Guest HisG Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 I'd just like some thoughts on the subject of marrying even though the father of your children is still alive. I'm not after heated discussions, just thoughts/opinions. Thanks heaps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hall7 Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 75 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,385 Content Per Day: 0.32 Reputation: 491 Days Won: 5 Joined: 04/25/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted February 24, 2014 I think the best answer to that question would be from God. We probably each have different opinions about that subject but it really is between you and God. Whatever the Holy Spirit guides you to do, what feels right in your heart would probably be your answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KC02 Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 10 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 447 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 14 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/26/1971 Share Posted February 24, 2014 I assume you are divorced. Jesus said it's not lawful to remarry except for fornication (Mat. 19:9). Unfortunately, Christians -- even scholars, can't form a consensus as to what fornication means. Is it simple adultery? Is it when a spouse leaves you for another? Could it mean that your lady wasn't faithful before or during the betrotment? So yes -- you will get a wide range of opinions here. I can't tell you that I have all the answers, but I can promise you I have studied this subject meticulously. I am guessing that your husband has moved on and is with another woman. In that case, yes, you are free to remarry. I take the middle of the road in the interpretation. With that being said, it is not God's will to divorce and remarry. Jesus took a very conservative view on this issue. God is a God of reconciliation. Please don't rush into remarriage without much prayer and guidance from your church family elders. I will warn you that if you remarry, some churches will not allow you to become a member (based upon a misunderstanding of Scripture).. If anyone happens to be in this situation, please leave and find a church that will love and support you. If you feel like God has a calling on your life you need to give this some thought. Though it may be lawful to remarry, it is not without cost. So pray, pray, pray. The only problem is that love is a powerful emotion. Sometimes we can feel "led" to do things God is not in. You really do need a strong pastor or Christian leader to help you sort this out. I'm just throwing some things out there. I hope it's helpful and you don't feel like I am beating up on you. I am praying that God will give you wisdom, knowledge and clear direction in your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 593 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 55,868 Content Per Day: 7.55 Reputation: 27,618 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted February 24, 2014 I'd just like some thoughts on the subject of marrying even though the father of your children is still alive. I'm not after heated discussions, just thoughts/opinions. Thanks heaps. From what I read in the New Testament my opinion would be that it would depend on why you are not still together..... if he was unfaithful to you, you are free to do whatever.... Even if he was unfaithful to you I would be careful for that in itself might question your taste in men... and I truly don't mean that as a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjp34652 Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 448 Content Per Day: 0.10 Reputation: 156 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/19/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted February 24, 2014 I'd just like some thoughts on the subject of marrying even though the father of your children is still alive. I'm not after heated discussions, just thoughts/opinions. Thanks heaps. Why remarry? Is it for love, financial security, social position, a sense that you cannot cope with the pressures of life or to please God? Many women have been divorced and never remarried. Never went back. And didn't do too badly on their own either. They were stronger than they thought they were. There are risks in any marriage, especially one that recaps an old tire. I knew a woman who remarried. The fellow was a nice man, but was never anything close to being a father. He never spent what is referred to as 'quality time' with his new family. On the other hand his old wife used to beat him(*) - so I suppose a different household was a relief. I know it would be to me if I'd escaped a situation like that. On the other hand I know a woman who raise two kids and never remarried. She did rather well for herself and managed to live comfortably into her old age. Living single has risks. This cannot be treated lightly. But remarriage carries risks not just to the woman but to the kids. Some would rather avoid it. There is also the question as to whether remarriage would please God. As has been stated earlier, many scholars are divided on the issue. The same scholars are also divided in their own households (Dr. Charles Stanley of 1st Baptist Church of Atlanta, for example. You know - the TV guy.) One question that hasn't been raised is that of finding solace for one's aching lonely heart. Such troubles afflict all humanity from time to time. Knee jerk solutions sometimes aggravate the circumstances. Marriage isn't the only way to remedy loneliness. God is, after all, the ultimate source for mercy in any situation. Seek Him and His kingdom first and answers will come. I cannot stress this point too much. and that's just me, hollering from the choir loft.... (*) Nobody seems to care about physical and mental abuse suffered by men. Men are throwaway objects in American culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KC02 Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 10 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 447 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 14 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/26/1971 Share Posted February 24, 2014 Well not so fast. They asked Jesus if it was o.k. to put away your wife for any reason. That was the BIG debate in those days. Only some of the Jews believed that you could divorce your wife for any reason under the sun. But Jesus clearly came down on the conservative side, which disagreed with divorces for any reason. Jesus' answer was so conservative that the disciples thought it would therefore be best not to marry at all. I understand the cultural context very well. There is no reason to believe that Jesus was speaking only for that time and place. I admit, I know my own humanity. I fault no one for divorce. I can't promise I will never divorce; relationships can only give so much and they are not always puppy dogs and rainbows. I'm not here to bash anyone. We have a 50 percent divorce rate in the USA. Is it any better than it was 2000 years ago? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hall7 Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 75 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,385 Content Per Day: 0.32 Reputation: 491 Days Won: 5 Joined: 04/25/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted February 24, 2014 Jesus clearly said that we can divorce for one reason and one reason only which is sexual immorality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Butero Posted February 24, 2014 Share Posted February 24, 2014 It is not a question of the Father of your children being alive. It is about the reason for the divorce. Was it because your husband cheated on you? The only Biblical grounds for divorce and re-marriage is adultery and abandonment in some cases. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hall7 Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 75 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,385 Content Per Day: 0.32 Reputation: 491 Days Won: 5 Joined: 04/25/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted February 24, 2014 2.Matthew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingdomwitness Posted February 24, 2014 Group: Removed from Forums for Breaking Terms of Service Followers: 0 Topic Count: 57 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 359 Content Per Day: 0.09 Reputation: 36 Days Won: 1 Joined: 09/20/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1998 Share Posted February 24, 2014 I think the best answer to that question would be from God. We probably each have different opinions about that subject but it really is between you and God. Whatever the Holy Spirit guides you to do, what feels right in your heart would probably be your answer. Yeah! great answer Hall. It's mainly between you and God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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