Seekingguidance0023 Posted April 7, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/07/2014 Status: Offline Author Share Posted April 7, 2014 He does, he's an accountant. He owns a house and has his own car. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted April 7, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.81 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted April 7, 2014 First of all welcome to Worthy .Are you a Christian?Is your boyfriend a Christian?If you are a Christian have you given this to God and prayed about it?Is it possible that your boyfriend would go back to a homosexual relationship?That is very possible.Yes,it might make it less likely that you would get HIV but you could still get it.Have you done some research on what it is like to have HIV?There have been couples who have married even though one or both are dealing with the consequences of past sin and were not believers in Jesus Christ.These couples have since given their lives to God and have committed themselves to a monogamous relationship with God #1 in their lives and marriage.Are you prepared for that?As a Christian we are not to have sexual relationships outside of marriage.It sounds like your father loves you very much and wants you to be safe.I am older and my children are grown.There have been many times I have looked back at the past and wished I would have listened to my parents.At the time I was young and thought I knew it all.I knew nothing.If something inside of you is saying "no" I would take a real hard look at that.I did the same thing.I ignored my conscience.I have regretted it ever since. I will pray for you . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 8, 2014 Share Posted April 8, 2014 That's very true Other One, we go to church together. I don't think he's a born again believer. I should read the Bible with him. I've spoken to his doctor and she said we could have kids and I could take medicine so the baby wouldn't get HIV at birth. I feel like everything keeps saying, no, don't be with him First, welcome to Worthy. Second: If your boyfriend isn't a believer, the Bible is very clear that believers should not marry unbelievers. Sex outside the marriage relationship is off limits for believers as well. So you are correct in that there is a message there in that bolded sentence that you wrote. I get it that your situation is tough, but that is part of being a believer. Sometimes we have some very tough decisions to make -- and they should be God honoring ones. Go with God's way of doing things, as that's always the better choice even if it doesn't "feel" good. Remember that we walk by faith and not by sight or feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 8, 2014 Share Posted April 8, 2014 Welcome~! ~ Praying~! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien224 Posted April 8, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 82 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,762 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 869 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/09/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/24/1964 Share Posted April 8, 2014 Welcome! Praying for you. I really do not believe you can take medications to keep you or your children from getting aids/hiv. If this were possible there would be A cure. If it seems to you everyone and everything is telling you not to be with this man, LISTEN. Your family loves you very much.God loves you (and your boyfriend) more. I can't give advice. But I can pray. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwikphilly Posted April 8, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 96 Topic Count: 307 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 18,136 Content Per Day: 4.63 Reputation: 27,816 Days Won: 327 Joined: 08/03/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted April 8, 2014 Blessings seeking Welcome to Worthy,,,I am so happy that God has lead you here to be with us & for very good reasons,Praise the Lord.I think you already know the answers to the questions you are asking & perhaps you just need support & encouragement to follow through? Your dad loves you & wants what is best for you,no father would want there child to be exposed to anything that could harm them,let alone lose their life....our Father in Heaven wants the very best for us also(even more so)& so He warns us of the dangers of being unequally yoked.............you made a statement that was very odd to me,you said you don't THINK your boyfriend is a born again believer,I don't understand how you can say he is your best friend & yet not know where he stands with God & what he believes? The issue of HIV can be overcome & lived with as many married couples often do,first & foremost is the sex outside of marriage & the issue that he may or may not be an unbeliever(what is he?) you are clearly & willfully disobeying God,I do believe you must get your own house in order before even considering any relationships...............go to your Father & go to your father,they are both there for you & love you(so are we) With love-in Christ,Kwik Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seekingguidance0023 Posted April 10, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/07/2014 Status: Offline Author Share Posted April 10, 2014 He is my best friend. He is not a born again believer. Although he attends church, which I'm sure means nothing to anyone on here. I think I might have a conversation with him about it, see if he'll agree to attend church regularly and become a born again believer, if not I will end the relationship. He has agreed that we be monogamous and he said he would never be with a man again. It hurts, I'm in so much pain, so lost. I have prayed about it. I am a Christian. I just want to cry and wish I never had dated him. But I want to be with him. I can't see my life without him. This is so stressful. I don't know what to do and I'm starting to feel sad and depressed. I only have myself to blame. Seems like I like drama and complicating my life. How does one love themself? Maybe I don't love myself. I don't want to be alone. But I feel more alone now than ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 10, 2014 Share Posted April 10, 2014 Those feelings you described are real, so I'd reccommend giving all that to the Lord in prayer, and spend some more time with Him in the Bible. No. Its not easy. Jesus said in this world we would have tribulation (trouble) but that He has overcome the world. I'm a guy, so I'm going to tell you beware of setting conditions - he may "play" Christian to keep you happy and maintain the relationship. Before you get mad: I'm not attacking the man's character. I'm stating a fact of life that the lost can be very good play actors when they feel it necessary to get or maintain something they want. We're all fallen creatures, and all of us are selfish by nature, which is why we need to be saved. (Yes, I include myself in that too.) One reason God doesn't want believers marrying unbelievers is that their direction of life is opposite of one another. Unbelievers are headed for destruction and believers toward everlasting life, and those two will never mix -- and will lead only to more misery in marriage. There are many who have made that mistake, including some here on this board. I've met a few myself over the years and its not a picture I'd want anything to do with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GlidingWings Posted April 27, 2014 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 169 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 345 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 107 Days Won: 4 Joined: 11/24/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted April 27, 2014 I think your father did this mostly because he cares about you and your life. Your father loves you as you also love this person. But he is not willing to risk your life whoever this person may be. Study the word love. It has different meanings depending on who or what is being loved. But agape is to be the highest love which is that of God himself and our love towards God. Th Bible says no greater love than he Jesus who laid his life down for his friends. Imagine how your father would feel if you had died of HIV or any other serious disease. Even just to be infected by it. Personally I would not take that risk. . because in life I have already taken too many risks sleeping with women from one relationship to the next. I could have always contracted something. It is not a sin however to choose to want to be with this person if God meant it to be for the better for both of you. But know though of the high risks you would be taking. While the bible teaches do not be unequally yoked or be with someone who is not of the faith does not mean a couple has to divorce. So long as they still can work in the marriage. One was converted and the other was not. But personally I would get out if this spouse hated Jesus or church. I believe God would understand my reason for getting out. Other wise I would try to work it out. . I can’t tell you for sure what to do or not to do. It's still your life to make these choices. Think about all the pros and cons about this situation. Will you benefit more or have more problems to deal with? In my case as much as it would hurt I would have to find someone else. This person after all made some really bad choices. . I would wonder if this person would ever again to be tempted to sleep with a same sex partner again. But if you decide that you do want to be with this person then I hope that God would help the both of you to manage through all these things. If this be Gods will and his plan for your life and his. . I can’t place a decision but rather just option to choose from. . lean unto God to his understanding. Whatever you choose I hope all things will work well. . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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