biblerover Posted April 21, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/09/2010 Status: Offline Share Posted April 21, 2016 My husband of thirty years says he loves me but sits around and plays video games for hours when he is not at work. He also had thousands of pictures of sexy women in Photobucket which he deleted most after I protested, supposedly they were for posting in a forum called Survivalist Boards and had to be in Photobucket for them to be able to post them on the forum, he says it was just joking around with the guys, but each month so far this year I have found more pictures of scantly dressed women on his phone. He messages women he does not know like on Facebook a pretty woman holding a gun, he private messaged her "Rover said to tell you hello", he calls himself Rover. He emails with women on a rare occasion and is a little to comfy with them.. He says he does not cheat but he looks at women even when I am with him in town. A lot of the spam on his gmail account is from sites that introduce you to and hook you up with women. He says it's my imagination and the pictures mean nothing and says I'm paranoid and often blames me or gets mad when I don't believe him. What should be my view of him? Am I paranoid or is there a real reason for concern? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningGlory Posted April 21, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1,022 Topics Per Day: 0.16 Content Count: 39,193 Content Per Day: 6.11 Reputation: 9,977 Days Won: 78 Joined: 10/01/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted April 21, 2016 3 hours ago, biblerover said: My husband of thirty years says he loves me but sits around and plays video games for hours when he is not at work. He also had thousands of pictures of sexy women in Photobucket which he deleted most after I protested, supposedly they were for posting in a forum called Survivalist Boards and had to be in Photobucket for them to be able to post them on the forum, he says it was just joking around with the guys, but each month so far this year I have found more pictures of scantly dressed women on his phone. He messages women he does not know like on Facebook a pretty woman holding a gun, he private messaged her "Rover said to tell you hello", he calls himself Rover. He emails with women on a rare occasion and is a little to comfy with them.. He says he does not cheat but he looks at women even when I am with him in town. A lot of the spam on his gmail account is from sites that introduce you to and hook you up with women. He says it's my imagination and the pictures mean nothing and says I'm paranoid and often blames me or gets mad when I don't believe him. What should be my view of him? Am I paranoid or is there a real reason for concern? The old saying 'where there's smoke there's fire' comes to mind. What your husband is doing is disrespectful to you. Is he a believer? You could remind him of this passage in God's word: Matthew 5:28 “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FresnoJoe Posted April 21, 2016 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 208 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 8,651 Content Per Day: 1.17 Reputation: 5,761 Days Won: 4 Joined: 01/31/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/04/1943 Share Posted April 21, 2016 Welcome~! ~ Praying~! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biblerover Posted April 22, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/09/2010 Status: Offline Author Share Posted April 22, 2016 Thank you, I am not really sure how to reply to each of your post, like you did mine, but thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FresnoJoe Posted April 22, 2016 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 208 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 8,651 Content Per Day: 1.17 Reputation: 5,761 Days Won: 4 Joined: 01/31/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/04/1943 Share Posted April 22, 2016 3 hours ago, biblerover said: Thank you, I am not really sure how to reply to each of your post, like you did mine, but thank you. Hit The "Quote" Button Of The Post You Are Interested In And Type Below The Box That Comes Up So Easy Even A Joe Can Do It, lol~! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien224 Posted April 25, 2016 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 82 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,762 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 869 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/09/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/24/1964 Share Posted April 25, 2016 Welcome praying. Not a good place to be. Makes you feel so worthless. If he is is chatting and emailing he may or may not be cheating but he is just a step a way. Pray for him. Trust God. He will lead you in the right direction. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martyr212 Posted April 25, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 51 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 33 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/05/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted April 25, 2016 This is a terrible situation that you are in. Pray for help with your marriage. Maybe suggest a marriage counselor to your husband because your marriage "deserves" it. There is an opportunity here for you to forgive his disrespectfullness towards you and enjoy many more years of a happy marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted April 25, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 596 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,043 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,788 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted April 25, 2016 On 4/21/2016 at 1:48 PM, biblerover said: Am I paranoid or is there a real reason for concern? I doubt that you are paranoid..... if you can manage try getting him to attend one of these weekends. These are not just for marriages that are in trouble, but for all people. We learned a lot from them..... and I can tell you that both of you need to learn some of the things that are there. Marriage is a two path thing and when you have been together for many years those paths can drift apart.... This weekend helps just about everyone get their paths back together. I'll leave it at that... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biblerover Posted April 28, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/09/2010 Status: Offline Author Share Posted April 28, 2016 On April 21, 2016 at 2:00 PM, MorningGlory said: The old saying 'where there's smoke there's fire' comes to mind. What your husband is doing is disrespectful to you. Is he a believer? You could remind him of this passage in God's word: Matthew 5:28 “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Ok, I figured this part out. I hit "quote" to be able to reply to what you said but I tried hitting the little heart to 'like" comments but it did not work. I don't know how to reply to peoples comments. Except for the "quote" thing that I discovered. I am not stupid i just have never done a forum before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biblerover Posted April 28, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/09/2010 Status: Offline Author Share Posted April 28, 2016 On April 25, 2016 at 8:58 AM, other one said: I doubt that you are paranoid..... if you can manage try getting him to attend one of these weekends. These are not just for marriages that are in trouble, but for all people. We learned a lot from them..... and I can tell you that both of you need to learn some of the things that are there. Marriage is a two path thing and when you have been together for many years those paths can drift apart.... This weekend helps just about everyone get their paths back together. I'll leave it at that... On April 25, 2016 at 8:58 AM, other one said: I doubt that you are paranoid..... if you can manage try getting him to attend one of these weekends. These are not just for marriages that are in trouble, but for all people. We On April 25, 2016 at 8:58 AM, other one said: I doubt that you are paranoid..... if you can manage try getting him to attend one of these weekends. These are not just for marriages that are in trouble, but for all people. We learned a lot from them..... and I can tell you that both of you need to learn some of the things that are there. Marriage is a two path thing and when you have been together for many years those paths can drift apart.... This weekend helps just about everyone get their paths back together. I'll leave it at that... Just read a lot of replays that I didm't know were there, no notifications except for the initial sign up notifications. I saw each post by each one of you, that you that you took the time to reply, thank you. Is everyone going to see this or just the woman who I hit "quote" on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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