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Within a Christian church, I’m trying to seek Godly Wisdom when it comes to venting about somebody else’s bad behavior. The reason being is that I do Not want to end up gossiping. However, I would want to vent about somebody else’s bad behavior in order to seek spiritual advice/counsel/comfort. When it become gossipy then it’s bad but if venting about said problems leads to a better church then it’s ok. I struggle to know when and when Not to, and how and how Not to do the aforementioned actions. ( Side Note: This just came to me now, but I suppose James 1:19 will shed some light It can be sort of deduced that James 1:19 indicates that we should be careful & cautious about complaining about others which is indicated by the word "slow". ) What biblical scriptures / passages would help us get better discernment & guidance when facing the aforementioned challenges?

Do I even have a family? There are many cousins on my father's side. I was close to them until my mother died in 2000. Then they stopped speaking to me for no real reason. The problem is most are Catholic with some (supposedly) Born Again Christians. When did God rescind what Jesus said about not being angry at a brother. He didn't. But these people have held a grudge 17 yrs. I don't even know why. There is 1 female cousin left on my mother's side and we grew up like she was a sister. I have no real siblings, so M is the closest thing I've had to a sister. M had 2 brothers who were like my brothers but they died and 1 was only 45. At least M texts me but yesterday we had a bit of a fight. M was raised Catholic but she fell away. 30 yrs ago her oldest brother brought a new age guru into our family and M married him. She seems to hate the Bible, Christianity, and maybe even God. But M is a flake and I'm not going to presume to know how God will deal with her. She won't tell me what she believes, nowadays, which makes me angry but I always forgive her. She really is a flake. She says she often sees the ghosts of our family although only for 5 to 10 seconds. However, she claims they speak to her in her dreams. She likes this. I wouldn't. She considers herself psychic, I guess she's a cherry-picking believer in psychic stuff. To recap, on my father's side are 20+ cousins who are either devout Catholics or Born Again Christians yet they all hold a 17 yr grudge against me for trivial reasons. I've called them they won't call back. On my mother's side is 1 cousin who thinks the Bible is mythology but she stays in touch with me. I sure wouldn't want to be God when we all die and He has to sort this out. He could just throw us all into hell that's the easy thing to do. Thank you to anyone who read this.

I just want to vent a bit thank you. There is a family member who is a bit of a drama queen. She only calls me when she is freaking out over something. There is always an issue of some kind. I just listen to what she tells me is going on, offer some advice, that is about all I can do. But at times it can be draining on me. I freeze when I see her name pop up on the phone and hesitate to answer. As I know it is going to be another issue. There have been a few times when I just let the phone go to voice mail because I was in the middle of something and I just could not stop to deal with yet another drama filled issue of hers. I guess it is not very Christian of me to feel this way. But I am human. There is hardly ever a call from her asking me how I am doing, or what is going on in my life. It is always about her issues. Sometimes I feel bad I can't be of more help. Sometimes I feel bad that I don't pick up the phone. But sometimes it is just too much. Well as I said I just wanted to vent a bit about this to unload what I am feeling. Thanks for listing. God Bless.