture-based fellowship preference mature Christians prayerfully seek out like-minded companions who encourage one another and form supportive relationships. Heb 10:23-25 (23) Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful. (24) And let us consider one another for the stirring up of love and of good works, (25) not forsaking the assembling of ourselves, just as is the custom for some, but exhorting one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. I hope your fellowship preference is among those who share mutually comforting faith in Christ.
  5. Hello everyone!!! So for those who checked out part 1, and part 2 , Part 3 is also available!!!! We continue looking into God's will for a partner. This time, we find out, does God's perfect partner for us exist? Is there someone who can fit you like a glove? Feel free to check it out.🙃 God bless.
  6. I was just wondering about something. My husband told me I was his third love. As it should be Jesus is number 1 (but life has caused him to slip up) His mom is number 2 and I'm number 3. It bothers me because I thought we were supposed to put each other above others but and live in a way that God was at the center of our relationship and our lives. I still a little tired when he told me this but now my mind has enough time to pick it apart. I don't know maybe I'm over thinking this. Lately, if I evenly slightly disagree with something I just let it be because I don't know how to approach it or don't to seem disrespectful. Is this something I should have commented on or should I just respect what he said for his honesty?
  7. I live in Virginia. My fiancé lives in California. We were planning on getting married and moving to South Carolina. However, recently she has expressed to me how sad she feels about leaving California and she feels it's unfair that she has to move so far away from her family, whereas mine would only be a 6 hour drive away. And she feels it's unfair because we met in California. Here's a short background on us. We met nearly 2 years ago in southern California. I was in the Navy, and she was going to college. She actually helped me strengthen my walk in Christ while we were dating. Everything was going fine. She moved up to Northern California with her sister thus beginning our long distant relationship. I tried to visit every other weekend when I didn't have duty or underway. I decided I was going to stay in California. I found a job that I had lined up for after my Navy contact ended. And I asked her to marry me. She said yes. At that moment our relationship hit struggles. She was feeling disconnected from me. She was having issues with her sister and family and she moved out of her sisters place in with her mom. I was struggling with being away from her and the stress of an upcoming deployment. 4 months after being engaged, she broke up with me a week before my deployment. I was devastated. It added more stress and pain having to leave on deployment. I prayed day in and day out. I knew this was God's will, but I prayed and asked if there was anyway I could fulfill His plan with her in my life. We messaged each other but nothing saying we were getting back together. Just real friendly conversations. I decided to move back to the east coast like I originally intended, and I told her. She said she figured I would. After I had my moved planned (4 months after the breakup), we started talking and messaging more. And I was feeling a lot better. And then I went to see her and we decided to get back together. I told her that I wanted to move to South Carolina, she was hesitant but agreed. I'm currently staying with my mom and I recently got a job interview in South Carolina. Everything is going according to plan. We're even attending pre marital counseling online. Then she says she's been feeling really sad about leaving. I feel there are signs saying that we should go on with our plans. The moment I said I was going to stay in California, things got rough and hard. And even our relationship ended. I decided to move back east and my life got less stressful and I got her back in my life. But she feels it's unfair. She's really sad. She's lived in California her entire life and I believe she feels that no other place can live up to California. We don't see eye to eye on this. I'm praying really hard for God to help me and guide me and show me the path I should take according to His will. Any advice or thoughts on our situation? Pray for us both. Thank you. God bless.
  8. O Lord, my Lord, my faithful and wonderful counselor. My faith for what I am asking for right now is a faith of which I have always longed. When I was young in the Lord, I used worked up faith, but now I just know. Thank you for stretching my faith. I come to you and ask that you look upon my son Christopher and bless him. He needs you! Heal his wounded heart and convince him of his true worth and value which is only in you. Chris is a treasure and a parents' dream. He works; pays his bills on time; saves his money; cares for others and helps others, and he is so loving, smart, intelligent and handsome. Lord, I see a clear pattern that has developed in Chris' relationships with young women ... 3 in the past 6 years... each one of them damsels in distress, and he became their knight in shining armor. But they were all 3 abusive verbally - screaming - excessive drinking - getting Chris to spend his money on their fun. And yes, in talking to us about it, he confessed his ownership in making relational mistakes - especially what he calls "anger issues" and "low self esteem". Lord, you are there when he talks to us. He is always second-guessing himself - searching for some magic fix that will make the girl love him. He wants so to be loved by a wife, but now it looks like he is somehow a target for young women who see his weakness for being the knight in armor. Chris has been honest and forthcoming with us; talking for hours and trying hard to understand WHY. It breaks my heart. Chris belongs to you, Lord, and he knows You are Lord even if he hasn't talked to you in a while. Lord, you saw what happened when he was 2 years old and I married his dad. His mother didn't come to see him or get him for 4 months. Then she repeatedly abandoned him until he was 14 and she stopped altogether until she found out he was grown and had a good job. Now, 23 years later, time and again, she reaches out to him only to ask for help or money, and he has given her money and tried to help her. The girls Christopher falls for he really tries to rescue - he is trying to win her love and acceptance by getting involved with women who remind him of her. He doesn't know that now, but he will know that and all you reveal to him, Lord Jesus. Lord, your son, Chris told us several times last week and tonight that he "really struggles with low self esteem and anger". He is desperate for a certain kind of love, and he is an amazing catch! But Lord, he is in the wrong pond! Get him to the right pond and throw him in! I speak life into my son's world. I speak as the Lord's ambassador and I bind the enemy from succeeding in his plans to wound my son further. I say what my Lord has said, that He abides in me as I abide in Him, and that the Lord will not dwell in the same house with the enemy! So devil, you have to leave my son and never return. Lord Jesus, fill Chris with the knowledge of your Word again. Replace what the devil has stolen - replace it and make it clear to Chris that You have intervened when he was in despair - that You have been made strong in his weakness. Lord, draw him away from these people he thinks are friends. He hates drugs, and yet drugs and alcohol - partying is their weekend ritual. Chris doesn't belong there! He belongs back in church; meeting Christian people and making friends; joining life groups and finding others he can confide in. Lord, if therapy will help, I ask that Chris make the appointments; that he do the hard work necessary for the renewing of his mind. Be all over this, Lord. You be the Therapist, and let Chris as well as his therapist hear from you. Enlighten Christopher's understanding about grace, redemption, God's faithfulness, sin battles, spiritual battles, and what your Word says about his worth and value. You answered the prayers of other women in the bible. I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. 1 Samuel 1:27 He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the LORD! Psalm 113:9 - You gave me Christopher - make me a joyous mother again. I have loved him like he is my own son, and I am his mother. He is a witty and funny guy and makes people laugh all the time. But he has been unhappy for so long now. Remember Lord, Chris was always witnessing to his friends in high school. They were just drawn to him, and he eventually filled up 2 whole pews with young people... the pastor told us Chris had an anointing, and just like that, he bolted and ran. Lord, what is the calling on his life? Why does he travel BESIDE the path that You have laid for him? How did the enemy get Chris so gas-lighted? He hears lies from satan. Satan is a liar and the father of lies. My son is the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus! You are the Healer and the Redeemer! You are God! You are the Word! You created the universe and set every star and planet just right so that mankind can live and thrive on Earth and worship you. You made us in your image. Christopher is like you. Lord, this desperate need for love at any price is the enemy's false version of love, and he has set traps for Chris. Spring those traps before Chris ever gets close to them and instead, let him find your love. Let Chris know you in a deep and intimate way. “You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3 His dad and I have planted seeds of love and of your Word into his heart for weeks now as he comes to us for help and advice. When he has been drawn close, Lord, pull him or yank him the rest of the way back into the light! Give Chris a Christian wife who seeks wisdom; a gentle soul with her priorities straight and who will love him with the love of Christ. Let Chris know joy in becoming more and more an example of Christ toward his wife and toward the children he will have. Let his wife illustrate the strength and faithfulness of Christ's bride; the Church. Let them find in each other the many many ways of finding You. Give Chris friends who never tear him down or participate in destructive lifestyles. Change his world! Turn him back - run to him and fall on his face. Kiss him. Celebrate. Bless him. And rejoice, my Lord! Fill his heart and soul and mind with oil of joy for his wounds and mourning; give him your beauty for his ashes. Teach your precious Christopher how to abide in peace - even through all his struggles. In Jesus' name, I pray AMEN.
  9. I am new in reading the Bible, and last night I read this passage that made me close the book and start crying. In Matthew 5:32, Jesus denounces divorce, stating that any man who divorces his wife other than for adultery, has caused her to become and adulteress. I got divorced after 12 years for reasons other than adultery. I'm discouraged in reading this, because it basically means that I will never be honored with another relationship blessed by God, even if it is with a Godly man, because I have become an adulteress through my divorce. I am only 32 and this is extremely depressing. Any thoughts or words of encouragement on this?
  10. So, hello everyone. Sharing something personal, so here goes... I've been married 18 months and I am realising that I'm married to a man who lacks communication skills. Don't know how other husbands are... But he doesn't talk much with me even after I've requested that I need him to talk with me more (and I plan dates etc to make this happen but still even there he'll be silent). He makes no effort with things that make me happy like he's never bought me flowers, never randomly text or called, hasn't initiated quality time and dates etc. He has stopped initiating and making effort. I feel he's going through something and I ask him if anything is bothering him but he says no. I know there's some tension due to a work issue but we are managing well. What advice can you give? PS... we are Christians and go to church.
  11. The past few days have been a bunch of small things that can easily have been fixed. my husband refuses to talk about things and it is like pulling teeth to get any of his feelings out of him. I told him i need him to communicate things with me so we can both work on things together. he thinks im trying to change him and that's just "how he is." which i explained is not true. it's a behavior things. how can we work on this? he went to bed still angry at me. I know in the Bible it talks about if someone becomes angry do not go to bed angry. So it really hurt me that he did. He's told me before that he just likes to be angry sometimes and he can't just get over it even after the problem has been dealt with. Please pray for our relationship. We just got married this December.
  12. Hello Friends! Happy Wednesday! I wanted to share with you one of our most recent articles we have posted called " 7 Ways to Be The Light Outside of Church." This is something I have personally been doing for a little while now and it has positively impacted my relationship with God. Come and check it out! There may be something you may not have thought of or something you could share with someone you know! Be Blessed, Nick & Leah Co-Founders of Abide and Seek 7 Ways To Be The Light Outside Of Church t Living each day as a Christian is not as easy as it may seem. To live like Christ, you have some very big shoes to fill, but it is something so powerful and life-altering. It is well worth the changes you make to your life so you can light the way and live as God intended. Living as a Christian, not just Sundays is something that not only affects your relationship with God but it can directly influence others. It can encourage others to seek Him because of the wonderful changes they have seen through your relationship with Him! Being a true living example, as a Christian will inspire more people to seek the Lord than anything you could say. Let us not love with words or speech but with action and in Truth!. In Matthew 5:14-16 it states,“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead, they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” So how can we be that light on the hill and glow brightly for the world to see other than on Sunday mornings? I have listed 7 main things we can all focus on to be that light that will carry on throughout the week! 7 Ways to be a Light Outside of Church 1. Be a Leader In Your Community People will take notice when you decide to live your life in a Christian-focused manner. You will stand out without actually drawing attention to yourselves. This is because when people in your community see your attitude, your outlook on life and an overall change in you, they will want to know what has happened to cause such an inspiring change within you. This is where you can open up to others and be a leader in your community in your Christian faith. This can mean helping those when there is a need or stepping up at your local church. If you are not sure where to start, begin by asking your church leaders if there is an area that is in need of support. 2.Remember God Is Guiding And Watching Us If we strive to be more Christ-like and remember that God is guiding us and watching us, it changes our motives. It can have an impact on how we react to certain situations. Again, this is so important because how we portray ourselves to others should directly reflect our relationship with the Lord. 3. Helping One Another We live in a small community, so when anyone is volunteering or helping one another, it gets noticed by many. This may influence others to want to help out as well. By doing this, we can open a whole new door for others to be introduced to Jesus just by simply volunteering alongside them. This is also something that is expressed many times in the Bible, helping others is something that is deeply rooted in us. When you help someone you are being a blessing to them and to God. 4. Share Your Testimony With Others This is one of the most personal ways to share the love of Jesus. I have seen people come to Jesus because of it! It changed my life when my now husband, shared with me his testimony over a year ago. I wanted to know exactly why his life dramatically changed. My interest was simply because I wanted that same change. I wanted exactly what he had and the day I decided to give it up to God, is the day my life changed forever. Testimonies are so powerful especially when you know that individual. Don’t hesitate to share your journey with someone when the timing is right, that maybe the day their life is given a spark of interest that sets their spiritual journey in motion. 5. Listen To What God Is Calling You To Do and Do It! Before we decided to dive into our ministry, we both felt I should quit my job to put everything we have into it. Many people had mixed responses to me leaving my job. Yet, even if it wasn’t something they agreed with, it definitely left a statement. I was leaving my 8-5 job to give it up to God. That in itself was empowering and it has drawn attention to those who don’t know Jesus. So if you feel you are being called to serve God, don’t hesitate! It will have a positive impact on your life and to others who are watching you stand tall in your faith. 6. Memorizing Scripture My husband is a super talented man. He seems to amaze me every day, but one of the most impressive things I have discovered about him is his ability to memorize scripture. When I say memorize scripture, I mean like the whole Book of John. For those of you who are not familiar with the Book of John, it is 21 chapters long, with 879 verses that include 15,635 words!! That may be an impossible amount of words to memorize to someone, but for those of you who know the power of God, it’s not! This is something that will not only impress someone but also will give them the opportunity to ask how you did it. I did ask my husband just recently how he was able to memorize the entire book of John. He said he felt he hasn’t memorized it but, that “God had written the words from the Book of John on his heart.” Truly amazing! What a great testimony to share with others as well! 7. Filling Your Spare Time With Things That Glorify God God wants us to live happy and fulfilling lives. He wants us to be submerged in interests we love and surrounded by others. We should be doing all things to glorify His holy name. Like writing, reading and drawing, taking local classes, or even regularly volunteering at an organization that interests you. This will improve your overall quality of life and your relationship with God! To God be the glory and the power forever and ever amen! So be the light on the hill that stands out for everyone to see! Continue showing your love for Jesus Monday through Saturday and let Sunday be a day of recharging your faith, not just building it!! 2. Remember God Is Guiding And Watching Us If we strive to be more Christ-like and remember that God is guiding us and watching us, it changes our motives. It can have an impact on how we react to certain situations. Again, this is so important because how we portray ourselves to others should directly reflect our relationship with the Lord. 3. Helping One Another We live in a small community, so when anyone is volunteering or helping one another, it gets noticed by many. This may influence others to want to help out as well. By doing this, we can open a whole new door for others to be introduced to Jesus just by simply volunteering alongside them. This is also something that is expressed many times in the Bible, helping others is something that is deeply rooted in us. When you help someone you are being a blessing to them and to God. 4. Share Your Testimony With Others This is one of the most personal ways to share the love of Jesus. I have seen people come to Jesus because of it! It changed my life when my now husband, shared with me his testimony over a year ago. I wanted to know exactly why his life dramatically changed. My interest was simply because I wanted that same change. I wanted exactly what he had and the day I decided to give it up to God, is the day my life changed forever. Testimonies are so powerful especially when you know that individual. Don’t hesitate to share your journey with someone when the timing is right, that maybe the day their life is given a spark of interest that sets their spiritual journey in motion. 5. Listen To What God Is Calling You To Do and Do It! Before we decided to dive into our ministry, we both felt I should quit my job to put everything we have into it. Many people had mixed responses to me leaving my job. Yet, even if it wasn’t something they agreed with, it definitely left a statement. I was leaving my 8-5 job to give it up to God. That in itself was empowering and it has drawn attention to those who don’t know Jesus. So if you feel you are being called to serve God, don’t hesitate! It will have a positive impact on your life and to others who are watching you stand tall in your faith. 6. Memorizing Scripture My husband is a super talented man. He seems to amaze me every day, but one of the most impressive things I have discovered about him is his ability to memorize scripture. When I say memorize scripture, I mean like the whole Book of John. For those of you who are not familiar with the Book of John, it is 21 chapters long, with 879 verses that include 15,635 words!! That may be an impossible amount of words to memorize to someone, but for those of you who know the power of God, it’s not! This is something that will not only impress someone but also will give them the opportunity to ask how you did it. I did ask my husband just recently how he was able to memorize the entire book of John. He said he felt he hasn’t memorized it but, that “God had written the words from the Book of John on his heart.” Truly amazing! What a great testimony to share with others as well! 7. Filling Your Spare Time With Things That Glorify God God wants us to live happy and fulfilling lives. He wants us to be submerged in interests we love and surrounded by others. We should be doing all things to glorify His holy name. Like writing, reading and drawing, taking local classes, or even regularly volunteering at an organization that interests you. This will improve your overall quality of life and your relationship with God! To God be the glory and the power for ever and ever amen! So be the light on the hill that stands out for everyone to see! Continue showing your love for Jesus Monday through Saturday and let Sunday be a day of recharging your faith, not just building it!!
  13. This is a long post, one in which I've given a LOT of thought. Somehow or another, I believe suicide is my destiny. I don't know how or when, but it is inevitable. There's two elements that lead me to this conclusion, both mentally and spiritually. I've always been fairly melancholy; there's always been a deep void or a sense of emptiness. Metaphorically, there's always a dark haze within my consciousness (think Batman's Gotham). I am not now nor have I ever been abused by family, lover, or church. There are friends/family that love me and I'm sure would miss me. Life has its wonderful and beautiful moments. As I speak now, the golden Sun and the autumn rustling wind and aroma outside is wonderful! Yet, it all pales to the void within. In the last decade, I've tried to push past this by seeking purpose, something to be passionate about, and even wealth. So far, to no avail. My business endeavors have failed, cannot find anything to be passionate about, and certainly no purpose. Just, nothing, emptiness. As I get older, my family will be dying off; after a failed relationship I do not have the time nor patience for marrying. As early as age 15, I thought about the mudaneness of life. What is life? You go to work most of the week, come home attempting to savor the few free hours, and on off-days you catch up what you couldn't accomplish the rest of the week, only to repeat the same cycle over and over. For what? To keep the cycle going? Why do it? Suicide is the most logical answer, 18 years later even. Ecclesiastes touches on this very issue, of course, the point being life is nothing without God. However, that is not working out either. As Christians, when we accept Jesus as Lord & Savior, to save us from sin and to give us eternal life, we should gradually be becoming more "like Him", the relationship should become more of a living (maybe even obvious) reality, and our desire should be growing for Him. Frankly, I don't see that as the case with me. When searching my heart, I inevitably see it as self-centered, not really desiring God, and certainly not as a Living Reality. The efforts I have made to have a relationship with God, there seems to be no reciprocation, despite prayers to change my heart/desires, lead me in a meaningful direction, and to make the relationship more of a meaningful reality. Faith has never come easy for me to begin with. Underneath it all (and I'm not proud of it), part of me resents God for not only my creation, but ALL of Creation. Considering God is totally self-sufficient (does not need us), knowing full-well that most of mankind would not choose Him (even if it is by man's own free-will) and most likely suffer for eternity. That may be justice, but how does having that foreknowledge and moving forward with it anyway make for a God of love? Eternal fate aside, even the tamer "God grows us through suffering" line of reasoning, why have us endure it when God was perfectly content without us? It is quite hard to love a Being in that vein, even if He did offer to redeem us. Yes, I may accept His gift of salvation, but why create me in the first place? What's more, at my birth there was the chance I would not be born; my mother had a vision assuring her I would be born and healthy. So, obviously "God formed me in the womb" knowing the state of my future and had ample opportunity not to move forward with me. Why did He do it?? The only thing that has prevented me actually "fulfilling my destiny" is the fear of the afterlife as a result. Theologians can debate on whether or not there's a Biblical basis for suicide as a ticket to Hell or not, but that is immaterial here. Given my take on things above, personally, I wish for non-existence (suicide at the soul level). Unfortunately, I know it's not that easy. Christ is not going to redeem us only to end in non-existence, at the same time, I know the alternative is somehow worse. God will not allow non-existence without payment for sin in this life. So, either way, I lose! This fact only compounds my harsh feelings towards God and about life! I'm sure some here will probably say I was never saved or born again. For those that do think that, perhaps I've hardened my heart past the point of no return? The angst of living, the thought of it going on decades more, it almost makes me want to "weep and gnash teeth" here and now. I want to be redeemed by God, but at the same time I absolutely resent Him! Perhaps, I want redemption from existence itself more. In the end, I don't really know the response I seek in posting this. I know no responses will advocate suicide. Though, the thought of non-existence is absolutely euphoric! Counseling will not help, as I would be shut away in an institution or be doped up on meds and slapped with an outrageous bill to add insult to injury. Not sure if it is possible to see life any other way in a fully conscious and rational way! I welcome feedback in any case; thank you all.
  14. Hello. My name is *not* Paul, but I'd like to keep my name to myself. I'm glad I found this forum and I would like to participate in it as much as I can. I'm having troubles with myself, I need guidance, I don't think that's the right section of the forum, sorry for that, but I just cannot post in the other sections. If I have the permission, I may share my troubles, if not - I'll stick around for a bit more, until I gain the permission to use the other forums. Thank you for having me!
  15. I'm 18 and I've been in a almost perfect relationship. He treated me like a queen and I treated him like a king. I was so happy and people would "envy" us bc we were "perfect." His past and how he was raised is very different and difficult to explain just say it's hard and not normal. He got responsibilities at an early age and learned how to stick up for himself and the people he loves. My case my parents are SUPER strict. Primarily my dad. Now i know people always think he's evil bc he doesn't let me have close friends, go to others houses not even family members, parties, hang out, sports, and fully express myself...but I know he does it out of very good intentions. I love my dad but I love this man, Jose. We broke up twice bc he felt he was pressured by my situation to be fully settled and that made him feel like he has to go right into commitment in order to be with me and he's not ready to settle a family. Since his childhood is bad he says he doesn't want his family he builds to go through the same. I know he still loves me bc he still proves to be loyal and he's still trying to better himself and bring himself up when once before his family had told me he wasn't like that before he met me. My question is, should I move out in order to be happy with him and just have the opportunity to hug him and let him know I'm there to lean on and help and love and take away the stress and pressures? He's really really down right now bc he's not able to see me and not situated and "good enough" for my dad so it's hard for me to tell him not to worry. I feel like God has confirmed he's the one for me bc he opened my eyes to recognize his loyalty to me even have not been together. I love my dad I really do and I don't want him sad or to think he didn't do a good job as a dad. He's difficult to talk to and he doesn't even know about me and Jose. But I also really really love Jose and don't want him sad either or think he's not good enough. I'm 18 and he's 19. Im really not that happy being home and a block away is the love of my life sad and I can't do nothing about it. I get mixed messages of wether or not I should move out, not only for him but for myself as well bc I'm not happy here and I feel I can be more in the outside world. What should I do?
  16. Hello all. I'm very desperately in need of some advice on something that I have difficulty telling anyone about. We're a devout Christian family and my family (husband, daughter and I) have my 68 year old dad living with us. My mum passed away 3 years ago and it was a very difficult situation and I thank God that Dad and I were there to give each other support at this time. My dad is a very well-respected member of our church which makes this situation very complicated and difficult. I have a sister who lives overseas with her family and we have discussed that at some point if dad ever needed to have a companion we wouldn't really mind as we know how difficult it might be dealing with the loneliness since mum passed away. However, in the last year or so I have become very suspicious of dad as he's been very protective of his mobile, often times making sure he deletes stuff if I have to do something like show him how to update software, etc. Anyway, I got a bit paranoid and saw texts that he's been sending a very close friend of mine who's married by the way (40 yrs old) texts saying things like "baby", "sweetie" "love you" and things like how nice she looked on a particular day, etc - you get the drift. However, I've never seen any texts that reciprocate the same feelings from this friend so not sure if she's just very careful or she too finds it awkward not knowing how to put him down easily as he uses the widower sympathetic card quite often. I really do not know what to make of this, and maybe I'm being paranoid and there's nothing to this, but this just seems so wrong and deceitful. Especially when he criticises my husband for every fault of his (that is another long story and my husband has made some huge mistakes but is on the right path now). My mum did tell me that he did womanise during his younger days when he was married, and I wonder if that story's playing with my head as well. The first thought that came to mind when I saw these texts 5 days ago was anger, resentment and just a sense of despair. How do you confront your dad with this kind of information? He lost mum, and if I were making this all up in my head then he'd be so distraught. So then, I started feeling suicidal as I felt there was no way out but then realised that that wasn't the solution. I needed to get this off my chest to lessen the burden and get some advice. I wanted to tell my sister but she stays so far away and I didn't want her to get emotional and angry and feeling unable to do anything from so far. And I can't tell my friends, or church or work as this is so embarrassing. So I've come here after a bit of searching on the net and stumbled upon this site. So yes, any advice would be really appreciated. All I can do is pray about this and turn to the Lord for help but I don't seem to get any answers as I'm just filled with anger and resentment. Thanks so much. Blessings.
  17. I am 21. I never had a boyfriend before. My parents have always overprotected me by not letting me have any contact with the opposite sex. I spent so long without guys contact that I spent 4 years in depression thinking that I was lesbian because I had feelings for some girls in high school and never fell for a guy before. My family wasn't here for me and I tried to kill myself several times. But now that I am in college, I met some guys and I started to have crushes and realized that its a different feeling and that I am not actually gay. During this moment that I started to talk to guys, my mom started to become closer and ask a lot of questions about my guy friends. But I realized that whenever I liked someone and wanted to give them a chance, she always found a reason why and told me that I like guys too much, I am promiscuous and all. 5 months ago I met this christian african guy who really likes me. He's too years younger than me. 19 and I am 21. I would like to give him a chance and when I told my mom she started to srceam at me with anger all the time, she came to the point of beating me up over that and told me that If I accept to be his girlfriend that he won't be welcomed at home. But this guy is like my bestfriend, I got mad after this last fight which happens a couple days ago, than I said yes to the guy. My mom says that she doesn't like him because he's african and he's lazy (because he likes to play and go out all the time and take few classes with not that good grades) ) and he doesn't have a job yet. I like him because he's a christians with good manners, he's willing to wait for marriage to have sex, is playful, don't smoke or drink, makes me happy, really likes me plus he said that he will look for a job and applied for more classes. At my college we need to work in other to gain practice hours before we able to graduate. So I am 2 years in advanced because I work at school better and faster. Even though he started only 1 semester after me. My dad was killed last year so my mom would like to remarry and live her life, so she told me that she won't be able to keep me here for too long and I have to get married fast with 3-4 years and have kids and that this christian guy won't be able to marry me that soon so I should find someone else. My mom makes my life impossible since and keeps on treating to kick me out of the house. WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE!? WHAT SHOULD I DO? WHAT WOULD BE A CHRISTIAN WAY OF SOLVING THIS ISSUE? SHOULD I MOVE OUT AND GET A STUDIO SINCE I JUST GOT A JOB AND STAY WITH HIM? OR SHOULD I LIVE HIM AFTER A WEEK RELATIONSHIP AND LIVE WITH MY MOM? PLEASE HELP ANYONE! I am feeling so depressed from this situation.
  18. Sir/ ma, Please man or woman of God , how I can meet a good chrdostain lady.
  19. Hey guys, please could someone help me???? I am in a state. I'm becoming Christian due to my boyfriend of two years showing me church. when I met him you wouldn't know that he was a Christian. I was just as bad! We had both partied, got wasted, slept around, although I never cheated on him. I have newly found God when he invited me to church and really want to follow him. He keeps putting pressure to keep sleeping with me when I don't want to. im seriously now a jealous person because on my birthday he decided to go out with friends and ended kissing another girl. I constantly find he's been lying to me about drinking or who he's with. He's messaging girls behind my back and it kills me. Through all of this he still goes to church and acts like a really good person! He told me I can't tell anyone that he cheated even when I had no one to talk to. He's been abusive just last week he pulled my hair during an argument because him and his friend were looking at naked women on the phone. He smashed ny phone up when he was angry which stopped me having contact with people when I was vulnerable. I thought he had changed but little things happen like that girl tonight. I made a mistake and in anger messaged her asking if something was going on. I love him to bits and am so scared il loose him and be alone. Through everything he can treat me like the best person ever and makes me feel complete. I don't want to lose him but I feel like il always be in this situation and its reading my heart. What do I do? To add to this I have none of my own friends. They are all his!
  20. In Joshua's day, before crossing the Jordan River and moving into their inheritance, God said to the people, "Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the Lord will do wonders among you" (Joshua 3:5). This is an exhortation for us today! DRAW NEAR TO GOD The word consecrate, in Hebrew, is actually a relational term. "Qadash" means to separate or set yourself apart unto God. God's heart isn't, "Clean up your act so I can restore and bless you." He says instead, "Come to Me so I can bless you." BIG DIFFERENCE! His love is free, not earned. "Qadash"(set apart to Him), is actually the root word for holy (qodesh). Being "holy" isn't the result of or defined as "being good enough?" Rather it is the nature (qodesh) we receive from our union with Him (qadash), which motivates us to good works and a refusal to sin. We must be careful, then, that when we set out to prepare ourselves for a move of God's Spirit, we do not move into a legalistic works mentality, trying to accomplish separation and holiness in our own abilities; rather, we draw near to God inrelationship. There is another word in Scripture that also means separation, which we often confuse with consecration and holiness. "Nazir", from which we get the word Nazarite, means to be separate from. Nazir implies that we are separating ourselves away from something, as in sin, or the Nazarite vow of separation from certain activities. Qadash implies that we are separating ourselves unto, or drawing near to God. And this is where we must always start in our walk with Him. Samson was a Nazarite and lived a life separated from certain things. There is never any indication in Scripture, however, that he was separated unto, or walking closely with God. When Delilah entered the picture, since Samson was attempting holiness in his own strength, not by drawing near to the Lord, He did not have the strength to resist temptation. The Lord desires to raise up men and women of prayer and radical devotion through which He can release a greater "Great Awakening" and shift the course of nations today. To be a part of this, however, we must be willing to comply with what God requires of us: Prepare ourselves through drawing near. A SEASON OF SEPARATION The Lord is inviting you to enter into a season where you separate yourself unto Him in an extra special way: 1. Take time to inquire of the Lord as to what this means for you. 2. Things will shift if you increase your devotion time from 15 to 30 minutes each day. 3. Doors will open if you fast one lunch per week to spend that time with the Lord. 4. You will experience breakthrough if you put on some worship music and commune with the Lord as you go about your daily chores. 5. For 15 minutes a day, invite Him to walk with you around your backyard or sit beside you on your porch. If you rearrange your busy schedule over the next few weeks to pray and fast and spend more time in worship and the Word, your life will radically change. No matter what level of relationship you currently enjoy with the Lord, He wants to transform you into a more passionate and zealous Believer. As you draw into His depths, His cleansing stream will prepare you to advance in His PURPOSE for your life. ALBERT FINCH MINISTRY
  21. Allow me to formally introduce myself to you: My name is Harrison Okoyibo and I am a married man who is passionate about helping others both online/offline. I am an ordinary guy who enjoys living life to the fullest. I love to travel and meet people, and I enjoy having quality conversations related to religion, family, parenting, marketing, and making a living writing online. Shalom!
  22. The problem: Man threatens with suicide if the woman tries to leave him and she can't stand that he die, so she stays with him. This man is also lying about things and hiding things and is abusive and he is not a christian but the woman loves him very much as the man does too love her. They are engaged, but not married yet. He has already tried to suicide and always threatens to do it or even try it if there is any kind of drama going on. But if she would want to breakup with him how could she do it since there is a risk that he dies? The man lives in another country so it's even more harder to get help to him. I'd like to have some christian opinions to this subject!
  23. roadway to #relationshipgoals? Question: how do you maintain a good relationship?
  24. Sorry if I didn't do this right, I'm still not entirely sure how this site works.. But here it goes. I was in a relationship with this man for over three years. At first, we were godly. Happy. Healthy. Then, I went off my depression medication (my mom said to come off of it because it made me gain weight) and I started spiraling down back into a chemically embalanced life. We started fighting, I had trust issues, I didn't think things through, and because I was sinning, he started sinning.. We started having premarital sex. Things got worse. We fought more. We stopped going to church. We started falling apart. Then, we ended up even moving in together.. No one in my family or his tried to stop us, so we just did it. It felt wrong right away. We treated each other badly, and eventually we broke up and I moved out. It only lasted maybe six months, and I felt like it was God trying to tell me that I couldn't live like that any more and bring us back to Him. We've been trying to work things out. But is it possible to repent of our sins and have a godly relationship again after sinning before if we both want to turn our lives around? Should we seek counseling from a pastor? I'm wanting to go back on my medication because depression runs in my family, and I don't feel normal without it. I don't care about the weight gain any more, this isn't worth it. I love this man so much. Can someone please pray for us and give me some advice? How can I rebuild this and make things right again while still being a better Christian?
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