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Hello there, it's been a while since I posted here. I went through alot of change since the last post, but to be honest it feels like my situation has only gotten worse. My current understanding is that I have toxic family members that are being more invasive and actively getting involved with my personal life and poisoning potential relationships that I make personally. What leads me to believe this was the several personal confrontations and arguments with them last year that tuned for the worst, and them making subtle hints that they know more about me than I thought they knew. The family knows me personally my entire life, they know I have been a complete loner with no social experience and all the bad stuff I did they don't mind to gossip about it like they're keeping a roster waiting to expose it to the next person I talk to. My experience the past two years have been terrifying with jobs and involvement with church ministries, and the only explanation is that they have had some involvement. I told you all the last time when I worked, they used to snooped my room while at work to find some sort of dirt to gossip through the family, and several times they did make stuff blow up. I changed locks and now they're using gossip to ruin my relationships outside the family as well. Somehow they're using this tool as a standard to keep me in this terrible situation. Of all the corrupt stuff that goes on in our family, I don't know why I am a target(maybe easy target?). I haven't even done half the stuff most people in the family committed and still feel like I'm waking on eggshells See, what most people fear about building a social life is if the other person will like them in the end, and then that person also finds confidence after some social opportunities with trial and error. What I have is family members that are ACTIVELY sharing my personal life entirely to the new communities I meet before I even get to know them personally. Right now am talking to another woman for the second time in my life and so far feel like relatives have already compromised this relationship. I don't feel like I can truly be honest with her and feels like she already been told about me in the questions and suggestions she asks me. One strong example that relatives may be monitoring me was this past weekend, I told no one that I was going to the city for a meetup to talk to complete strangers from an online website about computer stuff, really mechanical computer keyboards. Somehow relatives knew about it and the ones that I do not get along with was the first to call me about it, which scared me how fast they knew. I even had a social media account under a vague pseudonym get attention with random people who knew stuff about me, talking about odd stuff like the area where I lived to my involvement with my church. Turned out a relative somehow knew about that account which I deleted. I faced the same things with the past two jobs. The former job led to harassment and other employees somehow eavesdropping on my personal conversations during breask, got to the point that they left their materials in my work area and I went to my supervisors about it. They wanted me to come in that following Monday to asses the situation. I could not believe that my relatives would leak stuff to my work which I was harassed for. Usually stuff like this a handful of times would be normal for the average Joe, but this have been consistent with me for the past two years. Right now Hopefully this will not be a life thing. What I did do before some of these instances to get my facts right was research on possible ways this could be happening, and found out that smartphones are basically spying devices. Somehow Just knowing your phone number/service provider anyone can track calls, texts, GPS and phone activity without any extensive work(three relatives actually brag about how they can track someone with just their number). Heck, even all a person needs to snoop on you is a good connection with someone who works for your phone service provider. I have an iPhone and went into detail about such potential activity. Apple Store and my service provider argued with the scam that "iPhones are immune to viruses like spyware", but my experience has suggested otherwise. Last year I joined a ministry at our local church that I tried several times before to join in. After finally joining, the initial two months were cool, they shown me the inns and outs on operation during services and helped out on some projects during the months up to December. Of course word got around the family that I am involved in the church. There wasn't strong evidence that there was something going on at the moment, but I did notice that members started to become passive with me, but that was no big deal. Somehow after another two more weeks they began to mention personal stuff about me and brought up stuff that I never shared, stuff that my family would only know. This went on for another month and felt like mind games the moment I make it into the door of the ministry. I backslid out of the service and haven't been back yet, mainly because the members were completely ignoring me to the point I had to force their attention and they were fake with me in the end. Three months after I left they sent a text this past week that they missed me and was worried. I replied back that I was sorry and was going through some mental stuff and would be there the weekend. They did not even respond to my text and left me hanging. I did meet them after service and they still acted like they didn't even know me, like nothing changed between us so I just left again. A coincidence that same day's sermon the pastors made statements that they knew such activity exists in the church, but don't let that be a reason to leave a ministry or something so I might try and go back and try another ministry when I find myself right. Other stuff that I tried to help with my situation is asked one of the pastors at church for guidance. After the first meet, I couldn't get in contact with him again. I've read some self help books that did not help much. I have Joseph Prince's book "Right Believing" and read it twice with various notes and still didn't help. There was a week long test the book gave to look immediately to Jesus and his grace whenever negative thoughts came, I really had a hard time with that. So I had two psychiatrist work with me over the situation and neither helped, only prescribed me meds that severely sedates me throughout the day and my last checkup they didn't even adjust the dosage. So I prayed over the situation since his entire situation with toxic relatives have been going on for five years now, but never actually was resolved. Right now it feels like the enemy has been continually victorious over my life. I'm afraid to use my phone to do anything now. I suggested getting a regular"dumb phone", but was told it's very vulnerable to tapping and monitoring. It's hard to pass this over just as some mental illness, because when I shown all my texts to my mother and sister from these relatives and communities they can't even make sense of it. One last thought is something my political science teacher taught us, was that people are naturally factious and oppressive, they joined together for a common hate or organization to oppress others. Examples such as Nazi Germany, KKK and even have been very popular in smaller instances especially online in the form of some stalking or cyber bullying(guaranteed what might be happening to me). I'm just really lost, because I'm the only person this is happening to in the family and since other's don't have the same situation or experienced it, they're feeding me some fallacy of composition because this is an abnormal situation. Thoughts?