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My Name is Joe. I am currently in my last week of being a high school freshmen. I go to a very small school, of which there are only 32 kids in the high school. Last Friday, the teacher in charge of detention was handing out detention notices to everyone who had received detention. I did not receive a slip and I personally spent five minutes talking to ensure myself that I had not received detention. He promised me that I was not on the list.

 

Then, the next morning I got an email from him saying he had lied and that I did have detention. Now on the last day of school, I have to go to detention after school ends. I have detention for the stupidest reason, too. Out of the 250 days I went to school this entire year, I walked in a minute late on three of those days. That is enough to get me detention. My school is apparently "Christian", but the teachers literally act like the spawn of the devil. They are always yelling at me, always assigning me extra work, always riding me, always ridiculing me, and always telling me I'm worthless and hurting my feelings. I hear that in detention it is ten times worse.

 

The thing about it is that during parent teacher conferences all of the teachers act like angels and they are super nice to the parents, telling them that we are all wonderful students, so my parents have never believed me when I told them what terrible people were in charge of my education. Finally, I just ended up completely revolting against my parents and enrolled in a new school next year without their consent, because I have a life to live. But all of these teachers are SO bad and hurtful to me, and I literally hate them for treating me like a bag of scum.

 

In 4 days, these people will no longer have jurisdiction over me, and I want revenge. I want to tell them how horrible they were. I want to wring their necks. I'm having such a hard time just leaving them be and forgetting they existed, because, although it's terrible, I literally want them dead. I'm not overreacting, I would not be surprised if they were demons hypnotizing all of the parents to send their children here.

 

In my anger, I've sort of started a student revolt, taking a third of the high school with me this year, and another half after next year. But how can I control my anger against these freaks? How can I show them that their wrong? How do I resist the urge to stinkin shoot them?!?! I am not an angry person, but I have been abused so badly, I can't imagine what God wants me to do with this situation. HELP!!!!

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I know that God does not want you seeking revenge. I know that God does not want you to hurt anyone. Leave them up to the Lord to deal with. Pray and ask Him to ease your pain, to ease your anger. Do not take revenge yourself. 

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Hello Joe, 

 

When we take things into our own hands, revenge never helps us. 

In fact, it only makes us more bitter, it's not what God would want us to do. 

 

God is a God of love. 

 

You say you are not an angry person , so I am praying that you are just verbally letting off steam.

 

In your post you say that " You have enrolled in a new school for next year."

 

This shows that you are not worthless or they would not have accepted you.

 

Put this bad experience behind you,

move forward ; show others by studying hard and obtaining good grades what you are made of. 

 

Now is the time to pray and leave the past in the past. 

 

Do you go to a youth group at your local church?  If so, why not have a word with the youth worker, sharing a problem always helps us. 

 

Joe you are loved , God loves you . 

 

God bless you Joe. 

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What I see from this situation, is that it's faith time, Joe.  God says that he who touches one of his, touches the apple of His eye.  He also says that vengeance belongs to Him.  Now who can do more damage, Him or you?  If I were you, I would pray for your teachers, because you don't know what's coming on them - pray that God will be merciful to them and not be too hard on them.  

 

You're right; you have a life to live, but nobody has all the answers.  Your parents are doing what they think is best for you - like you said, how would they think any differently of the teachers if they act so nicely in front of them?

 

Did you pray before enrolling in the other school?  Did God guide you to it?  You never know - you might be jumping out of the pan only to land in the fire... Let God guide you always.  Seek His leading so that you will always be at peace, whatever the situation.  Even now, pray that God will place you in the right place, whether its where you enrolled or elsewhere... wherever He chooses, that He bless your time at there, that you will feel release and freedom there, and that you will be taught the truth - as this world is busy teaching lies to children.  

 

If you need to talk more, you can pm anyone who's responded to you, including me, keep going in this thread, and there's 24/7 chat with someone always available there just to talk about any old thing.  

 

[Father God, I bring Joe before you, I pray that you steer him as a ship right into Your everlasting arms; that you will hold him, comfort him, support him, and strengthen him by the power of Your love.  Place him exactly where you want him, and that as your vessel, he would allow You to work in him and through him to share Your love with those around him - teachers and students alike.  Bless him in every way, in abundance.  Bless his family life, resolve any residual issues between him and his parents I pray, let there be total peace in his home.  In Jesus' mighty and powerful Name do I pray - be glorified in all this, Lord God Almighty!  AMEN!]

 

God bless you Joe, and welcome to Worthy :)

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Hi, Joe. Welcome to Worthy! My heart goes out to you, man. Really, I understand. I may be a few months shy of 60 years old, but I remember in high school, the harassment I put up with... Both by staff and students. I looked much like this recent picture of me here, minus the beard of course. Those were turbulent times of the late 60s/early 70s. I was kinda short and skinny... An easy target. Not every one hassled me. I did have some friends and they stood up for me, thank God. Fortunately, I didn't shove back and never got physically hurt. But I had some throw rocks at me, spit at and got a lot of cat-calls. You know, whistled at like I was a girl. My most courageous self-defense, was to comment back, "Aw, c'mon man... I'm too ugly to look like a girl." But it did hurt my feelings. Bad!

 

Anyway, that was a long time ago and this is supposed to be about you. I just thought I'd share how I do relate to you, even though times have changed, girls and guys get targeted and put down in school... Many times for no apparent reason. It's all in the media. You wrote a lengthy and articulate post. You're an intelligent young man. But it does concern me how you're dealing with your anger. I got plenty upset too, at your age. And maybe in my heart, I wanted to get even with the some of the people that brought on a lot of emotional pain. But I didn't let hatred over-run my head about it. I got saved in my Junior year and they called us, "Jesus Freaks." Sound familiar? Joe, it would break the hearts of millions here in America, if you did something that's becoming all too common in the news papers and on TV. 

 

You said you're attending a Christian high school, isn't that right? From your description, it seems more like a military school. Not that I'm in any disrespect of academy or our veterans... Not at all! It was Memorial Day and I have a lot of respect for nation's defenders, past and present. Absolutely! But Joe, you didn't mention anything about your personal relationship with God. So, I'm assuming hopefully, Jesus is your Saviour. Is He? You're in desperate need, regardless. I got a couple of really great scriptures here and they do apply to all believers. Even you, Joe. Check it out, they have the same power and meaning, from day they were written. I'm praying for you.

 

God bless you!

David/BeauJangles

 

The heart of your Lord before you...

(KJV) Romans 12:19  Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves but rather, give place unto wrath; for it is written,Vengeance is mine; I will repay, sayeth the Lord.

 

Your heart before the Lord...

(KJV) Luke 6: 36-37: Be therefore, merciful, as your Father is also merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged; condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned; forgive, and ye shall be forgiven;

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The heart of your Lord before you...

(KJV) Romans 12:19  Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves but rather, give place unto wrath; for it is written,Vengeance is mine; I will repay, sayeth the Lord.

 

Your heart before the Lord...

(KJV) Luke 6: 36-37: Be therefore, merciful, as your Father is also merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged; condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned; forgive, and ye shall be forgiven;

 

See, Joe?  The Lord confirms His Word!  Take courage, have faith, and hold on to God's hand as He takes you through your situation His way.  Blessings :)

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In my anger, I've sort of started a student revolt, taking a third of the high school with me this year, and another half after next year. But how can I control my anger against these freaks? How can I show them that their wrong? How do I resist the urge to stinkin shoot them?!?! I am not an angry person, but I have been abused so badly, I can't imagine what God wants me to do with this situation. HELP!!!!

What do you mean that you are talking the students with you....   do you mean to the other school?

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Welcome~!

 

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But how can I control my anger against these freaks? How can I show them that their wrong? How do I resist the urge to stinkin shoot them?!?! I am not an angry person, but I have been abused so badly, I can't imagine what God wants me to do with this situation. HELP!!!!

 

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Look

 

To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men. Titus 3:2

 

Up

 

And in that day ye shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you.And in that day ye shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you. John 16:23

 

Beloved

 

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27

 

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The LORD bless thee, and keep thee:
The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:
The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.

 

And they shall put my name upon the children of Israel; and I will bless them. Numbers 6:24-27

 

Love, Your Brother Joe

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Verbal abuse to you is wrong just as is retaliation. It is all harassment and that is against the law. Get one of your friends to secretly film the harassment your getting from teachers and show it to your parents and the dept of education in your state so it can be dealt with.  All kids have the right to not be harnessed at school and the teachers have the right to be treated with respect from students. 

 

 

This is one thing a student uprising won't benefit you as much as showing your teachers employers or goverment officials evidence of child harassment. The peaceful smart way is the best way here and will benefit you most. Any abuse should not be tolerated but always reported so it can stop for future students if this is the case.

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Verbal abuse to you is wrong just as is retaliation. It is all harassment and that is against the law. Get one of your friends to secretly film the harassment your getting from teachers and show it to your parents and the dept of education in your state so it can be dealt with.  All kids have the right to not be harnessed at school and the teachers have the right to be treated with respect from students. 

 

 

This is one thing a student uprising won't benefit you as much as showing your teachers employers or goverment officials evidence of child harassment. The peaceful smart way is the best way here and will benefit you most. Any abuse should not be tolerated but always reported so it can stop for future students if this is the case.

 

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