Heavenunlimited Posted February 14, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 606 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 462 Days Won: 2 Joined: 01/20/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted February 14, 2017 If shes willing, she can be worked with, with The Lord, in therapy, or just counseling. There are christian counselors and therapists. To not be able to stand up for oneself is a low self esteem. And there probably lays alot behind it. Many that have this problem been having it bad at home, or many other negative experiences. I might also go down to a certain belief system where you start to believe youre unworthy or dont have a right to stand up it can be theyve heard it alot as small or from others. But everything can be worked with, with The Lord. It can change, it only takes willingness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willa Posted February 14, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 68 Topic Count: 185 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 14,224 Content Per Day: 3.34 Reputation: 16,647 Days Won: 30 Joined: 08/14/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted February 14, 2017 A pastor usually takes the word of an elder or deacon over that of a member. There are often false accusation made about them. So if you have no witnesses, it could be a lost cause. But if complaints are made often enough by enough people, he might be forced to listen. The scriptural way would be to go to the offender with the charge, then take someone with you, and then go to the pastor. But since you feel threatened by the guy I probably would not follow this. I would write a letter to the pastor detailing what happened and telling him that you sending a copy to the police and are filing a report with the police. You may find that others have reported him as well. You could ask for a restraining order. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kindle Posted February 14, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 53 Topic Count: 88 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 4,064 Content Per Day: 1.37 Reputation: 3,748 Days Won: 8 Joined: 02/23/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted February 14, 2017 2 hours ago, RustyAngeL said: No physiotherapy.She will never get it. She never learned how to stand up to anyone. She has no backbone, She has no gumption lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
preciouspearl Posted February 17, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 11 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 813 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 516 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/02/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/03/1987 Author Share Posted February 17, 2017 people are still replying? lol i stopped going to that church. :/ i dont know how i feel. im at my mom's church but still... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heavenunlimited Posted February 19, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 606 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 462 Days Won: 2 Joined: 01/20/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted February 19, 2017 On 14 February 2017 at 9:55 PM, Willa said: A pastor usually takes the word of an elder or deacon over that of a member. There are often false accusation made about them. So if you have no witnesses, it could be a lost cause. But if complaints are made often enough by enough people, he might be forced to listen. The scriptural way would be to go to the offender with the charge, then take someone with you, and then go to the pastor. But since you feel threatened by the guy I probably would not follow this. I would write a letter to the pastor detailing what happened and telling him that you sending a copy to the police and are filing a report with the police. You may find that others have reported him as well. You could ask for a restraining order. Yeah, tell them you go to the police immediately if its not seen to they surely wouldnt wait to take its serious just because its a deacon!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted February 19, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 99 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,036 Content Per Day: 7.97 Reputation: 21,377 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted February 19, 2017 As I have read through all these posts I am reminded of this verse 1 Corinthians 7:1 (KJV) [7:1] Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. In our sexually charged society I think this most necessitates use! I, as man, find no trust in my own self for I realize the constant bombardment of the society around me... yet having said this there is also in my Church family ladies who love me and I love (family wise) and when I see them I am moved to Hug them and they will kiss me on the cheek... there is no violation in my heart of wrong and it communicates in my heart to them that I hold no personal boundary but allow them next to my soul in trust and love! If any other spirit were to enter into this circle of communication I would sense it and I would not allow that closeness... For myself personally I am satisfied with this sort of intimacy as they are to me important just as family and I desire for them to know this that is in my heart for them... Love, Steven Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
preciouspearl Posted March 21, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 11 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 813 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 516 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/02/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/03/1987 Author Share Posted March 21, 2017 On 2/14/2017 at 6:05 PM, worthy said: She has no backbone, She has no gumption lol Maybe she was abused as a child too? We should try not to judge I never did tell the pastor btw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kindle Posted March 21, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 53 Topic Count: 88 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 4,064 Content Per Day: 1.37 Reputation: 3,748 Days Won: 8 Joined: 02/23/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted March 21, 2017 1 hour ago, preciouspearl said: Maybe she was abused as a child too? We should try not to judge I never did tell the pastor btw I don't Know you will have to ask Rusty. Ok Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
preciouspearl Posted March 21, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 11 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 813 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 516 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/02/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/03/1987 Author Share Posted March 21, 2017 3 hours ago, worthy said: I don't Know you will have to ask Rusty. Ok rusty doesnt have to tell me. im just stating a possible explanation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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